Anybody similar to me and have no family to speak of?

babymad_2

I'm sure it wasn't the intention, but some of the posts have come across as if it's a huge joke that, having lost my parents and brother, I would find love because I made a compassionate response to somebody on an Internet site.

In case any of you think you haven't hurt my feelings and made me feel like rubbish - you have.

Rochdale_Guy

That is terrible babymad

I am sorry if I was one of the posters that didn't seem to sympathise?

Come on people - show some compassion here (myself included).

My dad died of Chronic Myeloid Leukaemia when I was five...

That post of yours really got to me, I feel awful

heartbreak_star

babymad wrote: »

I'm sure it wasn't the intention, but some of the posts have come across as if it's a huge joke that, having lost my parents and brother, I would find love because I made a compassionate response to somebody on an Internet site.

In case any of you think you haven't hurt my feelings and made me feel like rubbish - you have.

It really wasn't meant like that - people are trying to be a little light-hearted and cheer the OP up.

I lost my dad a few years ago...but can quite happily take some light ribbing if it's meant well. Like when I got a new OH and people said "oh you'll have to do a seance to ask for his permission to marry her" and that kind of thing.

I am sorry you've had a traumatic time but please try not to take offence at a light-hearted jape made by a bunch of strangers on a forum.

HBS x

babymad_2

RochdaleGuy, I read through the posts and at first I felt a mixture of shocked and angry.

Fair enough if the OP had said he was looking for a girlfriend and I replied and said I was looking for a boyfriend - absolutely. But I didn't, and he didn't. I was responding to someone who didn't have a family (I thought) and I replied with my own history which I actually don't tend to talk about much in r/l.

I then only came back to this because of a PM and I was upset. It did seem that some (not all, by a long shot) seemed to be laughing and joking and may as well have written "Well, babymad is desperate, try her." No one on here knows anything about where I live, my hobbies, what I would look for in a man - but hey, this man will do, because she's lost all her family so clearly she's desperate, right?

Wrong, in fact.

I'm calmer now and I can see people were perhaps just trying to be kind but yes, I did feel some of the posts were lacking in empathy a bit. I replied to say I'd lost my parents and brother, not that I was looking to get married - bit of respect in future, maybe?

babymad_2

heartbreak_star wrote: »

It really wasn't meant like that - people are trying to be a little light-hearted and cheer the OP up.

I lost my dad a few years ago...but can quite happily take some light ribbing if it's meant well. Like when I got a new OH and people said "oh you'll have to do a seance to ask for his permission to marry her" and that kind of thing.

I am sorry you've had a traumatic time but please try not to take offence at a light-hearted jape made by a bunch of strangers on a forum.

HBS x

Hilarious. You must mix with different people to me. Very different.

Like I said in my other post, fair enough if it was a different type of thread and I'd responded about looking for a partner - but I didn't.

zaksmum

Don't be so sensitive Babymad. You mentioned your single status and Optimus said he was looking for a girlfriend - you're a similar age and both have good jobs.

What's the problem? People are only trying to do a bit of matchmaking.

Rochdale_Guy

I agree, as with any thread, things can easily get out of hand and carried away.

There are nice people and not so nice people. I don't anyone set out to poke fun at you, and if they did, shame on them.

Can people please stop trying to matchmake, and I hold my hand up having made fun of that too (matchmaking, not people dying).



I apologise babymad if I offended you.

babymad_2

The problem is that I did not mention my single status on this thread - I replied to the post "Anybody similar to me and have no family to speak of?"

I did NOT, on this thread, say that I was single and looking for a partner.

And yes, I am sensitive, if you define "sensitive" as "a little upset that having told someone I lost my parents and brother they all decide to match me up with a complete stranger Sorry, but I really am lost as to what I posted in my reply to the OP that made people assume I was a) looking for a partner and b) would be a suitable match for the OP.

I feel that there is nothing wrong with harmless matchmaking but I just feel that to do so after I'd talked about something so sad and personal to me was really inappropriate.

Rochdale_Guy

zaksmum wrote: »

Don't be so sensitive Babymad. You mentioned your single status and Optimus said he was looking for a girlfriend - you're a similar age and both have good jobs.

What's the problem? People are only trying to do a bit of matchmaking.

Everyone will have their opinion, but can we please not let this descend into picking on someone who is already in a delicate state telling them not to be so sensitive?

That's not helpful.

Peace and love to everyone,

Rochdale_Guy

(and no, I'm NOT a mod. I just don't like people being picked on).

babymad_2

Thank you again Rochdale Guy - I'm not actually upset, I was a bit shocked when I first read the thread but I'm fine now I'm not used to talking about it much so when I did I suppose I didn't really expect a load of matchmaking posts after revealing something so personal and still heartfelt.

I do appreciate people didn't mean to be unkind - I can only come back to "inappropriate."

I don't feel picked on - I am sure people meant no harm but if we could get back to the OP please; I am not looking to be matched up with anybody who doesn't know me and in any case I live miles from him.