Would you pay to go to a wedding?

balletshoes

Torry_Quine wrote: »

It's a long time ago so I don't remember all the details.:o It was the normal bar in the hotel with the regular customers and they couldn't take the alcohol back through to the function room. The bar in the function room was locked closed. To be honest we were surprised that they agreed knowing that a hotel makes a lot of money from the bar. I can't think though that it's the norm that the bar is not exclusively for the wedding and guests have to use the ordinary bar.

absolutely - but some hotel function rooms don't have a bar in them, so the hotel bar is the one thats used for the wedding guests and the normal hotel guests.

CH27

Brighton_belle wrote: »

CH27, we also had a dry wedding a part from one glass of champaign for a toast. We did it as we had little money and as the entire wedding and reception were over in 3 hrs in an afternoon, added alcohol just seemed irrelevant.
Served some lovely cups of tea with cake and sandwiches though:D.

That sounds lovely

claire16c

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I would eat just before leaving for the wedding so probably 10:30/11am.

I can't remember exactly what I did myself now, but even if I had eaten at 10.30am - which I may well have done if Id gotten up late ish, between then & past 4 is way too long in between food & drink! Especially in the summer.

Last wedding I went to which i think was at 1pm I brought snack bars & crisps in the car which me & DH ate when we arrived at the reception place incase the food took a while & a couple of DH's work colleagues drove to a petrol station on the way to buy sandwiches. They had some snacks at that wedding whilst the photos were being done so it turned out to be ok in the end but we had learnt from the previous time! It was about 30c that day too so no way was I getting a blinding headache like before again.

Gloomendoom

balletshoes wrote: »

I always eat before going to a wedding . Theres always a fair amount of hanging around during the photos, the line-up etc, so I think its a good idea to have eaten beforehand, that way you don't feel ravenous in the waiting time, before you get to the wedding meal.

Again, this is my experience. We had tea, cakes and sandwiches available all day. There was still loads left the next morning. I had victoria sponge for breakfast.

Idiophreak

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Too many people seem to think going to a wedding equals drinking large amounts of alcohol and it becomes the important thing. We wanted it to be a more relaxed family atmosphere and also it meant no problems with people driving home. Interestingly no one I'm aware of had a problem with it and no we didn't mention it before-hand!

:T:T

Have to, strangely, applaud that decision - think it took some guts.

Hate to come across as the resident drunk, but I've honestly experienced a direct proportionality between my enjoyment of the weddings I've been to and the amount of food and drink available...and I think a lot of people look on it the same way...so opting to go semi-dry is rolling the dice a bit, I think...really pleased it went well for you

That said, we did something a little sneaky on our day - we had some champagne on arrival, but mainly cocktails - which weren't overly strong, for the first couple of hours...and only started rolling the bulk of champers and wine out with the food, which didn't really get going til after 7 - so all of the small children had left before anyone started getting really jolly.

edeneve

Personally if you are expected to pay out for your meal i would just send her a congrats card and no present, paying toward the cost of her wedding can be seen as your gift so they can have the wedding how they wanted.

Gloomendoom

Idiophreak wrote: »

:T:T

Have to, strangely, applaud that decision - think it took some guts.

Hate to come across as the resident drunk, but I've honestly experienced a direct proportionality between my enjoyment of the weddings I've been to and the amount of food and drink available...and I think a lot of people look on it the same way...so opting to go semi-dry is rolling the dice a bit, I think...really pleased it went well for you

I've only been to one totally dry wedding and that was an Islamic one.

That said, we did something a little sneaky on our day - we had some champagne on arrival, but mainly cocktails - which weren't overly strong, for the first couple of hours...and only started rolling the bulk of champers and wine out with the food, which didn't really get going til after 7 - so all of the small children had left before anyone started getting really jolly.

We provided a free bar but it was only beer, wine, cider, bubbly and soft drinks, no spirits. It was hard to gauge the quantities that would be needed so we overstocked. In the event the most popular drinks were tea and bubbly. Red wine was the least popular and I think we may even have a few bottles of that left now.

People got jolly but that is all, even the vicar stayed longer than he intended.

cabriolean

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I would think the same. :rotfl:

The people I know tend to use it to indicate optional token/handmade presents nothing that you would buy 'boxed'. So I would take it to mean: a secondhand book with sentimental value, photos, a collage, maybe a really nice bookmark, but DEFINITELY no money OR coffeemakers etc.
So 'no boxed gifts' would result in a lot of small/handmade things......:p

merrydance

Hen night
Just a bit of background story. My niece is getting married in Las Vegas. My family cannot afford to go and have told my sister (her mum) we will not be going. I have 2 grown up daughters neither has been asked to be a bridesmaid, although my niece was bridesmaid at my older daughter's wedding 2 years ago. I have now been asked to go to the hen do. It's going to be held in Brighton and will cost £100 plus £100 spending money. I am very broke at the moment and would like to spend the money on other things ie one of my daughter's is having a baby in May, and it's my other daughters birthday in May and she would like us to see a musical in London.
My sister is cross with me and said I should go as I am not going to the wedding. I thought hen dos were for young people - I am 56 for goodness sake and don't want to be stuck in a house with a load of twenty year olds giggling and getting drunk. What would you do? Am I just being an old sour puss?

Mojisola

merrydance wrote: »

I am very broke at the moment and would like to spend the money on other things ie one of my daughter's is having a baby in May, and it's my other daughters birthday in May and she would like us to see a musical in London.

My sister is cross with me and said I should go as I am not going to the wedding.

What would you do?

Keep the money for my own family!

Tell sister if she wants to me to go so desperately, she can pay for me.