Ex husbands new wife a nightmare! Csa help!

Natalie3344

Ok, so my ex husband has been paying child support for his two kids the last 6 years with no problems at all! So, he got into a new relationship 2 years ago, moved in with her and has 2 babies! My child support went down by 20% then another 5 when the new baby was born, which im not bothered by i understnad he now has another 2 children to support! Now, he has been all over the gaff with his wages and asking for reassessments and my csa has now gone down to a measly 50 pw which is less than a parent with one child gets! He's on a high end wage and I was getting triple this new amount before even with the two new kids! This is his new partner doing all this, she is annoyed every month that he has to pay out for his previous children. They have said that he is paying the full mortgage ( which isn't true she has a good job too) and my csa has reduced dramatically and they are completely playing the system! She won't give up her wage slips to prove she can pay half the housing costs and the csa are fobbing me off all the time and refuse to put a cat b on him! Can someone please help because no one at csa is listening to me?...
By the way I don't want any of HER money, just want the csa to know that she is paying half the mortgage and bills and she has done this deliberately to make my money go down! She's also encouraging him to give up work and become a house husband so my money will stop completely! Nasty piece of work, and what makes it worse is one of my children with him is special needs! Please some advice for the csa to listen to me and actually do something?.. Thanks

Natalie3344

monkeytrumpet wrote: »

Sounds like sour grapes to me.

Haha! On my behalf of course! Wouldn't you be a bit annoyed if a new partner came into your exs life and is doing everything she can to stop him paying for his two children? Let me guess your a fella!
Anyone with any actual advice?

Natalie3344

monkeytrumpet wrote: »

Do you get benifits?

Nope, own a successful salon thanks! Making a quick judgement are we? Single mother claiming csa so she must sit on her backside all day on the dole!

McKneff

Natalie3344 wrote: »

Nope, own a successful salon thanks! Making a quick judgement are we? Single mother claiming csa so she must sit on her backside all day on the dole!

No one said that at all, you are making the assumption of what someone thinks.
Why are you being so defensive, it was a reasonable question given what you wrote in your original post.

No one can give you any meaningful advice without proper and full details.

Sounds like you all deserve each other to be honest.

Natalie3344

McKneff wrote: »

No one said that at all, you are making the assumption of what someone thinks.
Why are you being so defensive, it was a reasonable question given what you wrote in your original post.

No one can give you any meaningful advice without proper and full details.

Sounds like you all deserve each other to be honest.

I've read his previous posts and with the comment of 'sounds like sour grapes to me' I think he already set the tone of how he was asking! Who deserves each other? I don't understand that comment?

Firefox1975

If your salon is that succesful what difference does the money make?

pondskater_2

Good grief, remind me never to come here for any advice. :eek:

pelirocco

monkeytrumpet wrote: »

Do you get benifits?

What difference would that make anyway

Natalie3344

Firefox1975 wrote: »

If your salon is that succesful what difference does the money make?

Tbh it's not about the money any more, it's the principle that she can do this! I'm Not trying to squeeze all I can out of my ex and I can get by fine on my own! It's just I don't like to take things lying down if you know what I mean? If he had decided to stop paying on his own it would be different but the fact this woman seems to have a vendetta about him paying for his kids has rubbed me up the wrong way if I'm honest! Why should she get to decide that he should stop paying for his children?

sunflower_2

so it seems just because he has a new family - his older kids dont cost so much to feed, clothe and house?

:mad:

not sure what you can do about it practically - except taking pleasure in raising your kids alone

:A

Natalie3344

sunflower wrote: »

so it seems just because he has a new family - his older kids dont cost so much to feed, clothe and house?

:mad:

not sure what you can do about it practically - except taking pleasure in raising your kids alone

:A

Thank you for your reply! Was beginning to think there were no nice people on the forum!