Do you check your partners phone

loracan1

It's not right to check a partner's phone...but, if they've taken to sticking to it like glue, keep it in their pocket and even take it in the bathroom when they have a shower, I think it's almost reasonable to have a look (if you ever get the chance) and I wouldn't condone someone for doing that.

If they leave it out quite happily I'd not feel a need to look.

lizziebabe

I never looked at my ex's private stuff. Felt I didn't need to. He started acting suspiciously by keeping his phone stuck to him like glue where previously it was always left lying around. However, by not checking stuff on the computer he had got into my building society account and 'took' all the dosh, using my password which I didn't hide as I thought I could trust him!!! A friend recently asked me how she could find out if her husband had been having an affair as he was acting nasty. I immediately replied 'Look on his mobile'. She found out the hard way and even after confronting him with the evidence he still lied about it!!! There is trust and trust if you know what I mean!!:mad:

magentadreamer

If I had serious doubts then yes I would. My newly dumped Ex's MSN history was a revelation, I don't regret looking - I'd thought something was going on for a few months and it was confirmed it was. If I'd not have looked I'd still be "blissfully happy" with lieing cheating bleep bleep.

pinkshoes

Well my b/f was always working late (sometimes til midnight!!), completely unaffectionate, and would rather spend his evenings on his PC or playing with his xbox. Given my ex was a jealous nutcase, which was 100% unattractive, I've never been a jealous person, so would never dream of checking his phone/emails etc... but i trusted my b/f not to cheat; he's a workaholic and was just going through a phase prefering computers to s*x!

He, on the other hand, is so jealous it drives me crazy. I work with in an environment with 90% males, and did a degree in engineering, so naturally alot of my friends are male. (men are alot more honest than women so make great friends!). I know he reads my txt messages when i leave my phone around, because one time he demanded that i show him my messages, which of course i did, and he'd obviously read them all before because he knew exactly what he was looking for. It was 100% innocent, and just a sarcastic comment from a male friend, which he read into completely wrong.

Then I found out he'd been monitoring my computer, including reading all my emails from my googlemail account. I didn't cheat on him, but after months of being neglected for a computer and his job, I did find myself attracted to a (married) guy at work, and we had a chat dialogue about on line, admitted we'd both thought about kissing each other, but decided it was utterly crazy, end of story. This was the ONLY dodgy thing, and the first time I realised I liked this other guy, and my b/f had a print out of the chat dialogue when i got home from work!! He'd been monitoring my computer for a couple of months, despite that being the only dodgy thing ever. I was FURIOUS! I'd spent 2 years putting 110% into the relationship, rarely complaining about his late hours and him never doing a thing to help around the house, and rarely complaining about the hours he spent on the computer, and he repays me by constantly being suspicious of nothing and not trusting me, even though I'd been the perfect devoted girlfriend.

If anyone should've been suspicious, it should've been me!! ARG! anyway, we worked it all out, and things are much better now, although i do feel a bit lonely because i've lost alot of (male) friends because he really doesn't like me hanging out with them, and i'm still not convinced he trusts me, which is stupid because I try to devote myself to him 100% like I did in the past.

blah blah blah i feel i've just posted my sob story lol! i know most women wouldn't have put up with the way he treated me and would've walked out, but when you love someone, then it's hard. Constantly being accused of cheating when you're not is horrible, and can destroy a relationship.

I think i was more hurt that he spent 2 months monitoring me when i was squeaky clean and never put a foot wrong, so be careful if you wanna monitor your partner's messages/emails without them knowing, because if you don't find anything, they may end up resenting you!