Seeing my boyfriend

Seanymph

I think he sounds like a lovely chap who is realistic about both of your situations and happy to be with you.

There is a lot to be said for being gracious and enjoying your time with him.

It isn't a test - or an arranged marriage - it's an opportunity to spend more time together.

He's looking forward to it, and trying to make it possible to see more of you - isn't that enough?

SavingPennies_2

Cardiff_Girl wrote: »

I know. I'm excited for it. but nervous regarding money, I do have spare money after board and bills etc just I can't take us to decent places. I took him for a kebab on chip alley. He was kind and said he has been surviving on kebabs and curries.



I was thinking of the valleys and the coast. Ive lived here all my life and never been Barry Island haha!


I do take him for costa. Would it be inappropiate if I was to put a costa on his desk at work?

Why would you not do it? I just want him to be comfy, Knowing him if I said he would offer to pay me for it etc. I know he does, I really feel bad I can't contribute on the same level.

I know he says I don't have to, I feel bad when he pays, he says his credit card gives him money, would they really? I just don't want him going short if you get me

I like the idea of bute park, I know he has worked there many of times when he just wants to get out of his office.

He will be off weekends and I am on shift work, he has said he would mimic my shifts.

As you have some spare cash you can still take him places, use vouchers from this site, get a cheap pizza express meal or orage wed at the cinema. If he insists on expensive places then he should pay.

I think you should get out of the idea of leaving things on his desk at work, people will start to talk and it may get akward, he may not appreciate the gesture no matter how well intentioned. Take him for a costa after work, you can strech out a coffee and cake for a good hour.

I personally would not want to slip into the role of housewife/mother by doing his washing, you work too, you do have spare money so you can contribute. If work is paying him to be away for a month surely they have laundry services provided.

Most of all relax! Enjoy this time together!

Fire_Fox

I don't think there is anything wrong with taking coffee, it's thoughtful and won't interfere with his work if you don't use it as an excuse to hang about. Caffeine could also boost his work performance! Whereas notes or texts are too personal and potentially distracting from work. Do not have your phone out at work even if you normally do, you will be being watched.

My best friend works with her husband and has been taking him lunch for ages, he wouldn't eat half the time otherwise because he is so busy. They both get their work done, no inappropriate contact, socialise with everyone as a group on Fridays, AFAIK it's never been a problem even tho they both have professional roles.

Cardiff_Girl_2

His work won't strangely pay for his washing bills as they are apparently down to him. Last time he was down he went to one of the managers houses and used his machine haha, I'd like to do it for him

I like the after work option. I got some vouchers for a discount at a chinese buffet so can go there and got for drinks in one of the bars.

I just find it romantic walking together in the night if you get me.

I'm still got the butterflies though.

As for expensive places. He lets me pick and he pays. So he doesn't insist if you get me. just hope I have enough cash/vouchers to do all I want to do

Cardiff_Girl_2

I won't have my phone out neither, Not allowed it, Its turned off in my locker

I asked him if theres anything he wants to do whilst he is down here and he said to go to Cwmbran, I don't know why, he said he liked the sound of the place when the train announced it so he wants to go, I really don't know what to do there, I guess its just the shopping centre

Bella_b

I've read your situation with interest as I am in a similar one. I think you should just enjoy spending time with him. I agree it is very hard to be apart but communication is the key. If he really likes you and it sounds like he does he will just do things to make you happy. I wouldn't worry about public transport - the only thing he is wanting to do is spend time with you. Neither me or my bf have cars and can't drive but still manage to see each other about once a month. I would like more but we both have difficult living situations. I know what you mean about feeling guilty about him spending money on you, I feel the same occasionally. I am currently unemployed so have low funds as well and he pays for most things. He doesn't mind but I like to pay my way sometimes as I think it's right. The transport can be pricey so you have to count that in as well.

I agree about the park idea, I went for a walk with my bf when we had a 3 day long weekend break together at beginning of Sept. We went to a park and had a good time. You could also sit down on a bench or grass and just chill. Always fun, just being together.

Enjoying a tv show or movie you both enjoy is good too, great to have a laugh together.

Have fun!

lolly_896

Cardiff_Girl wrote: »

I won't have my phone out neither, Not allowed it, Its turned off in my locker

I asked him if theres anything he wants to do whilst he is down here and he said to go to Cwmbran, I don't know why, he said he liked the sound of the place when the train announced it so he wants to go, I really don't know what to do there, I guess its just the shopping centre

Cwmbran has a decent shopping centre and lovely farm - Greenmeadow Community farm x

Cardiff_Girl_2

I do feel guilty. He pays for the majority of things. He comes down here more than I go up to where he lives as he wants me to save my money. I appreciate what he is saying though.

I do like the park idea though. just cuddle up on a bench. Or snuggled up in bed watching silly tv.

TheConways

I was in Cardiff visiting friends a couple of wkends ago, and they took us to Cafe Citta.

If you can afford 20-30 pounds on a meal for two, this place is absolutely lovely and very reasonably priced for the quality of food.

http://www.tripadvisor.co.uk/Restaurant_Review-g186460-d2024332-Reviews-Cafe_Citta-Cardiff_Southern_Wales_Wales.html

Cardiff_Girl_2

lolly_896 wrote: »

Cwmbran has a decent shopping centre and lovely farm - Greenmeadow Community farm x

Are they close to the railway station, Ive never been Cwmbran