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bestpud

Thinking about it, people often comment that I reply quickly or they know they will always get a reply from me, so maybe us fast responders are in the minority...

midnightraven3

to me, a text isnt the same as other forms of communication, to me its a non invasive way of parting non urgent information

phone calls etc are when answers are required, or immediate response is needed, or to chat

i only answer texts immediately to my children (who are all teens)
and my husband
anything else waits if i am doing something else

i have 2 people who text me periodically
1 its a random statement, more like a facebook status update, and i suspect its a "send to everyone" kinda thing

but the one that really annoys me is the one who texts and when i dont answer (99/100 there is no response required) and they text me "did you get my last text? let me know if you did" :mad:

Hermia

bestpud wrote: »

I almost always answer texts straight away.

If they require an answer and/or it's something I need to think about I will reply with a quick message saying I'll let them know later.

Same with emails - they come through to my phone and I just answer then and there mostly. If I don't, I forget!

In my mind it's bad manners to ignore a text and they should be considered the same as any other form of communication.

If someone called to say or ask something, we wouldn't put down the phone without saying a word, so why wouldn't people reply to a text?

I think because they are generally more pointless than phone calls. For example, I got two texts from a friend the other day and one said something like, "I'm having lunch in a cafe and have just eaten a big cake - ha ha ha" and the other said, "bought another handbag today - naughty me!". If someone had rung me up just to tell me these things I would have thought they were mad and wasting my time. I think these sorts of messages should be posted on twitter or facebook if you really must post them so that people can read them if they wish, but are not obliged to respond.

How on earth do you find the time to reply to all texts and emails? When you add them up, especially if you include the stupid forwarded 'humour' or glurge emails (which I just delete) it would take forever.

scooby088

I used to get through roughly a thousand texts a month when I was on contract phone, now I'd be lucky to get through that in a year. I decided to talk to people face to face or on the phone, texts can be taken wrong so many times it saves alot of arguments.

When I used to text I'd reply within a few mins unless I was ignoring the person then It could be a week or two:rotfl:

raq

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Depends on the message.

Why are you asking?

reason being is my sister sent a text last week to a friend and she hasn,t got back to her, but got back to other people. she is feeling a bit low about it. she also thinks shes being selfish

raq

balletshoes wrote: »

but you see, I don't use my mobile for text conversations, never have, its an alien concept to me. Anything requiring more than 2 texts each way and I'll call the person instead of texting them.

What drives me mad (and I'm not saying you do this madison) is people who constantly check their mobile, text or answer their mobile for a chat when they are out in company with others. That, to me, is rude.

i and my other half also agrees with this. I was actually out in company two weeks ago and 5 of the ladies at the table where either on the phone, checking their phones . It is annoying and when they aren,t on the phones they haven,t got much to say in conversation

stir_crazy

I tend to reply pretty quickly to texts, emails, etc pretty quickly otherwise I forget until ages afterwards. My DH is away a lot so he tends to text when I'm at work but will phone if its something very important, and we call each other in the evenings. My friends text me a lot as its usually something like "get the kettle on, I'm coming over". If I havent heard from someone in a while, I'll generally text them to say hi in case they're busy, but then phone or arrange to meet up.

I have been guilty of checking my phone as sometimes I dont hear it, but I try to do it discreetly (sp?).

balletshoes

raq wrote: »

reason being is my sister sent a text last week to a friend and she hasn,t got back to her, but got back to other people. she is feeling a bit low about it. she also thinks shes being selfish

was the text from your sister to her friend one that required a reply? I mean, was it something like firming up meeting plans etc. Or was it more of a "how are you" or "I've been doing this ..." kind of text.

Birdie85

I have never been good at texting people. Would rather have a proper conversation. Can't blame it on my age either as I'm 27.

One of my friends is constantly sending drivel to me and I really have no idea what to reply to it, so more often than not I leave it to think about what to say then forget to reply! Anyone who knows me well knows that I think it's rude to text whilst you're with other people so if I'm out with a friend I hardly even check my phone, never mind reply to pointless texts. It's OK to send important texts but to sit and have a conversation with someone else whilst you're supposed to be talking to the person with you? Not on IMO. MIL does it all the time and it drives me and my DH mad!

I've also found that since I got a touch screen phone my texting has dropped even more. It's so awkward in that I actually have to stop what I'm doing to construct a message, gone are the days of punching out a text whilst walking and talking!

However I do try to reply swiftly to time critical messages as I know it's frustrating to be kept waiting.

OP, if your sister is that upset about someone taking time to reply then she can either chase them up (they may be like me and forget to reply or think they've replied but it's sat half written in the drafts folder or it simply failed when sending and they didn't realise) or she can just get over it!

JimmyTheWig

raq wrote: »

reason being is my sister sent a text last week to a friend and she hasn,t got back to her, but got back to other people. she is feeling a bit low about it. she also thinks shes being selfish

Generally I will either reply to something when I read it (which may or may not be when it is sent, but generally within 24 hours). If I don't reply straight away (e.g. busy) then I am unlikely to remember to reply later. Obviously if someone else then texts me when I'm not busy I may well reply to them, but not to the earlier one which I've since forgotten about.
So I'd suggest she sends another text (or phones, etc) to check everything's ok and ask if she got the first text. I.e. a gentle reminder that you're expecting a reply.