What would you do? Child related......

Amanda65

RAS wrote: »

I have to say that calling your son this week was probably not a good idea. I would have let your mum talk to him this week and then tried to phone him the next time she had contact.

I disagree. OP has had no contact with his son for 3 weeks, which is a long time in an 11 year olds life.

balletshoes

CH27 wrote: »

I would go down the legal route. I know it will be expensive but you will be sending a very clear message to your ex that you will not let your son go.
It's also sending a message to your son that you love him & will fight to be with him.

Now you've spoken to your son he knows you love him & you know he loves you. Hang on to that.

I would go down the legal route too - and get a solicitor who specialises in family law (it sounds like your current solicitor just doesn't want the case).

izoomzoom

have read the thread from the start. such a sad story.

do you have parental responsblty for your son?

nfollows1982

izoomzoom wrote: »

have read the thread from the start. such a sad story.

do you have parental responsblty for your son?

I'm not named on the birth certificate and I don't have any parental responsibility.

I've tried numerous times over the years to get his mum to sign a PR agreement but she never has.

Caroline_a

I feel so sorry for you OP. Women who behave like this shouldn't be allowed children! I too would agree with going the legal route, usually most towns have a solicitor who is renowned as being the 'pitbull' in family law cases - that's the one you want! And I would get this into court as a matter of urgency - the courts will make time and space for this sort of issue.

I went through 12 months of fighting my ex for my daughter. I was expensive both financially and emotionally. About 5 or 6 court appearances, defending myself in court, several reports by court welfare officers on our housing conditions, but in the end she remained with me. I had never stopped him from seeing her, or from overnight stays or holiday weeks, but he put me through all of that. I tried my best to shield her from it, and the school said that her work didn't suffer at all.

Was it worth it? Would I do it again? Absolutely.

RAS

nfollows1982 wrote: »

I'm not named on the birth certificate and I don't have any parental responsibility.

I've tried numerous times over the years to get his mum to sign a PR agreement but she never has.

In which you definately need to go to court for PR and for contact.

tattycath

Surely, the fact that your son has stayed with you for weekends will go in your favour-regarding overnight stays and the distance etc?
PWCs who use their children as weapons are the lowest form of life IMO
Good luck OP

missindecisive

Hello, sorry I havn't read the whole thread, but having 2 teenage sons myself felt I just had to reply.
Your son is typical of lots of 11 year old boys anyway, many just LOVE their gadgets. He has had so much to deal with...a relationship breakdown, a new partner for you plus new sisters to deal with, then perhaps a mum who is hurt and a little bitter. No wonder he just wants to be in his own world. Give the kid a break, be grateful to have him around even if its 'his way' for a while. Give him time to adjust, Im sure he will come right in the end.

19lottie82

missindecisive wrote: »

Hello, sorry I havn't read the whole thread, but having 2 teenage sons myself felt I just had to reply.
Your son is typical of lots of 11 year old boys anyway, many just LOVE their gadgets. He has had so much to deal with...a relationship breakdown, a new partner for you plus new sisters to deal with, then perhaps a mum who is hurt and a little bitter. No wonder he just wants to be in his own world. Give the kid a break, be grateful to have him around even if its 'his way' for a while. Give him time to adjust, Im sure he will come right in the end.

Did you read the whole thread?

missindecisive

Hello, sorry I havn't read the whole thread