Do you check your partners phone

iceicebaby

lemontart wrote: »

Yes I have when suspicions arose..............and those suspicions were confirmed.

Liz

Same for me. I thought he was up to something , checked his phone and yes he was! I left the next day

celyn90

I've only checked a phone bill once because I was suspicious and I was right to be, because there was a problem. I wouldn't do it normally at all and never had in the past, but to be honest, I'm glad I did - I didn't feel so bad walking out in the end as I don't deserve to be treated like that. I've also deliberatly left stuff open and on display to prove I wasn't doing anything dodgy and still got accused of it :mad:

Current OH offers me access to his e-mail, which I constantly refuse as I don't want to see. Anyway, if I wanted to read it I wouldn't need him to log me in

Carrera74

I confronted my ex many times about the rumour that he was seeing a married woman. I was at his one night as he'd offered to 'babysit' but had let me down as he had been in the pub all day with his mates apparantly. It just so happened that she texted him whilst he was in the shower so I looked at the content and it said something along the lines of she'd had a great day and couldn't wait to see him again, kiss kiss. I had my proof. Took me a while to get rid of him but it was good to know I wasn't going mad afterall - just paranoid enough to check his phone

My lovely OH leaves his phone about and I do check it. He knows I do and I know he wouldn't leave it lying about if he had anything to hide. It's just my paranoia that sets in and I look. Wish I wasn't so insecure but I'm working on it.

Psykicpup

flis21 wrote: »

I read my Husbands text messages and he reads mine, don't have any problems with it as neither of us have anything to hide. For instance if I am in the shower and get a text message, he will read it, then come and tell me who it was from / what it says and vice versa.

Glad me & DH arnt the only one that do this - usually I shout ''you have a text!" & he shouts ''well READ it then'' lol

vickyj

dont ever check oh phone but do read texts to him if he is "busy" and i welcome him doing he same thing.
happy days
Vicky

lil_me

No but I have, and caught him out. By changing HER number to mine.

Little_Miss_Winner

By changing HER number to mine.

excellent!!!

nickydee5

lil_me wrote: »

No but I have, and caught him out. By changing HER number to mine.

:T That's brilliant!! great idea if you think you know who it is....

My OH had a mate who used to text him rude jokes all the time, so I pinched his phone one night just to look at the latest ones....joke was on me tho as found v incriminating texts from him to an anon number and vice versa. Rang the number, turned out to be the wife of a couple we were friends with:(
Confronted him and as he just thought I'd had a look at the phone bill not his phone, he tried to tell me the calls were just 'friendly'...didn't admit it until I told him I'd read the texts, which made it worse somehow, if he'd fessed up straight away I'd feel like i could trust him more now.
Amazingly enough we worked through it, but I still check his phone lol - not that he'd leave anything incriminating on it now!!

space_rider

If you have a reason and feel the need to check, then go ahead but be prepared for what you might find. If your other half has always left their phone lying around and then stops then he/she must have something to hide. A few of my friends have caught their other halves out because of text messages or mobile phone bills. One friends husband even went to the extreme of changing the address on his mobile phone but my friend went to his office, barged past his secretary and got hold of the phone bill. She also found receipts for jewelry and expensive lunches for the other woman. He of course denied it all.

dianadors

One of my mates swapped SIM cards with her hubby's phone to catch him out - it worked. It would be great if you suspected your OH was having an affair and you could talk about it and not have to slither on your belly to find proof (because if youve ever had to do it, thats exactly how you feel!) but for some reason, even when caught out, they still try to deny it.
Carrera74 - you will get there. Dont beat yourself up. It takes a long time for the pain to go away when you have been cheated on - but eventually it becomes a distant memory.