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Home educate?
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I loved school and both my kids do (one left now and working) They loved the social aspect of it as well as the study, meeting friends, arranging days out, shopping trips at weekends, being invited to parties etc. My son still sees a couple of friends he has from when he went to Playgroup when he was 2, they stayed together through infants, junior and Grammar school, separating when they went to Uni but still keeping in touch. It's fantastic to see the close relationship they all have, the bond is amazing. They're true friends.
Plus, much as i love my kids, it's sometimes a huge relief when the school holidays are over ! My daughter can't wait to go to High School next week.0 -
MarilynMonroe wrote: »I would love to homeschool but the lack of support puts me off.
As it is my daughter wont start school till she's over 5 and she's not going to any nursery/pre school either, i think 5 is plenty young enough.
I don't know anyone who loved school, I didn't, I think there has to be a better way than institutionalising little people and told they must learn or else! (which is how it felt to me)
I hope she does enjoy it once she goes though, she's very bright and sociable despite (or because of maybe!) not going to nursery/preschool.
Good luck, at least if she really hates shcool ther is always the option of you homeschooling.
Good God!
School isn't an institution, it was a joyous place for me full of friends and interesting things to do and learn.
At 55 years old I'm still friends with some of the people I went to primary school with, in fact I've been out with two of those friends this evening.
I loved school, my friends loved school and to this day i am eternally grateful to the teachers who gave me a lifelong interest in reading, history, physics and mathematics.
Babies start learning right from birth, most learn a language and how to walk in less than two years, they soak up knowledge like a sponge. They need school, they need the stimulus and contact to focus what they are learning at this crucial stage in their lives.One by one the penguins are slowly stealing my sanity.0 -
Good God!
School isn't an institution, it was a joyous place for me full of friends and interesting things to do and learn.
At 55 years old I'm still friends with some of the people I went to primary school with, in fact I've been out with two of those friends this evening.
I loved school, my friends loved school and to this day i am eternally grateful to the teachers who gave me a lifelong interest in reading, history, physics and mathematics.
Babies start learning right from birth, most learn a language and how to walk in less than two years, they soak up knowledge like a sponge. They need school, they need the stimulus and contact to focus what they are learning at this crucial stage in their lives.1,2 & 5p: Christmas day food £9.31
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Wow, quite harsh! The only issue I have is with trust. I'm a happy person, with a glass half full personality. To put it bluntly, I think school is the pits. I could stick up for myself and outwardly appeared to cope. Inside, I fell apart, sobbed to my mother who used to get stressed up as she was limited to how she could help.
Didn't it make me toughen up? No, I am a sensitive person. I still went to clubs had friends. Enjoyed the clubs because everyone was there because they wanted to be. What if you genuinely can't toughen up and are constantly overwhelmed?
Sometimes the truth can be harsh, it's not personal it's just my observation based on knowing someone who was protected to the point where she has very little grasp of real life, is frightened of just about everything and will probably struggle to cope for what will in all probability be another 60 years!
You can't assume that because you didn't toughen up that your daughter will be the same you. Keep her at home though and you will ensure it!
I'm an engineer so I can tell you that your glass isn't half empty. You simply have the wrong sized glass!One by one the penguins are slowly stealing my sanity.0 -
Babies start learning right from birth, most learn a language and how to walk in less than two years, they soak up knowledge like a sponge. They need school, they need the stimulus and contact to focus what they are learning at this crucial stage in their lives.
They don't. They need access to education and to groups so that they can socialise, if possible.
My sons missed a lot of school because of poor health (so they also didn't get to socialise, either) but they are both very well educated and have a wide range of interests - more so, I think, than if they had had to work their way through the national curriculum. They used books, computers and documentaries on the TV.
They are also comfortable in any social situations and happy to talk to people of all ages.
School suits some children but it isn't the best choice for all.0 -
OP - have you visited many schools recently? In my experience (and I have visited hundreds over the years and spend many hours in classrooms) most are joyous places, full of activity, calmness and caring staff. In the early years there is much play and social learning on offer, with a gradual introduction to more structured subjects. If your experience of one school has not been positive, try visiting others because some are outstandingly good.somewhere between Heaven and Woolworth's0
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Sometimes the truth can be harsh, it's not personal it's just my observation based on knowing someone who was protected to the point where she has very little grasp of real life, is frightened of just about everything and will probably struggle to cope for what will in all probability be another 60 years!
You can't assume that because you didn't toughen up that your daughter will be the same you. Keep her at home though and you will ensure it!
I'm an engineer so I can tell you that your glass isn't half empty. You simply have the wrong sized glass!
I don't mean to be rude (really) but you sound very closed minded and out of touch about home education.1,2 & 5p: Christmas day food £9.31
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MarilynMonroe wrote: »I don't mean to be rude (really) but you sound very closed minded and out of touch about home education.
You're not being rude.
I did say in my first post, #87, that I have no problem with home education.
Also, this thread isn't about home education vs school or about telling the OP what to do. It's about giving the OP things to consider before making her choice and it has ultimately to be her choice so that she does the best she can for her daughter.
Whatever that choice is it won't be a victory for either the advocates of regular schooling or home education. I'm sure that we all hope it will be what's best for her and her daughter.
It's only an opinion, I certainly make no claim to it being right or that anyone should do other than consider it. If they choose to dismiss it that's fine, if it makes them pause and think then that's fine too.
Do you think I'm closed minded because my view differs from yours?
I've always been wary of the evangelical, sometimes they are that way because they need validation of their own decisions and will brook no argument to the contrary. Now those really are closed minds!One by one the penguins are slowly stealing my sanity.0 -
No, i don't think you've got a closed mind because your opinion differs, I based that on you saying children NEED school, when that's not true.
Fact is as soon as you mention home schooling (not on this thread I mean in real life) you are instantly up against very strong views of how school is best and how kids suffer by not going. How youre going to practically ruin their little lives and how they'll grow up a bit weird. There is very little real support unless you get in with a group of home educators and only really talk to others doing the same.
I'm not sending my daugher till she's 5, just like when I started and most people my age started, and that is frowned upon, like I must be mad to not want to send her from aged 3, what on earth is wrong with me lol.
I wouldn't hesitate to home school if dd has any problems with school, but because of lack of real support I am going to give her a chance at school but at 5 when it's law.
All this starting at 3 wasn't even an option ''in my day'' or at least it wasn't as rife as it is now.
I once read that children have a real thirst to learn... untill they start school.1,2 & 5p: Christmas day food £9.31
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MarilynMonroe wrote: »No, i don't think you've got a closed mind because your opinion differs, I based that on you saying children NEED school, when that's not true.
Fact is as soon as you mention home schooling (not on this thread I mean in real life) you are instantly up against very strong views of how school is best and how kids suffer by not going. How youre going to practically ruin their little lives and how they'll grow up a bit weird. There is very little real support unless you get in with a group of home educators and only really talk to others doing the same.
I'm not sending my daugher till she's 5, just like when I started and most people my age started, and that is frowned upon, like I must be mad to not want to send her from aged 3, what on earth is wrong with me lol.
I wouldn't hesitate to home school if dd has any problems with school, but because of lack of real support I am going to give her a chance at school but at 5 when it's law.
All this starting at 3 wasn't even an option ''in my day'' or at least it wasn't as rife as it is now.
I once read that children have a real thirst to learn... untill they start school.
I didn't go until I was 5 either, I certainly didn't go to nursery.One by one the penguins are slowly stealing my sanity.0
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