Funeral clothes for a toddler.

tea_lover

Unless I've misunderstood, this would be your partner's father's funeral? If he's happy with the baby's outfit then stuff the others. I'm sure once you get there people won't really be that interested in what he's wearing. Hope it all goes ok.

Nicki

If you do buy anything, make sure it is stuff he will wear again so you get your money out of it. Maybe some black casual trousers would fit the bill and stop the tutting rather than dark blue denim? A suit is ridiculous imho.

I took my DS2 to the funeral of an elderly neighbour at around the same age (I checked first that the family wouldn't mind). I can't remember what he wore, but it was just clean and tidy, definitely not a suit and tie. He was more than able to sit nicely through the service, but we sat at the back of the church so I could take him out if I need to, just in case. We didn't go on to the cremation bit.

McKneff

sorry, only my opinion, so I may just get flamed for this but a funeral is really not the place for a 20 month old.

caevans

My daughter was 2 when her great gran died. She wore a bright pink dress that my Gran would have loved. She made people smile on a sad day and I never heard anyone criticise :-)

peachyprice

Hmm. I don't think I would go with the jeans, that's just me, however I wouldn't condemn and tut at anyone who did.

I would probaby buy a pair of navy trousers that he would need for the winter anyway.

lolly_896

McKneff wrote: »

sorry, only my opinion, so I may just get flamed for this but a funeral is really not the place for a 20 month old.

Sometimes there are no other options. My Nan passed and i had nobody else to look after DS. All my family were at the funeral, inc. my Mum's family although it was my paternal grandmother. To be honest, you wouldn't have known he was in the church. And at the gathering afterwards he provided a welcomed distraction for lots of people

Aimless

Generally our family ask for a no black clothes policy for funerals, but no one has ever commented on what the littlies are wearing. Last one, my eldest and my cousin were both in school blazers as it was the smartest things they owned, and mine had come straight from school anyway.

I don't have a problem with taking them to a funeral either, it's a sad part of life, but one we all have to accept. I know someone who wouldn't take their (10 I think?) son because it'd be 'spooky'! I thought I've been to sad funerals, but spooky?!

Nicki

McKneff wrote: »

sorry, only my opinion, so I may just get flamed for this but a funeral is really not the place for a 20 month old.

That's fine. That's your opinion and so I would hope people would not bring children to your funeral or to the funeral of a close family member of yours.

In the case I described, the elderly neighbour had no close family, only some neices and nephews who lived a long way away. He also had very few close friends but a number of us who kept an eye out for him, made him a hot meal now and again, etc. If I hadn't taken my DS, I couldn't have attended the funeral at all, and I took the view that it was more of a mark of respect and affection for him to go, than not and his family also took that view. But my son was used to attending church every Sunday so I was fairly confident he would behave nicely, and if he hadn't I would have taken him out. I would have thought twice about taking my 11 year old DD who is profoundly autistic though.

If and when my time comes, I'd personally rather people came with children if they wanted to attend my funeral, rather than be carried out of an empty church with whatever family was there thinking that no one cared enough for me to make the time to be there.

Faith177

One my Ex's Granddad died his sisters baby was 5 months old. She just had him in blue jeans, a little t-shirt and jacket.

I stayed outside with him as he was a little grisly no-one said a word about what he was wearing.

I think the dark jeans & top would be fine. If that is the only thing people have to tut about

I personally don't buy into all this you must wear dark clothes to a funeral. At my dad's my uncle didn't have a suit so asked my mum if he could wear what he wore the last time he saw my dad which was at a gig. My mum loved the idea as my Dad was music mad. One of his flower tributes was even the Rolling Stone logo.

Barneysmom

Tut back at them, and put your babby in the clothes you want to put him in.