Seeing my boyfriend

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Hi,

Cardiff_Girl wrote: »

I'm getting all excited!

relax, just enjoy.

Cardiff_Girl_2

[Deleted User] wrote:

Hi,





relax, just enjoy.

Its hard to. Its all scary.

lostinrates

Caroline_a wrote: »

I would try to keep work and your private relationship totally separate, as I've seen both jobs and relationships come to a sticky end when people don't. It isn't appropriate leaving notes on his pc at work for either him or you, and I would be wary of sending 'loved-up' emails too - people have been sacked for that.

I could not agree more with this. I certainly would not be leaving him the notes you mentioned at work either. In a bag or a packed lunch or a jacket pocket, but not any where any one else might see it.

Gigervamp

I don't get why it's scary! When I was having a long distance relationship, (with the man who is now my husband) I couldn't wait to see him and spend as much time as possible with him.

Also, you say that work pays his expenses, so as he's only having to pay for one person (you), it's not costing him too much.

Listen to your mum, stop being scared (you're a grown up now!) and enjoy the time together.

Cardiff_Girl_2

Gigervamp wrote: »

I don't get why it's scary! When I was having a long distance relationship, (with the man who is now my husband) I couldn't wait to see him and spend as much time as possible with him.

Also, you say that work pays his expenses, so as he's only having to pay for one person (you), it's not costing him too much.

Listen to your mum, stop being scared (you're a grown up now!) and enjoy the time together.

Just a whole month together. Scared in the sense he may not think I'm as amazing as he says I am or gets bored if you get me?

I know its not costing him much, still doesnt stop me from worrying about it.

I am excited about him coming and spending the time with him. Just worry about the money etc

heartbreak_star

Breathe. Relax. If he didn't want to be with you for a month, he wouldn't have asked.

My OH earns considerably more than I do, and we get around it. It took me ages to not feel guilty that he bought me a Kindle for Christmas, takes me out regularly, etc.etc. As he pointed out - if he decides we go out for dinner/drinks, he pays. If I decide, I pay. Honestly, the more time you spend together the easier it gets.

Lots of hugs - I reckon you'll have a fab time together

HBS x

Gigervamp

Ok, I understand that, but it sounds like he's looking forward to it and as others have said, it's a good way to test your relationship. Better to find out now, than a couple of years down the line when you've moved in together, discovering that you don't get on.

Try not to be so hard on yourself.

Tupperware_Queen

I'm in a similar situation. (though I'm a bit older!lol)

I am in the process of getting divorced, have to pay maintainance to ex cos kids live with him for half the week while I work.

My new partner lives a long way away, so we only see each other a couple of times a month, plus he is on a good wage, and has no outgoings other than his rent (bills included) and phone contract.

Consequently he pays for most stuff, and buys me treats and pressies a lot. At first it was really strange, and hard to get used to, but he sees it as only natural, he wants to treat me and look after me because he loves me. I do things like cook homemade dinners (he lives on ready meals!) if we are out I buy us a coffee or an icecream or something like that. Recently we went on holiday, he paid for the hotel, I drove us there and paid for the petrol. He spent 4 times what I did, but he was happy with this.

Honestly, as others have said, relax, enjoy yourself, and have fun wit your man x

DS4215

Are you going to have time together at weekends to do stuff or will he be working every day?

If you have time off, show him the highlights of South Wales - whatever you like, whether it is the mountains, the valleys or the coast. Lots of great places to spend a quiet (and not that expensive) day. You could even go to Barry Island for the day

If you both like shopping or a change from Cardiff, then Bristol and Swansea aren't too far away.

SavingPennies_2

Cardiff_Girl wrote: »

My mum suggested I get lunch a few times or take him to where I go, such as the castle or the park. She also suggested that I do his washing to make him feel more comfy.

I assume you live with your mum? Even on minimum wage you must have a bit of spare cash, so like she suggests you could treat him every now and then, just a small gesture like a coffee and cake. Walks round the park sounds great and are inexpensive and romantic, give him the gift of your local knowlege and show him the sights.

However, I would personally not be getting into the habit of doing his washing!

If he wants to spend his money on you thats his choice, he obviously loves spending time with you and doesnt mind paying.