Funeral clothes for a toddler.

rachbc

I'd treat the tutters in exactly the same style you treat the naysayers on here. Your decision to take him and what he wears are no one but immediately families business. My son has been to several family memebers funerals and has always behaved very well

Condolences to your family.

delain

If the tutters are bothering you you may find a suit in a charity shop... I've seen a few.

I'd just dress him in whatever you like as long as its smartish.

Errata

Dress the toddler in what he feels most comfortable in, and if that's jeans fair enough although tbh denim is fairly unforgiving fabric and I wouldn't have thought it would feel comfy to a toddler.

nottslass_2

IMO Funerals should be a celebration of a life that has been lived,one that has been full of laughter,smiles and happy times.

Put your DS in his favorite outfit and say good bye in the way his grandfather would have wanted..............

My DS was 2.5 when my dad died and he stood on a chair dancing and clapping his hands at the funeral - he certainly made us all smile.

londonsurrey

Clean clothes and someone ready to take him out if he starts making too much noise is more than enough courtesy.

As for the tutters, you can reassure them that they won't have to worry about him or you attending their funerals.

marisco_2

I am sorry for your loss. Personally I would do just as you are planning to. Dark trousers and a dark top are totally suitable for a 20 month old. I dont really understand the reaction of your family members. Do they really expect such a young child to be suited and booted. Unrealistic and he would no doubt be uncomfy and kick up a fuss, thus taking away from the quiet respectful goodbye you are all planning.

SevenOfNine

sulkisu wrote: »

Thank you for your replies. The jeans are not the problem, it's the fact that it isn't a suit. His grandfather (bless him) was probably one of the most irreverent people I met and would no doubt be telling me to dress him in his Arsenal strip and really give them something to tut about .
OH and his mother think the jeans are fine, and I guess that's what matters.

Seems like you already had the answer to your own question!

pinkclouds

sulkisu wrote: »

The jeans are not the problem, it's the fact that it isn't a suit.

They are foolish, if not fools. At 20 months old, he will probably need a spare change of clothes in addition to whatever he's dressed in so it's hardly reasonable to buy several impractical suits for the sake of an hour or so. The parents should have better memories and the rest should heed experience.

Is he "dry"? If he isn't, there's no point getting hung up on an outfit that may be worn for no more than 5 minutes. Although if he's still in nappies then it could last all day. Or not.

onlyroz

When my son has been to a wedding/funeral he has worn trousers and a shirt. He's never worn anything remotely resembling a suit, although I did once get him a waistcoat and a clip-on tie.

System

Some people would moan about anything. If it wasnt your sons clothes it would be something else.