Funeral clothes for a toddler.

GlasweJen

I've never heard of invites for a funeral! My family are the opposite and the entire family is expected to attend the service.

For my aunts funeral all of the younger women wore pink tops, my aunt died of breast cancer and was a counsellor, befriender and general volunteer for one of the big breast cancer charities. The older women wore all black but all complimented our tops and didn't say anything about us having daffodils and pink roses to place in her coffin.

lemondropp

SevenOfNine wrote: »

PS Should have added, put him in footie strip, he'll look adorable. ".

Erm no.

Unless it is a request of the deceased or family having themed clothing like that is just a bit rude, and football strips are never "adorable".

He is a toddler, there is no need for extremely formal black suits. As long as he is wearing something smart and comfortable, never mind any moans from the more conservative funeral attenders.

jackieb

SevenOfNine wrote: »

Stop 'sharing' with other mourners what you'll be dressing him in - you'll avoid 'tutting' that way. If comments made at funeral just say "it's what his Grandad would have wanted".

I agree. Someone has died, why is the concern over what a 20 month old is going to wear to the funeral? Why did the subject even come up? Saying nothing, and just turning up with what you were going to wear in the first place would have been better.

indebtinsussex

when my nan in law died my son was about 3 and just wore the smartest clothes he had in the wardrobe

I just took him out when he got a bit restless, and apart from asking at the top of his voice what was in the box (the coffin) to my embarrassment and to the amusement of everyone else he was absolutely fine and a welcome distraction to fil

GobbledyGook

For funerals I either dress mine smartly (but not suits and overly adult clothes as I don't like children looking like little adults personally) or either a favourite outfit of the deceased person or something that they bought. At my grandmother's funeral my eldest wore a beautiful pink dress that Nana had bought her and absolutely loved to see her wear.

I think taking children to funerals is entirely the perspective of their parents and the wider family. I personally don't understand how we expect children to learn how to deal with funerals and weddings if we never take them to them, but that's just me.

Sorry for your loss OP x

SevenOfNine

lemondropp wrote: »

Erm no.

Unless it is a request of the deceased or family having themed clothing like that is just a bit rude, and football strips are never "adorable".

As a 'newbie' you chose not to read all the posts before joining in then?

I'll quote the OP who is referring to the deceased Grandad:
"would no doubt be telling me to dress him in his Arsenal strip and really give them something to tut about".

JC9297

thatgirlsam wrote: »

I find this sad - we seem to be really 'hung up' on death in this country! We don't talk about it, don't discuss it, don't tell the children! etc

If I die I really hope people feel free to bring children to my funeral! Death is part of life and I think we should stop shying away from it

Whilst death might be a bit of a scary subject for children, I do wonder how much of this is brought about the adults opinions and reactions to it

I may be wrong but I didn't understand McKneff to mean that young children should be protected from death, rather that the occasion will be lost on them and they may be bored and/or disruptive.

Tigsteroonie

We took Andrew to a family funeral when he was about 20 months. He wore dark trousers, a plain white top, and a dark winter coat (Mr T bargain) as we were expected to stand outside at the cemetery afterwards. I sat at the back of the church and kept him in his buggy, so that we could leave quickly if his random noises because too much or too inappropriate (it was a formal Catholic funeral). Nobody commented on his white top at the tea afterwards, most people that had worn suits removed their jackets to show a white shirt anyway so he wasn't out of place.

jumpingjackd

I put my young daughter (2) all in white at my father's funeral. When the children were older they were put in their smartest clothes, usually white shirt and tie for the boys and smart dress for the girls.
To be honest don't think anyone will actually notice or care what they wear as they will have other things on their mind

OrkneyStar

Also agree that sounds fine. [STRIKE]Some folk might not take a toddler to a funeral though, but I presume you have thought this through already [/STRIKE](yes you have, just read your other post!). If you really feel he needs something smarter have a look in some of the charity shops for a wee smart jacket or something?
I hope it goes as well as a funeral can, I actually think seeing a wee one there might be a nice thing, remembering the older relative but seeing hope in the future of the new generations?
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