Anybody similar to me and have no family to speak of?

OptimusNemesis

lostinrates wrote: »

ON i like all of those better than your profil pic. Which of them do YOU like best? I Prefer the first and third of them.

Fwiw i have been wracking my brains for women we know who like geeks and who you might like and I just cannot think of anyone who is single and in the UK. If i think of anyone i will dredge up this post find your profil and email it to them.

What I really, really like about what we know of you is how kind you have been, your replies to shegirl and babymad show that, and how you are willing to get out there, not just wait for life (or wife) to come to you while you worry about it.

Thanks for the feedback - I think I like the first pic best. I'm not sure whether it would be suitable for a dating site though (I'm a bit far away)?

Thankyou for wracking your brains and trying to think of someone you know - I really appreciate that! :-) My friends have tried the same and not been able to help - all of my friends have families of their own (aside from one who is a self-imposed hermit!), I guess most people my age that are going to have children will have them by now.

I know that there is someone out there for me - in a whole planet full of people I can't be so unique that there isn't a great match for me. It's just finding her that seems to be the trouble! lol

I really do appreciate all the things people have said to me on here though - and the things people have done for me too! Even though I haven't found that special someone yet, this thread has been cheering me up on a daily basis so thankyou to everyone! :-)

If I could invite you all over to my house for Christmas, I would (but I suspect I'd have a hard time fitting you all in - my front room is a pretty modest size, some of you may have to stand in the garden!)... I can't believe we've started talking about Christmas already on here though! lol

- G

lostinrates

What do you do for christmas On, visit you mum?

We often invite 'oddbods' to us. With no kids its eqsy to, and i like a social christmas.

OptimusNemesis

lostinrates wrote: »

What do you do for christmas On, visit you mum?

We often invite 'oddbods' to us. With no kids its eqsy to, and i like a social christmas.

My mum usually visits me at Christmas - it's easier as I have more room and also I can't always get the time off leading up to Christmas.

Talking about this is putting me in a Christmassy mood! Shame it's another 4 months! lol

- G

shegirl

ON,I have friends that would love you but,unfortunately they're all married

On the Christmas note:

I've just bought a snow machine well,had to do something with the money saved on flooring LOL

Anyway,this thread has now inspired me to host a, fun,old fashioned Christmas party this year

Saturnalia

I love geeks but don't want children!

OptimusNemesis

shegirl wrote: »

ON,I have friends that would love you but,unfortunately they're all married

Always seems to be the way unfortunately - I'm starting to think I may have left things a bit too late. :-(

-G

LameWolf

OptimusNemesis wrote: »

Always seems to be the way unfortunately - I'm starting to think I may have left things a bit too late. :-(

-G

No, you haven't. I met my DH when I was 42 and he was 52.:o

CheeseCat

A bit too late? Cor blimey you're only 32 right?

Your threads interested me so I have been lurking - I was having a conversation with a sci fi nerdy female friend (27) of mine (i'm 28) and we were saying that we wish there was a (decent) dating website for fellow nerds so we could have a browse.

I have been looking for a gem of information or a website or something I could pass onto her (she doesn't like cons, I love em - great place to meet people but you've already been recommended that!)

I'm not that far off your age and i'm still at the point where I want to do stuff and stay single for a while etc before settling down - a lot of my friends are similar, some of which are the same age or older than you. So basically what I am saying is don't give up

OptimusNemesis

CheeseCat wrote: »

A bit too late? Cor blimey you're only 32 right?

Your threads interested me so I have been lurking - I was having a conversation with a sci fi nerdy female friend (27) of mine (i'm 28) and we were saying that we wish there was a (decent) dating website for fellow nerds so we could have a browse.

I have been looking for a gem of information or a website or something I could pass onto her (she doesn't like cons, I love em - great place to meet people but you've already been recommended that!)

I'm not that far off your age and i'm still at the point where I want to do stuff and stay single for a while etc before settling down - a lot of my friends are similar, some of which are the same age or older than you. So basically what I am saying is don't give up

Thanks - I'd just had discussion with some (married) people at work and had the whole "you'd better think about kids soon if you want a family" line - not sure why some married people suddenly decide every single person around must get married and have a family ASAP! lol But you're right - I'm not exactly gearing up for retirement just yet! ;-)

I've decided I'm going to take down my profiles off of dating sites - I've been thinking about this for days and I feel it's the right thing to do. Dating sites just aren't for me - I don't think I'm going to find the right match for me on them. The culture of dating sites seems to be just not reply to people if not interested, if you meet then just go dead if not interested - oh, and the whole "it's decided in the first 10 minutes of meeting whether it will go any further or not".

That's all counter to what I want - I don't want a 'fast food' approach to meeting someone special. I'd like someone who would be a friend at first and then things progress into a relationship. I'm not saying months or years but I'd like to get to know someone properly first. I've always replied back to every message I've received (even on the few occasions when the person sending the message was obviously not who I was looking for - including the nymphomaniac and the political hard right winger!) I just don't think it's right to not reply when someone takes time to message you. That's just my personal feeling - not knocking anyone there.

I've also had a few occasions where I've been told that "everyone lies on their profile a bit" - except I don't. There isn't a single fib on my profile. If I lied about my appearance, or my height, job or anything - then it wouldn't be my profile anymore. It would be a fictional character and anybody wanting to meet would be wanting to meet him and not me!

I agree with CheeseCat that a proper geeky or nerdy dating site would be great. There are a few that claim to be that but I've always found that the people on them don't really reflect that. One site just seemed to have every person from another dating site copied onto there. I even got messages from the same person simultaneously from both sites!

So I've given it a try but I think I'm just too old fashioned for the way things are on dating sites. I'm going to try meeting new people through some of the suggestions people have made in both of my threads. It will probably take longer but I think it will be worthwhile in the long run.

I've also started buying some bits and pieces for starting my own business. I've decided that while I am still single, I'll put my time and money to good use by building up something for my future but that also gives me enjoyment too. If I meet someone in the meantime - great! If I don't, I will still have fun along the way! :-)

Anyway, that post turned into a bit of a soap box speech... but it's something I've been thinking over for a bit and I've made my mind up now. I've not given up looking - I'm just going to change my approach to it all a bit.

I'm off to bed now anyway! Goodnight! lol

- G

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I am an only child of two only children. My parents divorced when I was a teenager and I've been estranged from my father since then (ie to me he doesn't exist any more). My mum died just over 11 years ago, the same week that I met my partner. So I haven't been in exactly the same position of being single with no family but I was a carer for my mum for a few years before she died and had little or no social life in that time and certainly no partner so I can imagine.

I don't want children, never have, but I did always think I would end up with someone who had a huge family but I've actually settled down with another only child. Go figure. And he doesn't want children either although I think had he met a different woman he would have been happy to have them and would have made an amazing dad.

I realise at some point in the future there's a likelihood that it will just be my chap and I and rather than worry about me being left alone, I am more concerned that if I die first he will be alone. Now there's a feeling that's not a pleasant one.

I think your lack of family and finding a partner should be separate things. If you are happy with your lot and who you are as a person, that will show and will attract people to you. Seek a woman to complement you not complete you and the rest will follow.

I wish you all the best and I hope you find what you seek

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