Nice people thread part 7 - a thread in its prime

Spirit_2

lostinrates wrote: »

Hmm.

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I gave in to temptation.

Is there NP naughty step I can send myself to?

Nikkster

vivatifosi wrote: »

I dated one who was a very proficient liar. The only time I realised was when he stole money from me. Doh! We're better off without Nikks, way better off! We should just be thankful we did not get more invested and didn't end up in deep and with kids.

My main mistake was that I willingly gave money to bail (almost literally) out. I think I felt that that was the only tangible thing I could do to help. I was pretty much an emotional wreck, and also at the end of my tether in terms of having to deal with untruths so couldn't provide much (/enough) in emotional support. I can be a real b!tch at times (and these were not good times), so I threw money at the problem to try and solve it.

Although I do wish I was like so many people my age with a partner/ house/ children etc it can not be underestimated just how much I am enjoying just being me again and how pleased I am that like you say I wasn't in so deep to make it even more difficult to leave.

lostinrates

Spirit wrote: »

lostinrates wrote: »

Hmm.

QUOTE]

I gave in to temptation.

Is there NP naughty step I can send myself to?

I don't know, its too cloudy in my moral compass to see one. but if ypu find it first maybe you can light a torch to show me the wy there....

Nikkster

lostinrates wrote: »

Now I feel bad I didn't follow through in the summer/autumn with this.

I'd forgotten about that when I wrote that post

Firstly, you had plenty enough to be going on with over the summer/ autumn my dear.

Secondly, you can't fight every battle. I'm sure there are plenty of liars who just stick to the harmless stuff.

Nikkster

lostinrates wrote: »

Spirit wrote: »

I don't know, its too cloudy in my moral compass to see one. but if ypu find it first maybe you can light a torch to show me the wy there....

Yoo hoo! :wave: We're all over here

lostinrates

Nikkster wrote: »

My main mistake was that I willingly gave money to bail (almost literally) out. I think I felt that that was the only tangible thing I could do to help. I was pretty much an emotional wreck, and also at the end of my tether in terms of having to deal with untruths so couldn't provide much (/enough) in emotional support. I can be a real b!tch at times (and these were not good times), so I threw money at the problem to try and solve it.

Although I do wish I was like so many people my age with a partner/ house/ children etc it can not be underestimated just how much I am enjoying just being me again and how pleased I am that like you say I wasn't in so deep to make it even more difficult to leave.

Nikkster....seriously....loads of people in 'our' age bracket are still seeking all those things. Don't worry, they are surely coming I you now you are you again.

Spirit_2

Nikkster wrote: »

Although I do wish I was like so many people my age with a partner/ house/ children etc it can not be underestimated just how much I am enjoying just being me again and how pleased I am that like you say I wasn't in so deep to make it even more difficult to leave.

Nikkster - as a mum I could worry about my 'single' daughter, however since 'knowing' you I have had my eyes opened to valuing her and her 'status' in her own right. I have conciously moved away from 'hoping' her life would fall into some conventional coupledom. I know she is fine, and that it is not my right to ask intrusive questions.

I see you as a role model. I am learning from you how to treat my own adult child.

GDB2222

Spirit wrote: »

Have NP seen this thread?
https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4415359

Have any NP anything to add?

The following story is completely true.

My darling wife was driving round the Hangar Lane gyratory system during the rush hour, when she realised that she had overshot her turning. So she jammed on the brakes and started to reverse. Unsurprisingly, somebody drove into the back of her car, and as luck would have it a police car arrived just about a minute later.

The policeman spoke to the driver of the car behind, and then he spoke to my wife : "It is all right for you to drive on, madam, as there is little damage, and the driver behind you is completely mad. He claims that you were reversing round the Hangar Lane gyratory system in the rush hour."

vivatifosi

Don't know if anyone is interested. International Space Station has passed over Queensland.

Coral Sea at Rockhampton:
https://twitter.com/Cmdr_Hadfield/status/296185355995054080/photo/1

Bundaberg:
https://twitter.com/Cmdr_Hadfield/status/296199814838894592/photo/1

Maryborough (towards bottom left, sitting in river bend) with Hervey Bay on coast. The brown silted bit is not a river but the Great Sandy Straight between mainland Qld and Fraser Island:
https://twitter.com/Cmdr_Hadfield/status/296189373601443840/photo/1

Totally unrelated, but I also like this one:
https://twitter.com/Cmdr_Hadfield/status/295996894142935042/photo/1
(earth sending smoke signals...)

PasturesNew

Spirit wrote: »

Nikkster - as a mum I could worry about my 'single' daughter, however since 'knowing' you I have had my eyes opened to valuing her and her 'status' in her own right. I have conciously moved away from 'hoping' her life would fall into some conventional coupledom. I know she is fine, and that it is not my right to ask intrusive questions.

I see you as a role model. I am learning from you how to treat my own adult child.

You know I'm single/female too ... I've made it this far without too much mishap.