Would you pay to go to a wedding?

FunWithFlags

embob74 wrote: »

OP - did the couple not check out venues and their costs prior to arranging to get married?
We checked out a few wedding fairs and most venues have their costs on their website.
I just think £15 is quite cheap as a cost for a wedding breakfast - places we looked at were all around the £30 mark. How come they have only just realised they can't afford it? A venue is one of the first things you arrange!

I don't know how to explain it without sounded like I'm b*tching about her really! There was no realising they can't afford it. She decided she wanted that venue so that was going to be her venue regardless and then the "jokey" requests for financial help with the wedding started. I'm guessing no one helped out and this is her way of keeping the venue she wants. It's hard to explain what she is like. A part of me is actually wondering whether it's even officially booked with the venue and if she is just sending out the invites assuming she will be able to book it when all her guests pay for their meal and she has the cash in her hand. I must admit, I've been on the clubs website and checked out the costs now so I'm beginning to think they booked it without researching cost properly or they genuinely thought the jokey requests for help would work.

Bryando

My sister is due to get married and has said we have to be in kilts! I HATE the idea of wearing one of them and we have a Welsh surname!

My head says she is bang out of order for giving all of us directions on what to wear. I have said this to her and was told , a well.

Should I just ''chill'' and my opinion is wrong?

andygb

FunWithFlags wrote: »

I don't know how to explain it without sounded like I'm b*tching about her really! There was no realising they can't afford it. She decided she wanted that venue so that was going to be her venue regardless and then the "jokey" requests for financial help with the wedding started. I'm guessing no one helped out and this is her way of keeping the venue she wants. It's hard to explain what she is like. A part of me is actually wondering whether it's even officially booked with the venue and if she is just sending out the invites assuming she will be able to book it when all her guests pay for their meal and she has the cash in her hand. I must admit, I've been on the clubs website and checked out the costs now so I'm beginning to think they booked it without researching cost properly or they genuinely thought the jokey requests for help would work.

I don't think that anyone on here thinks that you are "!!!!!ing" about the bride to be, just enquiring to see whther it is common practice (which it isn't).
She sounds a pretty impossible person to be around, someone who constantly feels the need to show off, play at one upmanship. She is also quite deluded, because all these things come at a price, and it sounds as if she cannot afford to play this game.

NewKittenHelp

Bryando wrote: »

My sister is due to get married and has said we have to be in kilts! I HATE the idea of wearing one of them and we have a Welsh surname!

My head says she is bang out of order for giving all of us directions on what to wear. I have said this to her and was told , a well.

Should I just ''chill'' and my opinion is wrong?

Do you have a kilt? Is she paying for them? If you don't, and she isn't, tell her where she can shove it.

Bryando

No,never worn one! Ha,we will have to pay/rent one. On top of paying for a room in a hotel !! She is my sister but the last times I was TOLD what to wear was in the Army! If I don't go, probably fall out with me and maybe the family.

Jinx

Since when did it all become sooooo difficult? Bridezillas seem to be abounding!

I wouldn't go to a wedding if expected to pay for my own meal unless it was fully notified upfront and it was a low key affair ie they couldnt afford it otherwise.... If its a posh dress, flowers etc but the guests paying for the meal thats so not on in my book.

Re kilts etc I think guests should be able to wear what they please - surely the point is being there.

meritaten

my DD wanted the men in the wedding party (Groom, Best Man, Ushers and her dad) to wear kilts. she got her way with everyone except her dad - who emphatically told her 'I am not giving you away wearing a bloody skirt', and he wore a lovely suit! DD just laughed! Everyone else could wear what they liked!
but she and her partner paid for everything themselves - including the rooms in the 'luxury' hotel for the family. a sit down meal after the ceremony and an evening buffet for the extra 100 guests the venue couldnt accomodate for the actual ceremony.

GobbledyGook

I think if you are going to insist on people wearing certain things then you should pay for them.

There seems to be a new trend for people picking expensive bridesmaid/usher outfits then expecting your bridesmaids to foot the bill and I, personally, think that is rude.

dontone

Just mentioned this thread to my DH.
We are both glad that we took off to Vegas and got married.

Craftyscholar

meritaten wrote: »

my DD wanted the men in the wedding party (Groom, Best Man, Ushers and her dad) to wear kilts. she got her way with everyone except her dad - who emphatically told her 'I am not giving you away wearing a bloody skirt', and he wore a lovely suit! DD just laughed! Everyone else could wear what they liked!
but she and her partner paid for everything themselves - including the rooms in the 'luxury' hotel for the family. a sit down meal after the ceremony and an evening buffet for the extra 100 guests the venue couldnt accomodate for the actual ceremony.

Worn by men who are used to wearing them kilts look fantastic.
If her dad thinks a kilt is a 'bloody skirt' that suggests that any Scottish links are very tenuous.
Why would you want people to wear the national costume of another country at your wedding?