Would you pay to go to a wedding?

lazer

Idiophreak wrote: »

Looking at it the other way, though....If you assume a toaster lasts 10 years, you'd be up to 30 years of using toasters to other people's tastes before you could finally choose one that you liked...

And of course that assumes that toaster technology doesn't move forward in the next 30 years

I would rather be able to lift a toaster from the attic or storage cupboard and think isn't it lovely to not have to go out and buy one, this is what x&y got us for a wedding present.

To me a toaster given as a gift is always better than one of my choice that matches our colour scheme. I would rather look at something and smile remembering our wedding day than look at a toaster that matches a carefully co-ordinated kitchen.

My kitchen in a bit mish mash and I love it - does it matter if my kettle, toaster, Toastie maker, George Foreman etc don't all match - they are all functional.

I love everyone of our presents because of the thought that went into them.

My husband and I both had our own home before marriage, but that doesn't mean we didn't want household stuff - my house was kitted out with a variety of stuff from house clearences, poundshops etc and its nice to finally have good stuff!

Saturnalia

The swimsuits thing - I went to a wedding last year where the wedding itself, afternoon meal and night do were all at the same hotel. In the invitation there was an info sheet enclosed, with the phone number of the hotel and the code we needed to quote to get the block-booking discount on a bedroom. We couldn't book with the discount online so I did it over the phone and didn't look at the hotel's website.

It wasn't until I got there that I found out there was a pool we could use before breakfast the next day. About half the guests did but the other half hadn't brought swim togs.

No harm done, I'm not massively keen on swimming, it wasn't part of the actual wedding but a day-after activity, and all the guests had breakfast together anyway. And I was doing something else the next day without going home so had packed light. But it would have been nice to have known swimming was an option.

glitter03

Just seen this, made me chuckle


http://www.netmums.com/coffeehouse/home-life-8/brides-weddings-503/892980-help-asing-money-wedding-related.html

Torry_Quine

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Huh? That's what anybody that wanted to give a gift did do. There was no list.



So you would know what to expect . Like the half mile walk from the church through the woods down to where the reception was held. Something that may not have been to everyone's taste or capability (in the event only a couple of elderly guests elected to be driven.) Like the fact that wedding was organised along the lines of a garden party/village fete with plenty of activities for adults and children alike to get involved in (hence the need to forewarn parents of the likelihood of messed up clothes.) So that you would have some idea of when to expect to be fed or entertained.

I could go on.



Not even if it was 29°C on the day and a pool was available? It was very, very popular.

Our wedding would possibly not be to everybody's taste. However, one rather rueful remark from a guest has stuck in my mind... "I didn't realise weddings could be like this."

We had fun, our guests had fun and because it was done 'in house', it didn't cost a fortune.



Edit: Yes, I know. Everybody says that.

By putting contact details for what to get as a gift is for me a step too far. I wouldn't have walked in the example given and have never felt it necessary to be told when food will be served.

As I said anything unusual should be mentioned as people can make appropriate arrangements. The thought of changing from my smart clothes to go swimming seems strange to me at a wedding and I never stay overnight at a hotel for a wedding but always go home.


I'm really pleased that you had the wedding that was right for you and people enjoyed it. We did the same and had no alcohol served which no doubt would shock some people.

Gloomendoom

Torry_Quine wrote: »

By putting contact details for what to get as a gift is for me a step too far. I wouldn't have walked in the example given and have never felt it necessary to be told when food will be served.

Reading this makes me realise how lucky my wife and I are to have the family and friends we do.

As I said anything unusual should be mentioned as people can make appropriate arrangements. The thought of changing from my smart clothes to go swimming seems strange to me at a wedding and I never stay overnight at a hotel for a wedding but always go home.

Using the pool wasn't compulsory. Going home after the wedding wasn't an option for roughly half the guests for a variety of reasons. My side of the family lives over 200 miles away. My best man lives on a Scottish island. In addition the party didn't end until 2 am and we had a free bar so some guests were in no fit state to travel far.

I'm really pleased that you had the wedding that was right for you and people enjoyed it. We did the same and had no alcohol served which no doubt would shock some people.

Thank you.

Are you Wee Free by any chance?

Torry_Quine

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Reading this makes me realise how lucky my wife and I are to have the family and friends we do.



Using the pool wasn't compulsory. Going home after the wedding wasn't an option for roughly half the guests for a variety of reasons. My side of the family lives over 200 miles away. My best man lives on a Scottish island. In addition the party didn't end until 2 am and we had a free bar so some guests were in no fit state to travel far.



Thank you.

Are you Wee Free by any chance?

Sorry but I wouldn't be travelling to a wedding that distance away and yes that's my choice.

Yes the swimming wasn't compulsory and I acknowledged that, it just seems strange as does the idea that guests have to be continually entertained.

No I'm not wee free and have nothing against having a drink but comments like 'some guests were in no state to travel' are why there was no alcohol. I don't understand why a celebration means having too much to drink

I am very priveleged to have the family and friends that I had when I married who were able to give wonderful presents without any need to be told who to contact.

totallybored

Torry_Quine wrote: »

By putting contact details for what to get as a gift is for me a step too far. I wouldn't have walked in the example given and have never felt it necessary to be told when food will be served.

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It can be useful to know when food is served as I discovered at one wedding. It was a 12 o'clock service and and evening 'disco' (eugh). I stupidly assumed this meant plenty of food. The service lasted forever, the happy couple then spent hours on photos and there were a couple of blini with a drink during this. The meal was dragged out and didn't finish until nearly 6. However, the portions were very miserly and a few guests tried to ask for more food to no avail (posh hotel btw). By 10pm no more food in sight and we had to find a local garage to walk to so we could buy crisps. They also asked for cash towards a honeymoon despite them both earning loads.

I tend to be quite a misery where weddings are concerned now and turn down an invite and give the couple £50 instead. Much cheaper than days off work and hotel stays.

Torry_Quine

totallybored wrote: »

It can be useful to know when food is served as I discovered at one wedding. It was a 12 o'clock service and and evening 'disco' (eugh). I stupidly assumed this meant plenty of food. The service lasted forever, the happy couple then spent hours on photos and there were a couple of blini with a drink during this. The meal was dragged out and didn't finish until nearly 6. However, the portions were very miserly and a few guests tried to ask for more food to no avail (posh hotel btw). By 10pm no more food in sight and we had to find a local garage to walk to so we could buy crisps. They also asked for cash towards a honeymoon despite them both earning loads.

I tend to be quite a misery where weddings are concerned now and turn down an invite and give the couple £50 instead. Much cheaper than days off work and hotel stays.

To be honest I've never been to a wedding like that as regards food and would have expected it to be mentioned that there was no evening buffet as that is the norm. It was possibly a little later than usual for the wedding meal but not hugely.

totallybored

Torry_Quine wrote: »

To be honest I've never been to a wedding like that as regards food and would have expected it to be mentioned that there was no evening buffet as that is the norm. It was possibly a little later than usual for the wedding meal but not hugely.

Indeed, everyone expected some sort of buffet. The meal wasn't late compared to a lot of weddings I've been to but it was an early service so everyone was starving. Worst wedding I've been to.

meritaten

The bluddy mother of the bride has just been on the phone(again! she is doing my head in - every week its something- you would think I was a relative not just a guest!). Well, this time its 'do you want me to order your buttonholes/corsage when we order ours?'
Not in a million years! I know that bride is having a very expensive florist and no way will I pay £15 for one flower head and a bit of greenery!
Sod that - I will do what I always do and make up my own!