Seeing my boyfriend

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Cardiff_Girl wrote: »

My mum said the same about the test drive. I do get a bit panicy about it though.

Why? Sit down, think about why you're panicky. Write it down if you need to. Then you might realise there's no need to be.

Are you a bit subconsciously commitment-phobic, or maybe worried about the upheaval a permanent relationship could bring?

Good luck though, I hope you can happily look back after the month and wonder what on earth you worried about

HBS x

Cardiff_Girl_2

heartbreak_star wrote: »

Why? Sit down, think about why you're panicky. Write it down if you need to. Then you might realise there's no need to be.

Are you a bit subconsciously commitment-phobic, or maybe worried about the upheaval a permanent relationship could bring?

Good luck though, I hope you can happily look back after the month and wonder what on earth you worried about

HBS x

I am a bit worried about upheaval yes Worried about not being able to contribute fully if we did move in because of my wage., I'm just scared that if we spend the month together he will think I'm not the amazing person he says I am, or what my colleagues at work will say, they already call us "gavin and stacey" which was funny not just annoying. Plus I just really miss him and get jittery.

Caroline_a

I would try to keep work and your private relationship totally separate, as I've seen both jobs and relationships come to a sticky end when people don't. It isn't appropriate leaving notes on his pc at work for either him or you, and I would be wary of sending 'loved-up' emails too - people have been sacked for that.

MummyOfTwo

stop being so anxious! this is a great opportunity...

me and my other half did the distance thing between ireland and UK for almost a year before we took the plunge, and he paid for a lot more than me, mainly because i was a student at uni and i had my then three year old daughter as well. He said that he wanted to treat me, he liked taking care of me when we were together. In this age of equality, that old fashioned romantic vibe was so lovely. fast forward many moons, and we are approaching our three year wedding anniversary, and our second son is due in seven days time. it works out for a lot of people, and i shall tell you why i think that is - when you have had to live apart and miss one another, you dont take each other for granted the same way...

Gigervamp

A couple of free places to visit nearby are St. Fagans museum and Southerndown. Southerndown is where they film the beach scenes on Dr Who and it's a good place to go fossil hunting. There's also a little shop selling ice creams and tea and coffee etc.

St. Fagans is great and you can spend a whole day there exploring all the old houses and the grounds are lovely for a picnic if the weather is nice.

Cardiff_Girl_2

Caroline_a wrote: »

I would try to keep work and your private relationship totally separate, as I've seen both jobs and relationships come to a sticky end when people don't. It isn't appropriate leaving notes on his pc at work for either him or you, and I would be wary of sending 'loved-up' emails too - people have been sacked for that.

I don't have access to email so soppy emails aren't a worry!

VestanPance

I think you should relax and appreciate what you've found with your man.

He obviously does think you are something special. Guys don't travel the length of the country to go out with someone they don't think is special. If you're worried about him splashing out there must be a million free or very cheap things you can do as a couple.

Plus if he's down for a month for work I'd be stunned if it's not the work that will be picking up his hotel tab. As someone else pointed out working away can be a lonely experience of work, empty hotel rooms and meals for one. I'm sure he's excited about being able to spend the extra time with you. Enjoy it.

Cardiff_Girl_2

MummyOfTwo wrote: »

stop being so anxious! this is a great opportunity...

me and my other half did the distance thing between ireland and UK for almost a year before we took the plunge, and he paid for a lot more than me, mainly because i was a student at uni and i had my then three year old daughter as well. He said that he wanted to treat me, he liked taking care of me when we were together. In this age of equality, that old fashioned romantic vibe was so lovely. fast forward many moons, and we are approaching our three year wedding anniversary, and our second son is due in seven days time. it works out for a lot of people, and i shall tell you why i think that is - when you have had to live apart and miss one another, you dont take each other for granted the same way...

I just feel bad if you get me, He pays for everything. I know what you mean about taking for granted. I appreciate every moment we spend together and miss him lots when he aint around!

Gigervamp wrote: »

A couple of free places to visit nearby are St. Fagans museum and Southerndown. Southerndown is where they film the beach scenes on Dr Who and it's a good place to go fossil hunting. There's also a little shop selling ice creams and tea and coffee etc.

St. Fagans is great and you can spend a whole day there exploring all the old houses and the grounds are lovely for a picnic if the weather is nice.

I've heard about St Fagans, I completely forgot about there. I know theres the castle aswell.

I'm thinking of going down the bay or go to the park next to the castle

Cardiff_Girl_2

VestanPance wrote: »

I think you should relax and appreciate what you've found with your man.

He obviously does think you are something special. Guys don't travel the length of the country to go out with someone they don't think is special. If you're worried about him splashing out there must be a million free or very cheap things you can do as a couple.

Plus if he's down for a month for work I'd be stunned if it's not the work that will be picking up his hotel tab. As someone else pointed out working away can be a lonely experience of work, empty hotel rooms and meals for one. I'm sure he's excited about being able to spend the extra time with you. Enjoy it.

I just don't see why though. I'm just me. Can't see why he thinks otherwise.

Yeah, his work picks up the bill for him He has to get receipts for everything He pays for me out of his own pocket. I can guess. I remember the first time he was down here I went to see him at his hotel, he was on his own tv on and he was playing games on his laptop. He did look bored but happy to see me.

Cardiff_Girl_2

He just text me that he will be down a week today :-D

I'm getting all excited!