Seeing my boyfriend

System

He pays because he is a gentleman and he obviously thinks your worth spending his time and money on!

Take it as a compliment and enjoy your time together.:)

Cardiff_Girl_2

Judi wrote: »

He pays because he is a gentleman and he obviously thinks your worth spending his time and money on!

Take it as a compliment and enjoy your time together.:)

I know I just feel bad.

I feel low strangely. I guess I'm missing him lots today

System

Cardiff_Girl wrote: »

I know I just feel bad.

I feel low strangely. I guess I'm missing him lots today

Then text/email him and tell him! He's probably missing you too!

Cardiff_Girl_2

Judi wrote: »

Then text/email him and tell him! He's probably missing you too!

I did and he replied he was missing me too and a 5am train is worth it to see me

System

Aww, he's as 'loved up' as you are!

Whoever said romance was dead was lying.:T

Cardiff_Girl_2

Judi wrote: »

Aww, he's as 'loved up' as you are!

Whoever said romance was dead was lying.:T

Yeah

He said hes bought me a gift but had his debit card stolen and it took an hour to get it cancelled.

Cardiff_Girl_2

I just want to cuddle him, I don't know how I'll cope seeing him at work not being able to hug him on the monday

zenmaster

This sounds like Gavin & Stacey!

Cardiff_Girl_2

zenmaster wrote: »

This sounds like Gavin & Stacey!

People at work say that.

kwmlondon

Can I give a perspective from someone who is kind of in your boyfriend's situation? I earn a decent salary and I am paying a mortgage on a small 1 bed flat I got last year. My partner works in the NHS on a grade 3 so about 40% of what I'm on. Since we started going out nearly 3 years ago I have ended up paying for more stuff.

The reason it's worked is that in my last relationship the roles were reversed and he NEVER let me forget it. I had to know how much everything cost and nothing was given freely. When I found the roles reversed I decided I'd not so much give away as share and that's how I've seen it ever since. I share what I can afford to and he shares what he can. This morning, for example, he's taking my bicycle to the bike shop for a service. I've let him use my old bike for the last year and bought myself a new one and now he's got himself a bike he's taken the old one for a service. I am hugely grateful that he's taken my bike to the shop as I have so little time to do stuff like that.

Another example is that I like to go to the theatre and to concerts and I almost always buy two tickets so I can take a friend with me. I usually take my boyfriend, unless it's something he's not interested in, but I just feel like I have the resources so I can take us to this stuff. Every now and again he'll get tickets to something and take me out and I really appreciate it, but it's all about the thought behind it.

I think your fella can tell that you're not asking for any of this stuff but if he's worth anything at all he'll do all he can to make you feel like you're both sharing what you have to share. You're both mixing up your time, resources, imaginations and money together and making the most of it as a couple.

I really hope it goes well for you both.