My daughter has been detained :( .........UPDATE!

Mupette

i know you don't want to hear this, but for her to kick off last night is good, as in your earlier posts you were worried they weren't seeing how she really is when she is bullied at home, now they are. And can get a better picture of whats going on.

i hope this gets sorted soon hugs to you.

londonsurrey

I recommend that all complaints and concerns be put in writing and dated.
I've also had trouble getting actual therapy for someone in a mental health ward, and was hoping that they'd up the ante for a child, but seemingly it's the same old familiar problem of them using it like a "holding" facility rather than treating the patient.

The other thing I'd STRONGLY recommend is getting a mental health advocate to help you fight for help. There are groups for that, can any help with signposting to this? The generic patient advocate group they advertise in hospitals, SANE and the NAS are places I'd start with.

meritaten

teabag - grit your teeth and persevere would be my advice - to allow a relative to take your girl out is unbelievable and tbh, raising a fuss might be the best thing to help your DD! plus her kicking off - they are now getting a truer picture of what is actually going on with her!

Does sugar affect her adversely hun? sounds to me like it does and you severely limit her sugar intake - understable to me as I have a GD who cant tolerate sugar/colourings/additives. People sneak it to her all the time, thinking we are unreasonable and a few sweeties wont hurt - then complain bitterly about her behaviour twenty minutes later!
hun, I know I have said this before (many times prob), but, although schooling is important, it isnt as important as your childs health. That includes mental health. If you feel that school is a major problem then take her out - there are alternatives.
Try to keep calm (I would be absolutely fuming in your shoes - blood pressure through the roof!), but you can help your daughter best by remaining calm and clear headed. if you want to swear, rant and rave feel free to PM me. it DOES help to vent to someone and often its better with someone who isnt personally involved.

daska

Absolutely atrocious, yes, it's important that you make a formal complaint in WRITING. Personally I would say you should involve your MP.

But as Mupette says, this may be a blessing in disguise. They have now got direct experience of her behaviour.

atrixblue.-MFR-.

i would now include your childrens commissioner. https://www.google.co.uk/#hl=en&sclient=psy-ab&q=children%27s+commissioner&oq=childrens+co&gs_l=hp.1.0.0i10j0j0i10j0.6975.9205.1.10912.3.3.0.0.0.0.76.221.3.3.0.les%3B..0.0...1c.1.0_vxLJ8C_dg&pbx=1&bav=on.2,or.r_gc.r_pw.r_qf.&fp=fd40504ec8c9002b&biw=642&bih=475

i would also ask the school in writing to attend the next meeting prefurably the school senco (if there is one).

write a formal complaint to the seniour staff manager at the unit about you brother taking her out, then forward the complaint for information purposes to the local health bourd in your area with a covering note saying that if the matter is not resolved by the staff at the unit you will be asking them to investigate the issue further, also your MP should know about it.

teabag29

Hi thanks for that advice, this is gonna sound silly but who is the childrens commissioner, what is her role? Also my locald health board, would that be the PCT?

I spoke to the mp earlier in the year who wrote to camhs and social services but didnt do any good but I guess no harm in re-trying

*** Ive emailed the childrens commissioner the whole situation to see if they can help, now just got to get in touch with local health board and mp....feel like im doing something positive at last ***

Miss_Ratty

Hi teabag, I'm only just reading your post and just had to comment. I think writing to the various people is a really good idea, like you just said it is making you feel like you are doing something positive. There should be no stigma in being sectioned...in fact I was when I suffered a very bad bout of depression, and I'm very open about that. Your daughter is in the best place at the moment, it may not feel like it since they let her out, but make your complaint about that as it is very severe, anything could have happened. When I say she is in the best place I mean that she should be getting the treatment and action that she probably should have been getting a long time ago. Sometimes it takes things like this to get the right treatment, and I wish the best or both of you. My mum was worried sick when I was in the unit, but she was my rock. X

teabag29

I hope so miss ratty but the more time that passes the more it seems like that place is just a holding cell for her because she hasnt even seen any doctors yet, its just 2 hours of school a day and rest of day being watched by nurses and having quite time, a pparently (shes been told)the dr's only come in once a week..... that doesnt sound like she's gonna be getting the help she needs, certainly not at the scale she needs it anyway

daska

Teabag, bizarre as it may seem, that delay might be a silver lining as well. Just imagine if the doctors had been in before they experienced any difficulty with her?

teabag29

I guess so. Well had a call off the manager today who apologised and said that staff went against procedure and that parents should always be called. Shes going to look into why this didnt happen and get back to me on Thursday to inform me what she intends to do about it. She also menioned that the average stay is 4 weeks but some kids need longer and that when the time comes they will release her slowly and as i'm a big part of her care package i will have alot of say in that. She also said that upon release she will be transferred to the community team (I assume she means camhs) so that I will have outside support. Social services have also agreed to do a 12 week intensive course with her to try and help her with all her issues so thats put me at ease a little, although they still wont give me what I really need, some respite care once a month..... funding yet again!