Would you pay to go to a wedding?

Person_one

Idiophreak wrote: »

Don't know if trend's the right word....I don't view it as a fad particularly...It's just the net's a great place to share information to save printing it out over and over and posting it to 150 different people...I can't see wedding sites passing, but getting more ubiquitous (that *is* the right word ) as time goes on.

I agree that they probably aren't going anywhere, but by trend I wasn't really referring to using the internet as a planning/communication tool but the specific websites dedicated to that couple and their wedding in much the same way as a promotional website that appears a few months before a film is released.

Person_one

daisiegg wrote: »

Has nobody noticed that people become completely clueless when it comes to arranging travel and accommodation for weddings? I had seen people mentioning this on the weddings board and thought 'nonsense, that won't happen to my family and friends' - but no, I have been shocked by the number of guests who are seasoned travellers getting in touch asking us where to stay and how to get around etc etc. Being able to point them to the wedding website has saved lots of time sending emails and information and so on.

Chicken and egg maybe? As people have got used to getting little maps and hotel discount codes in wedding invitations they've forgotten how to do it themselves!

daisiegg

Person_one wrote: »

Chicken and egg maybe? As people have got used to getting little maps and hotel discount codes in wedding invitations they've forgotten how to do it themselves!

Well, I didn't lay the egg, I just have to.....cook it.?.?.erm....struggling with this metaphor :rotfl:

Even if that is the case it is not the fault of current brides and grooms that people seem to have become clueless, we just have to find ways to deal with it (cooking the egg?!) and a website is as good a way as any (like...doing the egg in a microwave! :rotfl:)

I must stop talking about eggs. Particularly as they would kill me and I have never cooked one in my life. Can you even microwave eggs?!

daisiegg

Person_one wrote: »

I agree that they probably aren't going anywhere, but by trend I wasn't really referring to using the internet as a planning/communication tool but the specific websites dedicated to that couple and their wedding in much the same way as a promotional website that appears a few months before a film is released.

But they're not really 'promotional'! I am still struggling to see what your problem is with them?

jtr2803

74jax wrote: »

We just wrote on the website that we had been asked by so people what to buy us and we don't want anything so save your cash and use it on yourselves.

We STILL then had people say, if we didn't say what we wanted they would give us cash.

So we said that's lovely of you, and what we were thinking of doing was making a donation to RNLI as it's a charity we donate to monthly, is close to us as my brother and FIL were in the navy and H2B kitesurfs and so recognises the importance of the RNLI.

Some people weren't even happy with that...............

Yep, had the same problems with charity donations, people don't seem to care that's what we would prefer.

I just cannot stand those nasty little poems that people send having downloaded them from the internet, so impersonal and crass.

Fortunately only one person has asked me outright so far and seemed more than happy with my suggestion that she puts it towards her unborn baby and buying his/her things.

daisiegg

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I really don't see why you need to put an RSVP in though. If I get an invite I'm quite capable of getting a card and sending it back.

It does surprise me that people feel it necessary to get in touch for directions etc though.

I have not seen a wedding RSVP card in a shop, do they still make them? (To be fair I haven't looked closely). We did receive one from an elderly aunty but everyone else was pleased to RSVP via the website. Why on earth not when it saves them the price of a card and a stamp?!

Torry_Quine

daisiegg wrote: »

I have not seen a wedding RSVP card in a shop, do they still make them? (To be fair I haven't looked closely). We did receive one from an elderly aunty but everyone else was pleased to RSVP via the website. Why on earth not when it saves them the price of a card and a stamp?!

Yes they still make them. I was saying though that I don't understand why an RSVP would be included with the invitation.

lazer

TBH I would much rather receive an invitation with directions in it - as I don't ahve a printer to print them from a silly website.

My guests would not have been impressed with a request to RSVP on the website - as many can't use the internet - it is wrong to assume that everyone ahs easy internet access.

We included in our invitations, the invitations, the RSVP cards and SAE's (for ease of return), directions to the church from various places, directions from church to reception venue and list of available accommodation.

This was all that was necessary - a website wouldn't have given anymore information.

The only benefit I can see is the photo gallery part - it would be nice to see all the guests photos!.

daisiegg

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Yes they still make them. I was saying though that I don't understand why an RSVP would be included with the invitation.

Dunno, for ease? To ensure you guests will actually RSVP by making it a bit easier for them so they don't have to go out to a shop and find a card? I don't know, every wedding invitation I have received has either had a little RSVP card in with it, or a website. I just thought it was the norm I suppose!

daisiegg

lazer wrote: »

TBH I would much rather receive an invitation with directions in it - as I don't ahve a printer to print them from a silly website.

My guests would not have been impressed with a request to RSVP on the website - as many can't use the internet - it is wrong to assume that everyone ahs easy internet access.

We included in our invitations, the invitations, the RSVP cards and SAE's (for ease of return), directions to the church from various places, directions from church to reception venue and list of available accommodation.

This was all that was necessary - a website wouldn't have given anymore information.

The only benefit I can see is the photo gallery part - it would be nice to see all the guests photos!.

But surely you make the decision based on your knowledge of your guests. There should be no need for assumptions (if one doesn't know one's guests well enough to know whether or not they are online, why invite them to a wedding?!) I knew for a fact that every single one of my guests has Internet access and is good at using a computer. Even those over 80!

Also, my whole point was that a website means you don't have to include all those extra bits of paper that you mentioned with your invitations. I can understand still sending the paper if you know you have guests who don't have Internet access but in a case like mine where I knew they all did, it made far more sense to do the website.

My cousin got married in January and the invitations just had a date and a place (not even a time, not even a full address) - the rest of the information was given via Facebook! :rotfl: