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katie1812

I try and reply fairly promptly if it's my husband, mum, brother or best friend. Others I will also try but feel less guilty if I leave it a little longer. I agree with the sometimes not needing to reply if it's a 'see you later' text!

Pthree

balletshoes wrote: »

Anything requiring more than 2 texts each way and I'll call the person instead of texting them.

This!! If its gonna be quicker to call, then call!

podperson

madison-nyc wrote: »

drives me mad when peopledon't answer texts or you can halfway through a converstion and they just dissapear, it's just rude. If you don;t want to answer texts , don't give out your mobile number to people!!!

I give out my mobile number to people so they can get hold of me if it's urgent - not so they can text me constantly about random, non-important things. If people want to send me lots of texts that's up to them - just as it's up to me whether I want to reply to them all or not. Personally I rarely text and it will only be something that I don't think is worth a phone call - eg, what time are we meeting tonight, or can you pick up some milk on the way home.

madison-nyc

podperson wrote: »

I give out my mobile number to people so they can get hold of me if it's urgent - not so they can text me constantly about random, non-important things. If people want to send me lots of texts that's up to them - just as it's up to me whether I want to reply to them all or not. Personally I rarely text and it will only be something that I don't think is worth a phone call - eg, what time are we meeting tonight, or can you pick up some milk on the way home.

do you tell people your phone is only for important or urgent calls or texts? What one person thinks is important another may not. I guess i'm just not the sort of person that's happy to ignore my friends and family when they've text me , for whatever reason.

Is it a generation thing i wonder? i'm early 30's and my iphone is an important part of my social communication network with facebook , twitter, e-mail etc. So i really don't think anything of answering a text or e-mail , just wouldn't occur to me not to reply.

lostinrates

madison-nyc wrote: »

do you tell people your phone is only for important or urgent calls or texts? What one person thinks is important another may not. I guess i'm just not the sort of person that's happy to ignore my friends and family when they've text me , for whatever reason.

Is it a generation thing i wonder? i'm early 30's and my iphone is an important part of my social communication network with facebook , twitter, e-mail etc. So i really don't think anything of answering a text or e-mail , just wouldn't occur to me not to reply.

Nope, not generational. I am early thirties. We have internationally spread family.....Facebook is rarely used though (because we know employers use it and because some of our immeadiate circle are private and or security concious by necessity. We don't tweet.

We do use Skype a lot as a family, usually prearranged by email, but not always. Email is always priority because it fits in best with different time zones, and ATM most of our needs.

It's funny, because I find repeated texts maybe not quite rude, but inappropriate ...so I think it might just be what works in different social and family groups.

redpete

madison-nyc wrote: »

drives me mad when peopledon't answer texts or you can halfway through a converstion and they just dissapear, it's just rude. If you don;t want to answer texts , don't give out your mobile number to people!!!

Drives me mad when people send texts and expect me to interrupt whatever I'm doing to answer them straight away. Text messaging should be for information that doesn't require an immediate reply - there's no guarantee that the text will be delivered straight away anyhow. Sometimes I'll even ignore phone calls if I'm doing something that is more important to me at the time.

balletshoes

madison-nyc wrote: »

do you tell people your phone is only for important or urgent calls or texts? What one person thinks is important another may not. I guess i'm just not the sort of person that's happy to ignore my friends and family when they've text me , for whatever reason.

Is it a generation thing i wonder? i'm early 30's and my iphone is an important part of my social communication network with facebook , twitter, e-mail etc. So i really don't think anything of answering a text or e-mail , just wouldn't occur to me not to reply.

I think it is becoming more of a generational thing, yes. I'm mid 40s, I couldn't give a monkeys about a social communication network , my email is for work or for leisure purchases/booking confirmations, daughters dance class notifications etc. The last time I had a social email conversation was probably about 4 months ago, because I usually call someone for a chat, or I see them face to face on a social visit. I don't own a smartphone, and the last time I tried to put credit on my daughter's touchphone, I got so frustrated with it I nearly chucked it out the window.

podperson

Nope not generational, I'm early 30s too. If something requires an answer then I will try and get back to someone, even if it might not be until later, but for random chit-chat I'm not going to sweat it if I don't manage to reply or I forget about it. If people text me a large amount about when I consider just random things then I will mention to them that I don't always have credit or that I can't reply when I'm at work etc. It rarely puts them off so that's up to them. It's like the landline - if I'm busy I don't answer it and if it's important they will ring back - technology should be there to convenience you not for you to be at its beck and call.

Saint_Chris

I have my phone with me all the time, at work it's in my pocket on silent, but it does vibrate, as i think that there is nothing, more ignorant as someone taking there phone out and looking at it , when your talking to them.

But friends and family do say that if i've not replied to a text within 5 mins, they think there is something wrong with me.

My work involves a bit of sitting around, and were not allowed to be seen to be reading or on the internet, but work don't mind us using our phones to text.

So i do spend this time, to go through, my list of friends and text them, as i've unlimited texts i don't mind it doesn't cost me, but i'm not bothered is i don't get replies from them.

bestpud

I almost always answer texts straight away.

If they require an answer and/or it's something I need to think about I will reply with a quick message saying I'll let them know later.

Same with emails - they come through to my phone and I just answer then and there mostly. If I don't, I forget!

In my mind it's bad manners to ignore a text and they should be considered the same as any other form of communication.

If someone called to say or ask something, we wouldn't put down the phone without saying a word, so why wouldn't people reply to a text?

If there is no reply within a day or so I'd send a quick reminder if I needed an answer but probably wouldn't if I was just chatting.

I'm 41 btw so not sure where I fit in any generational theory..