Nice people thread part 7 - a thread in its prime

michaels

lostinrates wrote: »

Nikkster....seriously....loads of people in 'our' age bracket are still seeking all those things. Don't worry, they are surely coming I you now you are you again.

Just what I was about to say - I wasn't coupled with kids till I was much older than you are now and I think settling down too soon is a big mistake.

misskool wrote: »

thought i would post this for lir.

i met a wonderful gp today. i couldn't believe it was possible. he listened, took notes and made good conclusions. i almost passed out.

I hope you are OK MsK.

GDB2222

kabayiri wrote: »

Well, a major IT supplier has gone into administration today. An initial 300+ jobs have gone. We are a customer so it might take our project down too.

I sit next to a guy who was one of those 300, and he found out by messenger first thing.

It got me thinking. This morning he was walking into work thinking just a normal day. This afternoon he trudged home, knowing he is unlikely to be paid later this week.

It's too easy to post on here from a confident, self assured position (e.g "well, if I can do it, so could anybody else"). Yet circumstances can change so easily, and things no longer seem under your control.

Too true. But think about the poor buggah who was on his way to work the other day when a helicopter fell on him.

vivatifosi

Nikkster wrote: »

[whispers] viva - I don't get it! All I can think is Beds=Bedfordshire (I've clearly gone a bit mememe this evening!), and I'm sure that isn't what you meant :rotfl:[/whispers]

I was purely in an 'a crap joke will lighten the mood' mood. Nothing more than that. It was bad though, even by my standards:o. Beds does = bedfordshire and doctors have a bedside manner so I thought all the good docs must be there.:o:o:o:o:o

DH is watching a James Bond film atm and in between the explosions I hear an occasional tut and "that's not where the autopilot is".

ETA: going back through the posts just saw missk posted re docs and not you. I am such a !!!!. I blame the explosions wrecking my train of thought.

kabayiri

lostinrates wrote: »

Yep. That's what make me frustrated who do not credit their hard won success in life with a pinch of luck alongside the graft. And understand that gor some on the wrong side of the law of averages get the bad roll of the dice despite hardworking and ability.

You're right LIR.

We got lucky, in that we bought a home at what turned out to be a good time in the house prices cycle. Of course, we had no idea what would happen to prices in the intervening years.

It was just luck, but to listen to some people on here, they personally engineered the house price boom phenomena!

If you are brought up and live in a large run down council estate you are unlikely to rub shoulders with people who might be classed as 'movers and shakers' - people willing to take a chance on you ; spot potential. In a way, the conditions may not be there for you to be lucky.

misskool

Nikkster wrote: »

I'm not convinced about being a role model for, well, anything! But I can reassure you that it is about a zillion times better being single than being in an inappropriate 'relationship'.

And knowing that you have parents you can fall back on/ live with etc if/ when it is needed is truly wonderful. No matter how stubborn and independent you (by that I mean me, not you!) are/ try to be. All the more so because many people don't have that luxury (for so many reasons).

you are a role model

don't put yourself down

Spirit_2

GDB2222 wrote: »

My cousin's son said that he was going off for an interview with the Foreign Office for some sort of spook job. I saw him a bit later, and he seemed embarrassed that he'd even mentioned the interview and he said that he hadn't got the job.

The only thing is that a couple of months later he upped sticks and went to live abroad (where he's remained). So, did he get the job or didn't he?

I think he was successful. Where is he?

lostinrates

kabayiri wrote: »

You're right LIR.

We got lucky, in that we bought a home at what turned out to be a good time in the house prices cycle. Of course, we had no idea what would happen to prices in the intervening years.

It was just luck, but to listen to some people on here, they personally engineered the house price boom phenomena!

If you are brought up and live in a large run down council estate you are unlikely to rub shoulders with people who might be classed as 'movers and shakers' - people willing to take a chance on you ; spot potential. In a way, the conditions may not be there for you to be lucky.

Yep, but also...more basic things. Dh applied speculatively to his firm....and his cv was misread and put on the desk of a guy with a simialr name...who happened to need a native Italian/English speaker and liked the coincidence and dh's chutzpah or going outside the sytstem. Serendipity really.

I was lucky early because my parents made me work hard. I was unlucky when I broke my brain. I controlled neither.

PasturesNew

Spirit wrote: »

OK I admit I never recall .

Combination of ... too late, not likely, cba, it's nice being sort of stable, too much going on .... it won't happen.

I couldn't go through the stress etc of trying to work out what's going on ... and unikely to meet anybody who didn't find me weird/annoying

So ... as anything would be doomed, it's better not to put myself through it.

Nikkster

lostinrates wrote: »

Nikkster....seriously....loads of people in 'our' age bracket are still seeking all those things. Don't worry, they are surely coming I you now you are you again.

I don't mind so much any more, I think it was brought into sharp focus by the big change in moving back to my parents (leaving job, London, ex, hopes, dreams, blah blah blah) and turning 30 just over a month later (whilst feeling I had regressed back to where I was pre-Uni). Yes, all that would be nice, but I'm quite happy with my life as it seems to be heading at the moment. Its certainly not where it could have been going (I could easily have kept on trying to make things - job and relationship - work).

Besides, with a bit of luck I'm hoping I might find a nice little house this year so that would be one thing off the list without having to even worry about the others

lostinrates

misskool wrote: »

you are a role model

don't put yourself down

Of course she is.

Remember she was on my list for dh. . But she was furious about that. For some reason my dh ain't good enough :rotfl:.

Pn....dh would drive you bonkers. He would have no respect for your Internet connection or dietary preferences.