Son being bullied/assulted at high school

ANNIEHAHA

Unfortunatley I work (in a different high school as a TA) so I am unable to home educate.
I have spoken to our assistant head and he has advised against pulling him out as this could go against us moving him, county council deal with it not the schools.
He also said in the meeting to give them a time frame for this to be sorted but I feel the damage has been done.
If it was the same person we could contact police but the fact its different people its more complicated...and it seems it is happening to other students my son has seen this
I have emailed norfolk council with a copy of the email I sent the school and stated I have photos. However I have to have the school 'on-side' for the transfer to be immediate
I just wondered if anyone else had any idea/advice really
I appreciate all your comments and hope to resolve this ASAP

cottonhead

If you apply for another school it shouldnt take too long ( providing there is a space ) the turn around time where I live is about 15 working days. So long as you have sumitted an application you can remove your son from the current school whilst you wait if you so wish.
I think you are doing the correct thing is contacting the school. Teasing is one thing, but what you describe is assault and I would be tempted to go to the police as well. The boys may do it to someone else or to your son again. They need to be stopped. The school can only act if they know about the issue. Sometimes schools really dont know how bad an issue is until its brought up by a parent. Can you or someone you know collect your son so he is safe on the journey to and from school ? Also do you know why he is being picked on ? Not that any reason is justified by the way. Just wonder if you know the reason perhaps a solution could be found? If the school is otherwise OK it seems unfair that your son should have to be the one to leave.
Just read the bit above where you say the school advise you not to apply to move him as it could go against you ! Thats not true at all. The LEA might deal with the spplication to transfer but your reasons will not impact your application. In fact you dont have to give a reason at all. The school is the one that has to deal with the bullying issue. If the head teacher doenst sort it then ask to meet with the chair of govenors.

Saint_Chris

didn't want to read and run, i can't help but i feel sorry for you.
My 6 year old grandson is currently off school (yes only been back a week) because other 6 year olds are kicking, hitting and spitting on him, the same ones that did it to him last year.

i know how you feel, it's such a heartbreaking feeling.

I wish you and your family well. x

ANNIEHAHA

In response to corellia, I understand what your asking, and yes I have thought about it, as I am not there I do not know for sure but I imagine his reaction may make it more fun for them

I hope to put things in place eg. leaving class early and dropping/picking up from school but this is something which can only be short term

He has a yr 10 in his tutor base who asks where he is going then drags him in the opposite direction, I imagine he thinks his being funny but...

Kind of got fed up with the teacher telling me bullies were cowards!!!

Hopefully it will be sorted soon thanks for all your support

reeree

sassyblue wrote: »

Your poor son.

If it were my son he wouldn't be going back, the police would be informed and I would be in touch with the other parents (if you know who they were) to tell them what thugs they are raising.

Don't go in asking questions, go in wanting answers and action.

Totally agree, it sounds like my grandsons story all over again, l would not be sending him back for more of what he's already had, it will only lead to things getting worse believe me l know what l'm talking about, the teachers at my grandsons school couldnt have cared less, the only time they showed an interest in him was when we sent him to school in shoes they deemed inapropriate they were on the phone to me at 8 15 in the morning it was disgusting, my only regret about taking him away from that school is that we didnt do it sooner, my grandson used to plead with us every morning not to send him to school it was heartbreaking and it can still bring tears to my eyes when l let myself think about it

FatVonD

I feel for you, I've already had to go into school this year too (though nothing as bad as what's happened to your son.) It's been an ongoing thing and I get the impression that given the chance the school will just carry on trying to placate the parents of the victim rather than confront the parents of the bully because it's less trouble. (Let's face it, the problem child is probably going to have problem parents too.)

I've taken to CCing the head of year in emails when I email his own registration tutor, that way she knows she has to act (though when I went in on Thursday she'd still not dealt with an incident from the first day of term, in fact she emailed me today and referred to the bullying as him having some 'challenges'.) In your case I would be addressing the Police and CCing the school and the school governors into it.

meritaten

ANNIEHAHA wrote: »

Unfortunatley I work (in a different high school as a TA) so I am unable to home educate.
I have spoken to our assistant head and he has advised against pulling him out as this could go against us moving him, county council deal with it not the schools.
He also said in the meeting to give them a time frame for this to be sorted but I feel the damage has been done.
If it was the same person we could contact police but the fact its different people its more complicated...and it seems it is happening to other students my son has seen this
I have emailed norfolk council with a copy of the email I sent the school and stated I have photos. However I have to have the school 'on-side' for the transfer to be immediate
I just wondered if anyone else had any idea/advice really
I appreciate all your comments and hope to resolve this ASAP

Scuse me - but this is complete bullsh*t! its simply putting you off moving the child - while the school do a Cover Your A$$ exercise!
It is down to the headmaster of a school if he can accept students providing he has a place for them!

as for a 'time frame' to sort matters out - Bull too - you need cast iron assurances that your son is safe - and personally I dont think he is. The pupils at that school obviously get away with serious bullying - and know they can! as it seems so widespread.
he isnt a baby - you can keep him home and set him assignments while you are waiting for another school to accept him - and if push comes to shove then the LEA have to find him a place. You also do not have to be SAHM to home school - as long as you can give your child an education it does not have to be exactly to the 'school' curriculum.

The law states that a child has to have an education - it doesnt say that it has to be at a 'school'. this is important as most parents think that school is the only option.

FatVonD

ANNIEHAHA wrote: »

He has a yr 10 in his tutor base who asks where he is going then drags him in the opposite direction, I imagine he thinks his being funny but...

There was an older girl at my school that would hold onto people when their bus came so they missed it, thank God she used to get the same bus as me so just hopped on herself when it came.

Slinky_Malinky

I am so sorry your son is going through this. Surely the school have CCTV so they can see what is going on? It sounds like they have a general problem with this sort of behaviour if it is happening to other children too and there are multiple bullies doing this.

I think the school need to shake themselves and get the message accross that they will not tolerate this. Personally I would be moving my son and keeping him home until he could start at the new school. Having had my son bullied right through primary and nothing being done despite me trying to play by their rules, I know how frustrating it can be.

NewKittenHelp

If my child were assaulted by anyone during school time, the police would be called that day and the Head and governors made aware of just how serious assault is.

There's this idea in some schools that assaults on school children are not as serious as assaults on adults, but they are. The school is being negligent by allowing this to happen.

During your meeting with the head of house, take notes of what is said and follow it up with a letter/email confirming what was discussed and the action that will be taken with the head of house, the Head and the Board of Governors. And please, please, please contact the police and have these bullies dealt with. It is your son's right to be protected and the police must play a part in this. Don't let the school fob you off by saying that they'll deal with it in house.