Would you pay to go to a wedding?

lazer

daisiegg wrote: »

Dunno, for ease? To ensure you guests will actually RSVP by making it a bit easier for them so they don't have to go out to a shop and find a card? I don't know, every wedding invitation I have received has either had a little RSVP card in with it, or a website. I just thought it was the norm I suppose!

Thats why we included them - for ease, so as not to inconvience our guests and to encourage them to actually RSVP

daisiegg

lazer wrote: »

Thats why we included them - for ease, so as not to inconvience our guests and to encourage them to actually RSVP

Unfortunately it does seem necessary - the number of guests who didn't bother to actually RSVP and just assumed I would know they were coming really surprised me! In some cases the first I heard of their intention to come was them announcing on Facebook they had just booked their hotel...

Torry_Quine

daisiegg wrote: »

Dunno, for ease? To ensure you guests will actually RSVP by making it a bit easier for them so they don't have to go out to a shop and find a card? I don't know, every wedding invitation I have received has either had a little RSVP card in with it, or a website. I just thought it was the norm I suppose!

I thought the opposite as I've never had an invitation which included an RSVP or indeed a link to a web-site!

daisiegg

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I thought the opposite as I've never had an invitation which included an RSVP or indeed a link to a web-site!

Shows how what's 'normal' is entirely subjective! I don't know how old you are (no offence meant ) but I am mid twenties and wedding invitations would have come from people of a similar age and only within the last couple of years. So that's all that's in my frame of reference!

Idiophreak

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Yes they still make them. I was saying though that I don't understand why an RSVP would be included with the invitation.

It's just about making people's lives easier.

Lord knows you need to look no further than this thread to work out there will be people out there who say
"can you believe, they sent this invite and DEMANDED that we RSVP by a certain date...I had to go and buy a card....a stamp...drive to the postbox! People are so selfish..." and the rest. If you can afford it, including an RSVP card and SAE seems the option that causes your guests minimum hassle...

Torry_Quine

daisiegg wrote: »

Shows how what's 'normal' is entirely subjective! I don't know how old you are (no offence meant ) but I am mid twenties and wedding invitations would have come from people of a similar age and only within the last couple of years. So that's all that's in my frame of reference!

No offence taken. It did occur to me that it was a generational thing. but didn't want to assume.:rotfl:

Idiophreak wrote: »

It's just about making people's lives easier.

Lord knows you need to look no further than this thread to work out there will be people out there who say
"can you believe, they sent this invite and DEMANDED that we RSVP by a certain date...I had to go and buy a card....a stamp...drive to the postbox! People are so selfish..." and the rest. If you can afford it, including an RSVP card and SAE seems the option that causes your guests minimum hassle...

Sadly right. some people seem to need to be spoon-fed at every stage.:o

Person_one

daisiegg wrote: »

But they're not really 'promotional'! I am still struggling to see what your problem is with them?

I don't remember saying I had a problem with them...

I don't love them, but I don't have to visit them, usually!

Saturnalia

In summary, whatever the heck you do, someone will have a strop about it. Only at the bride though. They can do no right and grooms can do no wrong.

Person_one

Saturnalia wrote: »

In summary, whatever the heck you do, someone will have a strop about it. Only at the bride though. They can do no right and grooms can do no wrong.

I definitely agree with your second sentence, sexism is all around!

Gloomendoom

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Yes they still make them. I was saying though that I don't understand why an RSVP would be included with the invitation.

What is the problem with including extra info? It makes guests lives easier. If they live hundreds of miles away they may be unfamiliar with local taxi firms or accommodation.

I wish we had thought of using a website. We did set up an email address for RSVPs or queries (shock horror!)