Home educate?

Cat501

OP, if you decided not to send your daughter to nursery or school at all, what reasons would you give her when she asks why - as I almost inevitably would at some point?

It's my belief that whatever explanation you give, she will only "hear" that YOU decided she wouldn't cope, YOU didn't even give her a chance, YOU didn't trust her to grow into the type of person who could withstand peer pressure unless she was with you the majority of the time. Not the best way to inspire confidence in her!! A self-fulfilling prophecy perhaps?

shellsuit's situation is different, her DD HAS been given those opportunities and if she decided to HE it will be as much her DD's choice as hers.

daska

poet123 wrote: »

In my opinion a lot of those traits come from home.

Which pretty much backs up Mithras' point that State Schools might not do an adequate preparation and it's down to the parent. So HE isn't a disadvantage in that area.

LTP123

Mrs sparrow I am sorry but I find your tone quite offensive. This a forum and country with free speech, I like everyone else, am entitled to my opinion. I certainly didn't ask to be analyzed but you have done it anyway.

Home education is a route that can be taken in this country. For whatever reason people do choose to do it. It works for some, doesnt for others.

School works for some, doesn't for others.

Husband will do whatever WE decide is best for her. We wouldn't be discussing this if I wasn't considering his feelings.

Oh, and husband is in full agreement that his mother was and still is rubbish mother.

Mrs Sparrow, you assume too much.

LTP123

Mrs sparrow, I aleay try to type as I. The less you give away on these forums the better. My husband and daughter are my world, so dont talk about what you don't know.

kafkathecat

Cat501 wrote: »

OP, if you decided not to send your daughter to nursery or school at all, what reasons would you give her when she asks why - as I almost inevitably would at some point?

It's my belief that whatever explanation you give, she will only "hear" that YOU decided she wouldn't cope, YOU didn't even give her a chance, YOU didn't trust her to grow into the type of person who could withstand peer pressure unless she was with you the majority of the time. Not the best way to inspire confidence in her!! A self-fulfilling prophecy perhaps?

shellsuit's situation is different, her DD HAS been given those opportunities and if she decided to HE it will be as much her DD's choice as hers.

This is nonsense. The girl can choose to go to school at any point as many children I know have chosen to do. It may be that she grows in confidence over the next couple of years as I have seen happen.
OP I'm not sure you are going to get any more useful information from this thread and if I were you I would go away and make your decision based on the facts and not people's opinions. And whatever you choose you can change your mind!

LTP123

I have said a few times that she will be going to school. Maybe all the post haven't been read.

LTP123

Thanks kafkat, off out now anyway.

One point, isnt putting children in school a decision YOU make for your child?

mummyroysof3

have you thought about the practicalities? do you not need to work? what if you and OH split at some point? there are alot of things to think about arent there?

giantmutantbroccoli

OP I hope you manage to find a solution that works for your daughter. There is no clear cut answer, as it all boils down to your daughter's personality and how she copes with nursery/school/playgroup/life. She might find herself some close friends at nursery and have a wonderful time. Or she might as you fear remain isolated and have a bad time. Or she might be completely oblivious to anyone else at the nursery, have no friends but still have a great time! I think it makes sense to let her try it out before you decide that she absolutely will never attend.

Regarding the epic never-ending argument of home schooling vs state schooling, it's always worth remembering that just because you send your kids to school doesn't mean you can't also educate them yourself. I know I learnt a lot of interesting things from my parents that weren't covered in the curriculum! You don't have to just leave it all up to the school. Likewise just because you choose to home school doesn't mean you can't also take your kids to after-school clubs or courses, or even send them to school for a bit.
It is worth noting that a school is only so good as the teachers in it. Some schools are frankly awful! And not every parent is suited to teaching, either.
There are pros and cons to both methods, no one is "the best" for everybody.

shellsuit

LTP123 wrote: »

Thanks kafkat, off out now anyway.

One point, isnt putting children in school a decision YOU make for your child?

Is it. We (not me and hubby, we as in everyone) have to make the decisions for our little ones, that's our job as parents/carers, isn't it?

We just hope that we make the best decisions based on what will be the most beneficial for them, don't we.

I know I wonder all the time whether making certain decisions for my children is the right one, and whether I'm thinking of myself or my children, and it only gets worse as they get older!