Home educate?

LTP123

Thought it may jog her memory. We have been for a visit.

mrs_sparrow

ViolaLass wrote: »

Was she unhappy? I don't think it's a problem per se that she was playing on her own.

I agree, playing on her own does not mean she was unhappy, it means she is happy playing on her own and wanted to play with a different toy to the other children.

What I say now is not going to be popular but..... things I am picking up on from your post..... maybe you have made her this way with your mollycoddlying? You say that you do not let your child see your fears but kids pick up on these things I am afraid - whatever you might think. If you are too scared to use a public toilet - how do you get out and about for more than a few hours anyway?

kafkathecat

Caroline_a wrote: »

OP I do think you are totally projecting your hatred of the school system both on here and I would imagine also to your child. It's a little like the mother who dislikes a particular food and turns up her nose whenever it's served to the child - the child will grow up to dislike the food as he or she feels that it will please the mother most.

Hmm! Oh and I are both nearly vegan and ds eats as much meat as he can get his hands on so I'm not too sure about that.

mrs_sparrow

Caroline_a wrote: »

Yes I knew that, but if the OP's daughter is to go on to tertiary education she will find it easier if she follows the traditional paths. A case in point for example is Sports Science, whereby often young people think they only need to be good at a sport to do well in it, whereas it is quite a scientific subject area at the top levels.

I know of one person who home eds her child, and now as she is a teenager has got to the limits of her own learning, so is following a path of 'watch this tv programme/go through this website' and the child falls increasing further behind her peers...

Yes, I have been told that first hand as well, that they watch TV/DVD's and YouTube to learn.

Also some home ed so they can go on holiday whenever they want. Yes, I have heard that first hand as well. I almost considered it for a short while :rotfl:

LTP123

Not that this is about my problem with the public toilets, I can go around ten hours without needing to go. If I really need to, I will go but obviously dont like it.

My daughter is 3.5, i treat her as a 3.5 year old. Everyone is so eager for their children to grow up. Mollycoddlying? Not sure, she is hugged all the time plays with her cousins, plays rough with her dad but likes her cuddles. Don't all three year olds?

mrs_sparrow

LTP123 wrote: »

Thanks again everyone. Jellyhead the teacher did hear me. There was only her and I. I even wrote a brief statement on the info sheet, a profile type of thing, nothing mentioned.

I should

Then this was not the right school for your daughter.

Defer and visit every single one in the area that you can get to and then visit with your daughter and talk to her about the places you have been.

I went to 3 and was just comfortable with one.

Intake for primary school will be done around January time so get visiting around October time once children have settled in.

Get there for dropping off time so you can see the children going in. If you are happy with what you see go into the office and arrange a visit and then visit again a different time of day. A school that wants your daughter to attend will be happy for you to see the school and will be happy to show you around.

But choose a smaller school to build your child's confidence.

meer53

LTP123 wrote: »

Not that this is about my problem with the public toilets, I can go around ten hours without needing to go. If I really need to, I will go but obviously dont like it.

My daughter is 3.5, i treat her as a 3.5 year old. Everyone is so eager for their children to grow up. Mollycoddlying? Not sure, she is hugged all the time plays with her cousins, plays rough with her dad but likes her cuddles. Don't all three year olds?

If you're out with your daughter and she needs the toilet, what do you do ?

CH27

LTP123 wrote: »

Not that this is about my problem with the public toilets, I can go around ten hours without needing to go. If I really need to, I will go but obviously dont like it.

My daughter is 3.5, i treat her as a 3.5 year old. Everyone is so eager for their children to grow up. Mollycoddlying? Not sure, she is hugged all the time plays with her cousins, plays rough with her dad but likes her cuddles. Don't all three year olds?

Yes they do & even when she is at nursery & then school there will be plenty of time for loves & cuddles.
Children grow up & change & we have to adapt to that.


I think you would be bonkers not to try her at nursey & give her chance to find her feet & settle.
I know you think she is just like you but she is a genetic mix of both you & dad & your families.
Being sensitive isn't unusual, playing alone isn't either.

My friend's son told her nobody would play with him every lunch & playtime. She was concerned & spoke to the teacher who told her that wasn't true. She still wasn't happy so for a week she went to the school & hid to watch him in the playground to see him playing happily with lots of children & playing happily alone at times.


What do you do when your daughter needs the toilet when you are out & about?

mrs_sparrow

LTP123 wrote: »

No I couldn't toughen up because I have no desire to shout or argue with anyone, even if they do it to me. I could never do something to spite someone else, so when I was done a bad turn it really upset me.

How many children genuinely 'love' school.

But then again, this is all about YOU.

My daughter LOVES school. She loves her teacher, she loves her lessons - she is bored at home so is stroppy and argumentative. She misses her friends who she sees every day. She loves her learning journey and I could not teach her everything she learns at school.

She was once your daughter. She is at a small church school and the ethos there is totally different to the other bigger primary schools in the area. Maybe something you should consider. (23 pupils per class), no it is not 100% perfect and every school has some issue (maybe more about our expectations though) but I could not ask for better from this one. We moved and this was our nearest so put her in there, it was miles better than the other bigger school she went to and moving was the best thing ever. I should add for us that moving was not through choice but we got housing association miles away, however it is proved you need to visit all schools and find the one you are comfortable with.

LTP123

I dont like it but take her if there is only her and I. This is being made a bigger problem than it is. I have CBT, it is working. I was assaulted quite badly in a public toilets in my late teens so the toilet thing wasn't just about school. Anyway enough about me!