Would you pay to go to a wedding?

claire16c

Torry_Quine wrote: »

If I went to a wedding at 12md then I wouldn't have expected the meal before 4pm. You served food while the photos were taken which is unusual so telling people was a good idea.

It think abnormal is somewhat harsh! Unusual yes but we had no-one drunk and anyone who wanted a drink that badly could go to the bar. We just didn't serve it at the wedding itself other than for the toast.

I'd never been to a wedding before with such a large gap, the others I've been to have had things like tea & cake, or little appetiser things on trays, and at least drinks! It would have been useful to have an idea as it was in August, 32c and over 4 hours with no food but more importantly drink was awful!

And that was just the time at the wedding - most people probably had breakfast at maybe 9am or something so we were all starving when the food came round. I would have brought snacks & a drink in the car with me to eat whilst the photos were going on if I had known.

Torry_Quine

balletshoes wrote: »

I don't think thats unusual, thats the norm at most traditional weddings I've been to in Scotland. It doesn't stop folk getting drunk at bar prices if they've a mind to though - there is one branch of my family where you can pretty much guarantee there will be drunken fighting in the hotel car park at the end of most of their family gatherings.

It's very unusual. There is usually a bar in the function room at any wedding we've been to which is what we didn't have. Instead we served only soft drinks which people could buy if they wanted but if they felt it necessary to have alcohol they had to leave the wedding and go to the normal hotel bar.

claire16c wrote: »

I'd never been to a wedding before with such a large gap, the others I've been to have had things like tea & cake, or little appetiser things on trays, and at least drinks! It would have been useful to have an idea as it was in August, 32c and over 4 hours with no food but more importantly drink was awful!

And that was just the time at the wedding - most people probably had breakfast at maybe 9am or something so we were all starving when the food came round. I would have brought snacks & a drink in the car with me to eat whilst the photos were going on if I had known.

I doubt I would eat my breakfast at 9am before a mid-day wedding and certainly not had nibbles before the meal.

CH27

Torry_Quine wrote: »

It's very unusual. There is usually a bar in the function room at any wedding we've been to which is what we didn't have. Instead we served only soft drinks which people could buy if they wanted but if they felt it necessary to have alcohol they had to leave the wedding and go to the normal hotel bar.



I doubt I would eat my breakfast at 9am before a mid-day wedding and certainly not had nibbles before the meal.

Can I ask why you did that? I'm not judging, i'm just curious

Torry_Quine

CH27 wrote: »

Can I ask why you did that? I'm not judging, i'm just curious

Too many people seem to think going to a wedding equals drinking large amounts of alcohol and it becomes the important thing. We wanted it to be a more relaxed family atmosphere and also it meant no problems with people driving home. Interestingly no one I'm aware of had a problem with it and no we didn't mention it before-hand!

balletshoes

Torry_Quine wrote: »

It's very unusual. There is usually a bar in the function room at any wedding we've been to which is what we didn't have. Instead we served only soft drinks which people could buy if they wanted
but if they felt it necessary to have alcohol they had to leave the wedding and go to the normal hotel bar.

do you mean they had to go through one set of doors in the hotel (from the function room where the wedding was being held) to another room in the same hotel? I've been to a fair few weddings where that was the case. Or did they have to go somewhere else completely?

I always eat before going to a wedding . Theres always a fair amount of hanging around during the photos, the line-up etc, so I think its a good idea to have eaten beforehand, that way you don't feel ravenous in the waiting time, before you get to the wedding meal.

CH27

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Too many people seem to think going to a wedding equals drinking large amounts of alcohol and it becomes the important thing. We wanted it to be a more relaxed family atmosphere and also it meant no problems with people driving home. Interestingly no one I'm aware of had a problem with it and no we didn't mention it before-hand!

Fair enough

Brighton_belle

CH27, we also had a dry wedding a part from one glass of champaign for a toast. We did it as we had little money and as the entire wedding and reception were over in 3 hrs in an afternoon, added alcohol just seemed irrelevant.
Served some lovely cups of tea with cake and sandwiches though:D.

claire16c

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I doubt I would eat my breakfast at 9am before a mid-day wedding and certainly not had nibbles before the meal.

When would you have it then? And when would you have some kind of lunch or snack? It's a very awkward time if someone gets married at mid day & they don't provide the guests with food when the photos are being done.

Torry_Quine

balletshoes wrote: »

do you mean they had to go through one set of doors in the hotel (from the function room where the wedding was being held) to another room in the same hotel? I've been to a fair few weddings where that was the case. Or did they have to go somewhere else completely?

I always eat before going to a wedding . Theres always a fair amount of hanging around during the photos, the line-up etc, so I think its a good idea to have eaten beforehand, that way you don't feel ravenous in the waiting time, before you get to the wedding meal.

It's a long time ago so I don't remember all the details.:o It was the normal bar in the hotel with the regular customers and they couldn't take the alcohol back through to the function room. The bar in the function room was locked closed. To be honest we were surprised that they agreed knowing that a hotel makes a lot of money from the bar. I can't think though that it's the norm that the bar is not exclusively for the wedding and guests have to use the ordinary bar.

Torry_Quine

claire16c wrote: »

When would you have it then? And when would you have some kind of lunch or snack? It's a very awkward time if someone gets married at mid day & they don't provide the guests with food when the photos are being done.

I would eat just before leaving for the wedding so probably 10:30/11am.