Do you check your partners phone

nats3006

i have to admit i read my b/f txt messages but not emails i am just nosy i think!! would hate to find anything though but i dont think he would keep the txt's on his phone even if he was upto anything he knows i always look LOL!!!
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Bunny

me and my boyfriend read each others phones, mainly because we're bored of reading our own same texts and are usually sat next to each other at the time watching tv. I have attempted reading his e-mails over his shoulder, but they were too boring, to tell the truth, his texts aren't that exciting either, but nothing to do with trust, just boredom.

fairyprincess76

i have never felt the need to read hubbys texts or emails.

i completly trust him. if i wanted to check his phone he wouldnt have a problem with that and he is more than welcome to check mine.

Dan_Thunder

nickyhutch wrote: »

That's where we differ then. I personally think the importance of trust in a relationship is overstated. Not trustworthiness, but trust in each other.

I'm sorry can you clarify that for me, are you saying that you don't think it's important to have complete trust in your partner?

ALWAYS_POOR

Strange as it may sound, I am of the opinion that you shouldn't read things that are not meant for you because you usually find out something you don't want to know. And I don't necessarily mean infidelity, someone could be criticising you to someone else, someone could be saying hurtful things about your family, I could go on. . .

Mark7799

nickyhutch wrote: »

Nothing should be private if you're married/committed. Surely that's the point? What's mine's yours, what's yours, is mine?

The only times I have secret things from my wife is when I am planning a surprise holiday/weekend away for us:o .

snowmaid

Mark7799 wrote: »

The only times I have secret things from my wife is when I am planning a surprise holiday/weekend away for us:o .

A man after my heart!! What a lucky woman she is!! Well done!:beer:

nickyhutch

Dan_Thunder wrote: »

I'm sorry can you clarify that for me, are you saying that you don't think it's important to have complete trust in your partner?

Yes, that's right. I know it's going to meet with disbelief, but I don't see how it makes my relationship with my partner any different. I love him completely, and trusting him wouldn't make that any different.

I imagine it says more about me than it does about him, and about my experiences as I've grown up (not that I've ever been cheated on, that I know of).

kr15snw

I tend to normally read my boyfriends messages if he gets one when hes out of the room. He doesnt mind, although he will never go through my phone as says its mine. I dont mind as my logic is if Ive got something to hide then Ill delete it!

I once read a message to find out he was planning a surprise holiday for us (his friend got the tickets for him). Managed to bluff my way out of that quite well! "Oh deans got the tickets for the surprise trip! Nickki (his girlfriend) is so lucky getting a trip like that! Bet they have a great time!' Boyfriend still thinks I was surprised when he gave me the tickets.... Ahwell, still enjoyed it all the same

Danni

I don't go out to check it, but I will read text messages that come in if he's not around, just as he reads mine. Same for emails, msn conversations and other things. It's not that we don't trust each other, it's just we're both just as nosy as the other

As it is I have no reason to suspect he's up to anything- he hardly leaves the house