Do you check your partners phone

dianadors

I dont know. I am very green when it comes to mobile phones -I only learned how to use one when I had to "snoop". My other half did have a password on his, but I guessed it.

StartingAgainKayla70

I dont read OH texts or look whats hes been doing on the pc, if hes going to get up to something hes going to get up to it! Everyone is entitled to some privacy. Just cause your married or have a boyfriend or girlfriend doesnt mean your owned by that person and you give up all your rights.

Sudden changes LOL, you should dress reasonably nice, wear aftershave/perfume everyday, wear decent looking undies, keep up with old friends by going out on the odd night of the week, and then if you do start an affair they are not going to be none the wiser? Before you ask NO I am not.

saubryn

Hubby and I both know eachothers passwords for everything, and he reads my phone, I read his. I figure if you don't trust someone enough to be comfortable with that sort of thing, then whats the point?

StartingAgainKayla70

saubryn wrote: »

Hubby and I both know eachothers passwords for everything, and he reads my phone, I read his. I figure if you don't trust someone enough to be comfortable with that sort of thing, then whats the point?

Unless I have read this wrong, but you dont trust your partner else why read his phone? Why do you feel the need too?

Justie

Michaela wrote: »

I dont read OH texts or look whats hes been doing on the pc, if hes going to get up to something hes going to get up to it! Everyone is entitled to some privacy. Just cause your married or have a boyfriend or girlfriend doesnt mean your owned by that person and you give up all your rights.

I agree. I wouldn't dream of snooping on anyone least of all my husband.

bestpud

I have no problem with dh looking at my phone or emails if I am around - he sits by me when I am sending them and I ask him to read new ones out to me sometimes. Likewise, I do the same for him.

But I would be livid if I found he'd been trawling through either of them behind my back. Why would he want to? I would not want to go through his phone without him being there (he doesn't send emails). I can honestly say I've never felt a need to - though he does have boring conversations so nosiness is not an issue!

We share pretty much everything in our marriage (bank accounts etc) but I don't think it's healthy to feel I can't sound off to a friend every now and then without dh reading it!

We are married, a couple, not one and the same person! I'm an individual in my own right, as is he. It's got to be healthier to have a bit of space hasn't it?

Bestpud

dihunny

lil_me wrote: »

No but I have, and caught him out. By changing HER number to mine.

Wonderful-that put a smile on my face. Now how do i do that?:T

dihunny

Morglin

dianadors wrote: »

Not neccesarily Morglin. Life isnt black or white - there's a ton of grey in between. We had a bad patch in our marriage which resulted in hubby engaging in an "inappropriate" relationship. I found out - via texts on his phone and it was a wake up call for both of us. We turned things around and are both glad (now several years on) that we didnt walk away from each other. I must admit that I never checked his phone before I got suspicious, and I dont feel the need to check these days either. People do daft things at times, and I believe if you have truly loved someone in the past, you shouldnt just throw it away. You know when a relationship is over, and I didnt want to let go of ours.

I don't know - I was married for 30 years to a taxi driver, who had every opportunity to cheat.

But, I never once checked up whether he was or not, because basically, checking never stopped anyone doing anything - all it does is make them more careful next time!

The marriage ended for other reasons, and I remarried.

I still don't check anything because, again, I don't feel it would do any good, and I wouldn't want to live with someone I couldn't trust.

It's so easy to set up secret EMail addresses, pin protect phones and get mates to cover for you, that anyone really wanting to keep an affair quiet could do it anyway.

To be honest, if I ever caught him checking up on me, I'd lose all respect for my husband, anyway. It would be a gross invasion of my privacy and that's why I wouldn't check up on anyone.

Lin

ailuro2

We only have one mobile phone between us- we don't need two.

How MSE is that?:rotfl:

If he did have one I'd only check it if he was acting wierd.

Bettyboop

Well for me I read his phone because my instinct told me something wasn't right and GUESS WHAT....that was how I found out of two of his AFFAIRS! His mobile was attached to him like a piece of jewellery.....and one night he left it in his jacket pocket and that's when I read everything! For those who out of loyalty don't like to read there husbands/boyfriends phones you have every right if something doesn't seem right and even if it's to satisfy your own insecurities.