2015 Wedding

Stephb1986_2

Welcome I have 5 months and 2 weeks left I've got loads of stuff that I'm going to be selling off tiara's, veils etc that I don't need.

Steph xx

Skippycat

Hi everyone.

OH and I have now provisionally booked our wedding for 04 July 2015 By the time we get married we will have been together for over 11 years :eek: We're planning on having the ceremony, reception and evening in a hotel and have been offered a good package deal. My mam and I are going to have a look again at the venue this weekend when it is set up for a wedding fayre and if we are still happy we will be paying the deposit then. My parents have been very generous in offering to pay for the reception and I have been lucky enough to win my wedding dress which means a huge saving :money: I've also already bought my wedding shoes reduced for a bargain £21. Now that we have set a date I'm hoping to pick up further wedding bargains along the way.

How is everyone else getting on? 2015 seems so far off but will probably be here before we know it! :beer:

tinkerbellkirst

Well, went for a browse at the East Midlands wedding dress factory outlet today and bought my dress!

Wasn't planning on buying so early but had seen another dress I liked in a shop for £1050, this one cost me £450 and I like it just as much, really pleased

Leejoy24

Hello! I'm a May 2015 bride to be!

Currently in the middle of venue hunting, around Staffordshire, Derbyshire and Nottinghamshire. Bit of a pain when I live in Buckinghamshire but that's where our families live and where we want to end up!

Really want to commit to a venue soon, because although it's still early (I hope!) days, I want to get on with all the nitty gritty bits. Saying that, we've already bought our centre pieces... Vinyl cake stands! We're both into our music and (cheese alert!) we met during a drunken Eurovision party, so hoping we can have a bit of a nod to that too.

Happy planning ladies! Let's hope we don't go bonkers by 2015! :rotfl:
Hev
x

Leejoy24

Oooo - where's the outlet?!

dinglefoot

Yay, there's more of us! Hi! :j

I'm getting worried about how we're going to save/budget for our wedding, when there just seems so little money spare (if any!) at the end of the month at the moment. It also doesn't help that we had to replace our car and will now have to pay £100 a month to my OH's Grandparents for the next 12 months to pay for it. It's not a dig at them of course, they were really lovely to lend us the money!

I want to book the photographer, but I don't feel like we can do this until we've booked the reception venue because otherwise I can't sort out the times and fill out the photographer's contract. I don't know how to sort out how many guests we're going to have, which may impact on which venue we choose. My parents said they'll help with the cost of the venue, but I don't know how much by and when we briefly discussed venues my Mum mentioned places which cost thousands - and I know for sure she wouldn't be footing all of that! I'm also concerned because she's previously offered financial help in situations and then gone back on her offer. I don't know how to approach asking her about how to choose a venue/how much her and my Dad can help because she is just soooo stressed out at the moment (has been for ages and will be for the foreseeable future) and talking to her is like walking on eggshells. She never seems very supportive of us getting married in 2015, but yet there was that one time that she cried with happiness when I showed her the wedding ring we'd bought for me.

I just want to sort the photographer and venue out now to make sure it's secure, because it's just under 18 months away now! We've only been to see one venue so far and they've already booked 27th June 2015, the day after ours!

Sorry to rant! And I really do love my Mum...but sometimes she's really difficult (and she says the same about me :rotfl:)

Oh, and just to explain. I don't know how many people to invite because I'm worried about how much we can afford and don't know about my parent's contribution. Also, my OH's family is MUCH bigger than mine and I don't like the idea of his side of the family filling up most of the pews one side of the church, and my side of the family being completely disproportionate and filling up only a couple of pews. That'd look weird in photos as well.

I don't know what the normal etiquette for things are either.

I want to invite my cousins and Aunt from up north, but I wouldn't be able to pay for hotel rooms for all of them...if you're inviting relatives from far away are you expected to pay for accommodation for them? My OH has relatives in Wales and the other side of London that would need accommodating too. When he went to his cousin's wedding at the other side of London four years ago, they were all accommodated overnight, so I kind of feel that the same would be expected of us. Everything just creates more and more cost :mad:

The other thing I'm worrying about is plus ones. Plus ones can virtually double a guest list and dramatically increase costs! Is it okay not to invite plus ones? What if they're long term partners?!

These are all things I need to sit down and work out before I can sort out the venue and it's hurting my brain

Stephb1986_2

If I was you, I would do a rough guest list then you have a rough guide on numbers. I would then look at venues according to your numbers.

I would look at the price on how much it is per head, it is then your choice if you just invite people on their own and invite partners to the evening or just not invite cousins for the full day and just invite them for the evening.

We are letting guests book and pay for their own rooms that is their problem not ours.

You could try and have a later wedding in the afternoon so your going straight into the evening possibly look at a hog roast or hot buffet?

Steph x

Leejoy24

I've been more than happy to pay for accommodation at other people's weddings so I wouldn't worry about that!

Parents can be wonderful and difficult... We're just assuming that we're footing the bill on our own, and any income from parents will be a bonus, and we can use it towards a deposit on our first home, maybe, one day!

The problems I've faced with parents is that I've got a step mum and a step dad, and the whole top table is a hot potato, so we're thinking of just having another round table, with immediate family on it. We also like the idea of table hopping around, so we can chat to other people. Might bring a couple of camper chairs so we can do that! I hate the hierarchy of a top table, so not bothering!

I agree with the draft guest list. Think about the relatives you've seen recently, or are likely to see in the future. There are cousins I haven't seen in YEARS so although their parents (Aunts/Uncles) will be coming, I can't afford to invite them, too. Would rather pay for a friend to eat, if they've been more supportive to me in my life! Extended family can always come to the evening do. x

tatabubbly

Don't worry Dinglefoot. We know our venue and how much it can hold. We were actually going to look at a venue that is more expensive per head but hasn't got as much capacity. Currently our guest list stands at 190.. Now, I plan to cull around 40 of this. I've budgeted for 180 but if I can get it to 150 I would be delighted and would save a lot!

I'm in the same foot as Leejoy, I have step parents AND my OH has step parents, meaning that our guest list is a nightmare waiting to happen.

But never fear! The day is about celebrating our love and happiness so I'm trying not to think about it.

I spotted a LEGO cake topper that I love! Thinking about it but its €10 so gonna try and see if I can get it any lower on flebay! I also learned how to do DIY transfers onto candles so I won't have to pay €40 for a unity candle set!

The price of weddings in Ireland is ridiculous. I got told by a mutual friend that our wedding 'should' cost €30,000+? Like are they bonkers! I think €20,000 which we have planned is far too much but knowing me, it'll come at way way in under that!

clarabell1984

Hi everyone!

I am an April bride to be in 2015! We got engaged at the beginning of last month on holiday

We have already booked our venue, photographer, DJ, registrar and piper!

I didn't realise that my dad had been putting money by for my 'one day wedding' so this will really help out ALOT! If i had known this, i may have booked for 2014 instead! lol

Itching to get everything all organised!

hadn't planned on looking at dresses so early but got an appointment to try on a dress I've fallen in love with next month!

Exciting!!!