Wedding invite and plus one (or not)

skateykatey

Hi

just after some opinions as to whether I'm right to be slightly miffed or not.

Basically I'm getting married in January away from home so we're having the reception party two weeks after the wedding.

All the invites have gone out and whilst we're not really limited to numbers (the function venue holds about 200 people max) we paying for a buffet of $10 per head.

The invites stated the name of the person invited and made no mention of plus ones or guests. Basically, to me, if your name wasn't on the invite you weren't invited.

However, I've since heard that some people have assumed that their invite included a plus one and they have invited someone to be their guest.

One girl at least asked if her partner, whom I've never met, was invited which was slightly annoying as I felt as if I was put on the spot but others haven't even asked.

Should I have been more implicit when giving out the invites???

I should point out that these invites were to work colleagues as opposed to 'proper friends' if that makes sense.

scottishchick27

Yes you should have let them know when you gave them the invite that it was just for them. If I was invited to a wedding I would expect to take my partner with me and I can't understand why you would think it was right to just invite people on their own? Would you go to a wedding on your own?

kloana

skateykatey wrote: »

Should I have been more implicit when giving out the invites???

Explicit.

I'd naturally assume that a wedding invitation welcomed a +1, whether it was spelled out or not. But, I haven't actually been to many weddings, so not sure if this belief is common.

How many more people are we looking at? Was your usage of $ as opposed to £ intentional? If so, would a few extra 'heads' for the buffet make that much of a difference?

Are all of the affected people work colleagues? If so, you may find that not many do actually bring a +1, as they're already part of a 'group'.

skateykatey

scottishchick27 wrote: »

Yes you should have let them know when you gave them the invite that it was just for them. If I was invited to a wedding I would expect to take my partner with me and I can't understand why you would think it was right to just invite people on their own? Would you go to a wedding on your own?

Yes I would go to a wedding on my own and did so a couple of weeks ago!

A girl at work got married so me and my work colleagues all attended without our partners; I honestly didn't bat an eyelid and nor did the other attendees.

miss_independent

I would have assumed that, at a wedding, or even a big birthday party, an invite includes a plus one. I've never known it not to, at least not since I was under 18 and seen as "a child" technically. I think, especially as a work colleague, most people want their guests to be comfortable when they might not know the family for example. I have went to weddings alone (was told it was plus one but I was single) and it's not the most pleasant thing in the world to walk into a non-family wedding alone!

NoAngel

I wouldn't assume I could bring a partner if it wasn't written on the invitation but I'd personally hate to be invited on my own.

Suppose it depends how many extra heads this is creating for you... If its fewer than say 4-5 people then hopefully it won't make a huge difference in terms of catering.

McKneff

I personally wouldnt go to a wedding on my own.

I would either check beforehand or decline.

Torry_Quine

scottishchick27 wrote: »

Yes you should have let them know when you gave them the invite that it was just for them. If I was invited to a wedding I would expect to take my partner with me and I can't understand why you would think it was right to just invite people on their own? Would you go to a wedding on your own?

I feel the same as you. It seems strange to invite someone without their partner and I certainly wouldn't go on my own. However if an invitation only had my name I would check.

MarilynMonroe_2

I wouldnt go either if I couldnt go with someone.

skateykatey

OK; it's obviously a social convention that has passed me by! With any luck it won't be many extra's.

They are all work colleagues and all get on with each other, so no one would be there on their own with no one to speak to; if anything, their plus ones would be the ones that are out on a limb.

Thanks to everyone who replied.

squirrelchops

I would never assume it means +1. My partner recently received a wedding invite - it just had his name on the front with no...' xxx and xxx are invited to the wedding of'. Actually quite an odd invite!

I asked OH if I was invited too as it wasn't clear. Apparently I am.