Would you pay to go to a wedding?

claire16c

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Any wedding I've been to has had the ceremony then the photos and then the meal. In the evening about 10pm there is some kind of buffet. I would always have lunch if a wedding were mid-afternoon.

Genuine question, why do people need a web-site?

I think a time line is useful so you do know whether to eat before hand or not.

One wedding I went to I think the ceremony was around 12ish but as it was in a church it went on for ages then there was no food and only champagne to drink whilst about 2 hours of photos were taken. By the time the meal was served it was gone 4pm & I had a bad headache from no drink - I don't like champagne & I was driving anyway. So now I always bring water with me in the car just incase!

So if I'd known that I would have eaten a small lunch at maybe 11ish.

And at my own wedding - which was 2pm I used a time line on the invites to show that some food was going to be available whilst we were getting our photos done, so that people didn't eat lunch before they arrived- which you probably normally would for a wedding at that time of day. My SIL's partner forgot her invite & didn't see the timeline & had lunch before so she was stuffed when more food came around - not that she really minded! . But it was useful for my guests.

I also put rsvp's in. Makes it easier for the guests - and even these some people take ages to send back.

Gloomendoom

daisiegg wrote: »

Shows how what's 'normal' is entirely subjective!

Absolutely. An alcohol free wedding is abnormal.

Torry_Quine

Gloomendoom wrote: »

What is the problem with including extra info? It makes guests lives easier. If they live hundreds of miles away they may be unfamiliar with local taxi firms or accommodation.

I wish we had thought of using a website. We did set up an email address for RSVPs or queries (shock horror!)

It's not a problem, just not something that I personally have ever come across. Then again I wouldn't and indeed didn't expect anyone to travel hundreds of miles. Some people's weddings seem very complicated these days, sorry.

I suppose I'm used to traditional arrangements.

Torry_Quine

claire16c wrote: »

I think a time line is useful so you do know whether to eat before hand or not.

One wedding I went to I think the ceremony was around 12ish but as it was in a church it went on for ages then there was no food and only champagne to drink whilst about 2 hours of photos were taken. By the time the meal was served it was gone 4pm & I had a bad headache from no drink - I don't like champagne & I was driving anyway. So now I always bring water with me in the car just incase!

So if I'd known that I would have eaten a small lunch at maybe 11ish.

And at my own wedding - which was 2pm I used a time line on the invites to show that some food was going to be available whilst we were getting our photos done, so that people didn't eat lunch before they arrived- which you probably normally would for a wedding at that time of day. My SIL's partner forgot her invite & didn't see the timeline & had lunch before so she was stuffed when more food came around - not that she really minded! . But it was useful for my guests.

I also put rsvp's in. Makes it easier for the guests - and even these some people take ages to send back.

If I went to a wedding at 12md then I wouldn't have expected the meal before 4pm. You served food while the photos were taken which is unusual so telling people was a good idea.

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Absolutely. An alcohol free wedding is abnormal.

Jesus would be spinning in his grave. If he had one.

It think abnormal is somewhat harsh! Unusual yes but we had no-one drunk and anyone who wanted a drink that badly could go to the bar. We just didn't serve it at the wedding itself other than for the toast.

Gloomendoom

Torry_Quine wrote: »

It's not a problem, just not something that I personally have ever come across. Then again I wouldn't and indeed didn't expect anyone to travel hundreds of miles. Some people's weddings seem very complicated these days, sorry.

I suppose I'm used to traditional arrangements.

Well, I suppose it is what you are used to. My family is large and dispersed. I'm used to travelling hundreds of miles to visit relations. My wife wanted to get married in the same church her parents did, so that meant my family were going to have to travel.

Torry_Quine

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Well, I suppose it is what you are used to. My family is large and dispersed. I'm used to travelling hundreds of miles to visit relations. My wife wanted to get married in the same church her parents did, so that meant my family were going to have to travel.

I have family in Canada and New Zealand but never expected them to come although invitations were sent as a courtesy. When cousins down South got married I was invited but again declined due to the distance.

Gloomendoom

Torry_Quine wrote: »

It think abnormal is somewhat harsh! Unusual yes but we had no-one drunk and anyone who wanted a drink that badly could go to the bar. We just didn't serve it at the wedding itself other than for the toast.

In that case I apologise. Your previous post implied that your wedding was completely dry. Having been to weddings where the 'package' limited us to half a glass of wine and beer was over £7 a pint at the bar, I was determined to ensure that our guests wouldn't want for booze. Hence the free bar.

If I told you how much bubbly we got through, you would probably faint!

Torry_Quine

Gloomendoom wrote: »

In that case I apologise. Your previous post implied that your wedding was completely dry. Having been to weddings where the 'package' limited us to half a glass of wine and beer was over £7 a pint at the bar, I was determined to ensure that our guests wouldn't want for booze. Hence the free bar.

If I told you how much bubbly we got through, you would probably faint!

No problem, I probably worded it badly. A free bar. :beer: must have cost a fortune!

Gloomendoom

Torry_Quine wrote: »

No problem, I probably worded it badly. A free bar. :beer: must have cost a fortune!

No, my parents went to France and got it cheap. Our wedding was done to a budget but we focussed on food and drink. Again, I've been to weddings where I have had to buy chips on the way home. Nobody likse to be hungry.

balletshoes

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Unusual yes but we had no-one drunk and anyone who wanted a drink that badly could go to the bar. We just didn't serve it at the wedding itself other than for the toast.

I don't think thats unusual, thats the norm at most traditional weddings I've been to in Scotland. It doesn't stop folk getting drunk at bar prices if they've a mind to though - there is one branch of my family where you can pretty much guarantee there will be drunken fighting in the hotel car park at the end of most of their family gatherings.