Single DFW

The_Boss

Something I'll never get (vaguely inspired by the previous post) is why friends seem to think the best response to a breakup is to get the person back into a relationship/dating related things.

lulabelle

I think if you've had a traumatic breakup then some time to reflect and get over it is a good thing but if it's someone you weren't that bothered about or didn't see a long term future with anyway then why not get back on the horse for a bit of fun at least?

That's just my view but hey, I'm almost 35 and still single so maybe I'm not that well qualified to give advice - ha ha!

Kayleighpea

The problem is we were pretty happy so it is feeling like a huge loss at the moment. But I am a few years older than him and me being realistic knew I wouldn't end up marrying him or anything so thought it better to finish things rather than just keep stringing him along. Finding it really hard at the moment though

lulabelle

big hug KP - it is hard when you have to make a decision where you are not fighting but just know it is not right. One of my good friends recently went through something similar but she got through it and is now starting out dating someone new with a much better long term prospect (her guy was v young too and not ready for the 'next stage')

Whilst it hurts now because it's raw and it's natural to miss someone you are used to having around and to miss being part of a couple, if there really was no long term future much better (and I mean for both of you) to get out now before either of you get even more attached and then it's even harder.

Chin up and as my mum always says "nothing stays the same"

xx

The_Boss

Upping this as someone else was looking for it.

Out of interest, are you single and looking or just happy being single and want to stay that way so you can focus on repaying your debt?

Shoe_Gal

Single and OK (ish)! Rather be single than take any cr*p!

AGirlWrites

Another SAD newbie joining up to the thread!

I'm 26 and been single for what feels like forever! It doesn't bother me too much most of the time but lately my friends have all been getting into couples, so I end up having alot more nights in to myself!

I'm definitely too fussy though! Haha!

katy_ann

Im getting lonely being a single DFW I dont see my friends, obviously no boyfriend, no money

antonic

I`m the opposite to you Katy !

I am very happily single and soon to have money !

bones65

Well i am single and have been since my partner left for a younger model. She didnt like the fact the money had dried up as i had said enough is enough and started a DMP in 2011. It wasnt all her fault i am in debt but she didnt help either so glad to be rid. As we had a joint mortgage we eventually managed to sell the house at a much reduced price but avoided the dreaded neg equity just about. Unfortuntely due to my debts i was unable to go into private renting so at 48 have been reduced to living with parents which has affected my health but at least i can start to save. I am quite lucky as i have some good friends and tend to see them at weekends just down the local. It can be quite lonely being single but i am generally scared of starting another relationship as one i feel i may get into the same trouble again and two what can i offer a woman now.
I work full time but am facing redundancy come autumn.