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raq

balletshoes wrote: »

was the text from your sister to her friend one that required a reply? I mean, was it something like firming up meeting plans etc. Or was it more of a "how are you" or "I've been doing this ..." kind of text.

it was something like" thanks for yesterday, lovely seeing you."

Think my sister is being a bit sensitive but she can,t help thinking about the fact the friend replied to someone else. TOld her not too worry too much and there is far more important things going on in todays life as it is

balletshoes

raq wrote: »

it was something like" thanks for yesterday, lovely seeing you."

Think my sister is being a bit sensitive but she can,t help thinking about the fact the friend replied to someone else. TOld her not too worry too much and there is far more important things going on in todays life as it is

I agree with you raq - she'd seen her friend the day before, presumably they'd said all that already when they left each other, so in her friend's shoes, I might not have replied to that text either. It doesn't mean she's ignoring her in my opinion, it just doesn't need a reply iyswim.

podperson

raq wrote: »

it was something like" thanks for yesterday, lovely seeing you."

Think my sister is being a bit sensitive but she can,t help thinking about the fact the friend replied to someone else. TOld her not too worry too much and there is far more important things going on in todays life as it is

See, I wouldn't have really thought that needed a reply. I would have smiled, thought 'oh, that's nice' and then forgot about it -or thought it was a bit pointless texting back 'you too' or something equally short and meaningless I'm sure it's just something similar on the side of the friend. If it was something like 'nice seeing you, do you want to do something again soon' etc then that imo would need replying to.

JimmyTheWig

raq wrote: »

it was something like" thanks for yesterday, lovely seeing you."

Think my sister is being a bit sensitive but she can,t help thinking about the fact the friend replied to someone else. TOld her not too worry too much and there is far more important things going on in todays life as it is

I wouldn't spend 10p replying to that.
If I had free texts then I'd reply unless it wasn't convenient at the time. Probably wouldn't bother going back to it later if it wasn't convenient to reply when I read it.

If your sister wants to check everything is ok with this friend then I think she should send a text with a specific question in it.

red_devil

i always reply it is nice that someone has texted you and thought of you?

podperson

red_devil wrote: »

i always reply it is nice that someone has texted you and thought of you?

It is nice but it's where you draw the line with 'generalised' texts like that. Tbh I probably wouldn't reply if I don't feel it really needs an answer. Also there is the fact that with some people they honestly will text all day (too much time and free text packages!) - you can never get the last word so when do you stop texting them back? This is the kind of conversation I can get drawn into if I'm not careful (loosely based on the OP's sister's text but also quite typical of some of my friends!)
Them: 'it was lovely seeing you today'
Me; 'you too'
Them: 'aww, thanks hun, it was a good day'
Me: 'yes, it was'
Them: 'we'll have to go back to that place, the cake was yummy'
Me: 'yeah it was good'
Them: 'I want cake now, am gonna go look for some recipes'
Me: 'that's nice'
Them: 'something like lemon drizzle maybe, I wonder if I have eggs in'

and so on, and so on - until I have no credit left on my phone from sending 2-3 word replies to their random musings, have wasted about 2 hours that I could have spent in much better ways and just can't be bothered with them anymore when they could have just rung me if they wanted a full length conversation. OP, I'm not saying your sister is like that but if you have to be 'polite' and answer every text and then the other person has to be 'polite' and answer every text you send them back it can go on forever :rotfl:

bestpud

Hermia wrote: »

I think because they are generally more pointless than phone calls. For example, I got two texts from a friend the other day and one said something like, "I'm having lunch in a cafe and have just eaten a big cake - ha ha ha" and the other said, "bought another handbag today - naughty me!". If someone had rung me up just to tell me these things I would have thought they were mad and wasting my time. I think these sorts of messages should be posted on twitter or facebook if you really must post them so that people can read them if they wish, but are not obliged to respond.

How on earth do you find the time to reply to all texts and emails? When you add them up, especially if you include the stupid forwarded 'humour' or glurge emails (which I just delete) it would take forever.

I must be lucky because I don't get pointless texts.

I can see the point if that is the kind of text most people receive.

My friends tend to text about things that I am interested in or to ask a question, tell me about an event or whatever.

I don't respond to all emails!

I am on a couple of news lists and receive ones from companies etc that clearly don't need a response.

I thought we were talking about emails from friends, colleagues or family. I reply to those straight away unless they want me to look at something and give an opinion, as that would have to wait until I got to the PC as a rule.

I may well be at crossed purposes with most as I genuinely don't receive crap texts or emails from friends, except for the rare joke - not even one a month I'd say...

lostinrates

red_devil wrote: »

i always reply it is nice that someone has texted you and thought of you?

IMO it was a thank you text, in stead of a thanks you card or letter. I would not reply to a thank you card, though I would mention it next time I saw the person...'oh, what a lovely card you sent, I was very touched'.

dibuzz

bestpud wrote: »

In my mind it's bad manners to ignore a text and they should be considered the same as any other form of communication.

The problem is texts can arrive at awkward times when you can't reply, I often see it as the same as someone interrupting when you are talking to someone else which to me is far more rude. Even worse is when the person you are talking to gets a text and stops talking to reply or clearly isn't paying as much attention. I find that really bad manners.

raq

balletshoes wrote: »

I agree with you raq - she'd seen her friend the day before, presumably they'd said all that already when they left each other, so in her friend's shoes, I might not have replied to that text either. It doesn't mean she's ignoring her in my opinion, it just doesn't need a reply iyswim.

yeah your right I told her similar