Son being bullied/assulted at high school

ANNIEHAHA

OK so had a meeting booked for 2.40pm, got a message at work, moved to 3.10, no problem, off I went at that time.

Meeting took place at 3.15pm because they had called a whole school assembly (all staff in there)

Head of house said they had a meeting at 3.30pm in staff room cos they had a call OFSTED were coming the next day !!!

Discussed all issues raised, serious allegations etc...
they want names, son wont name them scared of reprocussions (sp.?)

They say...we cant do it without knowing pupils names etc, gave me book to log incidents

Wont give letter because they have to be able 'to put things right' (even norfolk council state this)

ANNIEHAHA

1. Where there are issues at the current school, such as severe bullying, which are given as the reason for a transfer, additional evidence will be required to corroborate the parent’s claims and the current school may be contacted. An immediate transfer will only be considered where the current school confirms in writing that there is no further action that can be taken to resolve the situation and external agencies have been involved fully in this process.
2. Where medical reasons are given, a letter from a relevant medical professional will be required to support the application.
3. Where a pupil is currently attending a school in the independent sector and notice to leave has been given to the current school, the application will be considered for admission at the beginning of the following term to ensure continuity of education.


THIS IS NORFOLK CC CRITERIA FOR IMMEDIATE CHANGE OF SCHOOL

ANNIEHAHA

I have made an appointment with our doctors to try and help with the psychological side of this because I am not impressed with the school at all.

The bite mark was from him messing about with a boy, same age, who went too far

The one on his chest is where the kids do 'nipple twisting' and missed his nipple!

The bruise is a girl who kept kicking him but not his mate who were winding her up (so his fault)

He hates school, knows his not learning, and feels like 'going mental' in class

Silver_123

ANNIEHAHA wrote: »

My son has just gone back to school yr 8, toward the end of yr 7 he experienced older boys being rough, he was slapped, punched etc in school between lessons and on the bus.

He decided to go back rather than change schools, after 5 days in he has been experiencing it again, the boys are yr 8-10.

He is taking the longest route to classes to avoid them, and tries to avoid them at break/lunch. If he sees them coming he turns and goes another way.

The other day he was coming out of class and the next thing he knew he had been spun and thrown on the floor, he didnt see it coming, this was a year 9 boy.

He does not want me to contact the school but I have, I will be attending a meeting with his head of house to see what they can put in place and filled out transfer forms to move to another school.

I have taken 3 photos, one of a bite on his side torso, a bruise on his leg and a red mark on his chest. I fear the damage has been done psychologically, he does not feel safe in school.

I does not help his sister has gone to another school and is very happy there!

My question is how soon can I move him? can they speed the application through? I live in Norfolk

Very similar happened to my son in Year 8. He sustained a very severe head injury after bits of bullying from certain older lads. The day of his head injury, I went to the Head, I wrote to the Govenors, I went to the Police and eventually had this boy in Court and I went to my MP - all within 24 hours - and then I moved him to another school, and would do it all again! I implore you to make a HUGE noise as it's the best thing I ever did. Very very very good luck to you and your son. This happened about 6 years ago and when I think back I feel very very angry with what happened to my son. 'Good luck.x

ANNIEHAHA

The trouble I have is I am unable to ring the school I want to move him to, it all goes through county council. I called them today but they will only follow the reasons above, my son is very confused, he does not want to start again in another school and I just want to speed the process up but cant.

I have been advised if it continues to pull him out of school and they have a legal responsability to provide work but he does not want to be stuck at home

so so so frustrating...

Yorkie1

If your son refuses to name names, it's difficult to see how the school can resolve this fully. They can take certain steps to watch over your son's welfare, but his (understandable) refusal to name them will be a barrier.

WelshBluebird

thriftychap wrote: »

Wrong. Teachers network, a lot! And we are all very critical of our own school if we think something could be improved. If lack of action over bullying was endemic it would be well known among those in the profession.

So again, have you been to every school in the country? No.
Do you know every teacher in the country? No.
So you cannot say that.

My own experiences of being bullied and trying to get teachers to take it seriously suggest that at least some teachers don't take it seriously at all. And my experiences are repeated by many other people up and down the country. If anything the teachers made it worse by basically siding with the bullies (I remember one incident where I was hit and punched by someone, and they then went to the teacher to say I was the one who was attacking them! They had even bitten their own arm in an attempt to make it look like it was me. Surprise surprise, the teacher believed him. Eventually he confessed to doing it himself, but I got no apology from the staff and he had no punishment at all).

PHARR

Do you know what, i absolutely DESPISE bullying. Its hard to use that word in sentences but to hear some of the stories your kids go through is shocking. Im ever so sorry for all of you, just listen to them and be 100% supportive.

Im a young lad to be honest, 22 yrs old. I was ok in school i somehow become one of the popular lads but still got abit of stick for having big ears. One point actually it got to a point where they began call me nicknames so i passed it up to my parents who told the school and they then told the boy. It stopped. These things need to be ironed out soonest.

Like i said, I'm no expert nor can i offer help but my hearts with you and your children. I hate bullying so much. (Rant over)

faerie~spangles

ANNIEHAHA wrote: »

The trouble I have is I am unable to ring the school I want to move him to, it all goes through county council. I called them today but they will only follow the reasons above, my son is very confused, he does not want to start again in another school and I just want to speed the process up but cant.

I have been advised if it continues to pull him out of school and they have a legal responsability to provide work but he does not want to be stuck at home

so so so frustrating...

ATM which school your son ends up going to is immaterial imo.

Have you reported the physical assault of your child to the police yet?

Why are you not protecting your little boy?

CKhalvashi

meritaten wrote: »

Scuse me - but this is complete bullsh*t! its simply putting you off moving the child - while the school do a Cover Your A$$ exercise!
It is down to the headmaster of a school if he can accept students providing he has a place for them!

as for a 'time frame' to sort matters out - Bull too - you need cast iron assurances that your son is safe - and personally I dont think he is. The pupils at that school obviously get away with serious bullying - and know they can! as it seems so widespread.
he isnt a baby - you can keep him home and set him assignments while you are waiting for another school to accept him - and if push comes to shove then the LEA have to find him a place. You also do not have to be SAHM to home school - as long as you can give your child an education it does not have to be exactly to the 'school' curriculum.

The law states that a child has to have an education - it doesnt say that it has to be at a 'school'. this is important as most parents think that school is the only option.

Exactly what I thought.

If my DD's were facing this, I'd pull them out while the school sorted the problem out, which should take until the end of the week.

I've still got my sister here, who's been a Head for the last 6 years, and she's stated the same as I have; plus she'd permanently exclude the culprits. Neither of us know why the school are !!!!!footing around.

She's gone as far as having her students arrested in the same situation. Assaults etc. were a common occurrence when she first took the school over in Sep 2006.

CK