Seeing my boyfriend

Cardiff_Girl_2

We do share things, Your post sums us up. He knows Im not asking for it but I guess the way I have been brought up makes me feel bad. If you see what I mean?

Cardiff_Girl_2

kwmlondon wrote: »

The reason it's worked is that in my last relationship the roles were reversed and he NEVER let me forget it. I had to know how much everything cost and nothing was given freely. When I found the roles reversed I decided I'd not so much give away as share and that's how I've seen it ever since. I share what I can afford to and he shares what he can. This morning, for example, he's taking my bicycle to the bike shop for a service. I've let him use my old bike for the last year and bought myself a new one and now he's got himself a bike he's taken the old one for a service. I am hugely grateful that he's taken my bike to the shop as I have so little time to do stuff like that.

Another example is that I like to go to the theatre and to concerts and I almost always buy two tickets so I can take a friend with me. I usually take my boyfriend, unless it's something he's not interested in, but I just feel like I have the resources so I can take us to this stuff. Every now and again he'll get tickets to something and take me out and I really appreciate it, but it's all about the thought behind it.

Your bike example is like me wanting do things for him such as his washing and cooking when he is down, I guess living out of a suitcase isn't great. So my like contribution is to make him more comfy. Does that sound silly?

PasturesNew

Cardiff_Girl wrote: »

She also suggested that I do his washing to make him feel more comfy.

Bad idea.

Just treat the month like a holiday, not a servitude.

Cardiff_Girl wrote: »

Is there anything I can do thats either free or cheap I can take him too?

Museum of Welsh Life is good.

PasturesNew

Cardiff_Girl wrote: »

Your bike example is like me wanting do things for him such as his washing and cooking when he is down, I guess living out of a suitcase isn't great. So my like contribution is to make him more comfy. Does that sound silly?

Chuck his stuff in with yours by all means, but don't make a song/dance out of it and don't sit and "wait to serve".

Cardiff_Girl_2

PasturesNew wrote: »

Chuck his stuff in with yours by all means, but don't make a song/dance out of it and don't sit and "wait to serve".

Yeah, I'll be doing that not special trips or anything just "Oh you got anything you want me to wash for you"

It'll be the best month long holiday though At the end I'll feel all rubbishy when he goes though

duchy

Cardiff_Girl wrote: »

It'll be the best month long holiday though At the end I'll feel all rubbishy when he goes though

So are you going to spoil a good month by dwelling on the fact it has to end or enjoy every day and worry about the feeling rubbishy when it comes and not before ?

Cardiff_Girl_2

duchy wrote: »

So are you going to spoil a good month by dwelling on the fact it has to end or enjoy every day and worry about the feeling rubbishy when it comes and not before ?

No. Im just not looking forward to it if you see what I mean?

But I'm looking forward to the month

Cardiff_Girl_2

Sorry if I am going on, I'm just so nervous about it. Its a big thing for me

Cardiff_Girl_2

I got some tickets today from work for Jesus Christ superstar. Work sell them cheap to staff.

Happy I am.

Still really nervous about spending the month though.

PasturesNew

I've never spent a month with a bloke..... I'd be worried silly