Ex husbands new wife a nightmare! Csa help!

atrixblue.-MFR-.

Firefox1975 wrote: »

If your salon is that succesful what difference does the money make?

perhaps the difference is that he has kids, is resposable for them and the right thing to do is pay towards their upkeep? like school clothing, school gear, school trips etc.

OP, your responses to this thread although defensive, is rather sharp, puts people off posting and you gaining a respective opionion of others who would prospectively give you solid advice.

my advice is to ignore the ones who wish to gain reaction from you in a negative way and concerntrate on those who will offer you advice.

McKneff

Natalie3344 wrote: »

I've read his previous posts and with the comment of 'sounds like sour grapes to me' I think he already set the tone of how he was asking! Who deserves each other? I don't understand that comment?

I wasnt referring to the sour grapes post. (which i agree was unneccesary)

I was referrring to your response to the post who asked you
'do you get benefits'

lovinituk

Natalie3344 wrote: »

If he had decided to stop paying on his own it would be different but the fact this woman seems to have a vendetta about him paying for his kids has rubbed me up the wrong way if I'm honest! Why should she get to decide that he should stop paying for his children?

How do you know its the other woman who is 'forcing' him to do it? I'm not having a go, its a serious question. Has she actually said something to you in person?

Natalie3344

atrixblue.-MFR-. wrote: »

perhaps the difference is that he has kids, is resposable for them and the right thing to do is pay towards their upkeep? like school clothing, school gear, school trips etc.

OP, your responses to this thread although defensive, is rather sharp, puts people off posting and you gaining a respective opionion of others who would prospectively give you solid advice.

my advice is to ignore the ones who wish to gain reaction from you in a negative way and concerntrate on those who will offer you advice.

I will wind my neck in! Reading my responses they are on the defensive side But in my defence I had not long come off the phone with the csa so frustration was still fresh

Natalie3344

lovinituk wrote: »

How do you know its the other woman who is 'forcing' him to do it? I'm not having a go, its a serious question. Has she actually said something to you in person?

Well my sisters husband knows that this is what's going on and has told me! He has spoken to her personally and he's not the sort to cause trouble! Plus my ex was paying csa with no problem for years but as soon as he got with his new partner reassessments and such started happening so it. Sort of became obvious then

Natalie3344

McKneff wrote: »

I wasnt referring to the sour grapes post. (which i agree was unneccesary)

I was referrring to your response to the post who asked you
'do you get benefits'

I understand but it was the same person that asked about benefits so I thought the tone was already quite nasty, plus he hasn't actually said otherwise that the intent of that question wasnt anything but a little dig so I still assume that the question was asked horribly! If you for example had simply asked if I received benefits I would have answered no, but the posters intention was snide!

lovinituk

Natalie3344 wrote: »

Well my sisters husband knows that this is what's going on and has told me! He has spoken to her personally and he's not the sort to cause trouble! Plus my ex was paying csa with no problem for years but as soon as he got with his new partner reassessments and such started happening so it. Sort of became obvious then

How does your sisters husband know? Has the woman told him directly? Its a hard thing to prove by hearsay alone. Perhaps your ex-husband is as much to blame as the new woman. Does he still see your children? Its not nice to think, but perhaps he has moved on and is concentrating on the children he sees everyday.

sulkisu

Your ex-husband is the problem, not his wife.

If he chooses not to continue to support his children fully (regardless of who says what to him), he is to blame not her. The fact that he paid child support regularly before they met is irrelevant.
My partner has two kids from a previous relationship and I know exactly what he would say if I ever suggested that he witheld child support - and it's not repeatable on here!

I hope that you get it sorted, but you need to focus on him and stop blaming her.

kj*daisy

What CSA are you on? I thought CSA 2 took a percentage of his net income and didn't take into account things like size of mortgage. Hopefully someone who knows more might come along but could you close the claim and start another and end up on CSA 2 which would give you a fixed amount based on what he earns, not what he spends. I'd be annoyed too in your shoes.

shoe*diva79

I assume your on new rules if its been 6 years? If so, his wifes income and their housing costs wont come into the assessment. It will be a pure 20% of his income less % for children living in his home with him.

If your on CSA 1 then its a lot more complicated but CSA 2 has been in force since 2003 so Im pretty sure your on the new scheme?