Anybody similar to me and have no family to speak of?

Rochdale_Guy

If anyone wants to have a go at me, my inbox is waiting, and you know where to find me.

FAO babymad - I'm certainly not trying to speak on your behalf - I'd never do that - but I think you have said your piece, haev quite rightly stood up for yourself and expressed how you have been made to feel, but you should not know read this particular thread, okay?

You're only going to get upset by people having their say, and thinking what they think (whether that's right or wrong).

Tiddlywinks

babymad wrote: »

The problem is that I did not mention my single status on this thread - I replied to the post "Anybody similar to me and have no family to speak of?"

I did NOT, on this thread, say that I was single and looking for a partner.

And yes, I am sensitive, if you define "sensitive" as "a little upset that having told someone I lost my parents and brother they all decide to match me up with a complete stranger Sorry, but I really am lost as to what I posted in my reply to the OP that made people assume I was a) looking for a partner and b) would be a suitable match for the OP.

I feel that there is nothing wrong with harmless matchmaking but I just feel that to do so after I'd talked about something so sad and personal to me was really inappropriate.

Firstly, this is NOT real life - it is a bunch of strangers talking on an internet forum....

You shared some pretty personal thoughts on another thread and someone cross-fertilised in this post:

shegirl wrote: »

OPTIMUSNEMESIS MEET BABYMAD.

She,like you has no family (nor do I but I'm introducing you two for a reason..)

She also has no partner and has been unable to find one,despite trying many avenues.

She also is worried about never having a family and,such is her desire to have one,she's considering sperm banks and going it alone because she doesn't think she'll meet anyone in time.

She's a deputy head teacher who is self sufficient and owns her own home.

Now,why don't you pair in such a similar predicament have a chat and see if there's any chance

Oh,and if there are bells and pattering footsteps I'd like to be acknowledged

It was only a matter of time before someone linked the content of your posts on both threads - I don't see that there was any malice intended so please don't take it so personally.

heartbreak_star

babymad, you're being bemusingly hyper-sensitive! We've all had our problems, I lost my dad and my gran and my mum is really ill, just some of us try to be a little less serious about life than others. And please don't have a pop at my friends - that was just snooty.

I don't think anyone should delete their posts, and RG as ever you're a fab peacemaker *hug*

Optimus, sorry your thread seems to have been hijacked! Have you had any nice geeky girls get in touch? Still like the Comic-con idea and still think you should larp...but then again I think everyone should larp

HBS x

Rochdale_Guy

babymad wrote: »

Thank you again Rochdale Guy - I'm not actually upset, I was a bit shocked when I first read the thread but I'm fine now I'm not used to talking about it much so when I did I suppose I didn't really expect a load of matchmaking posts after revealing something so personal and still heartfelt.

I do appreciate people didn't mean to be unkind - I can only come back to "inappropriate."

I don't feel picked on - I am sure people meant no harm but if we could get back to the OP please; I am not looking to be matched up with anybody who doesn't know me and in any case I live miles from him.

I'm glad you're fine now :j

babymad wrote: »

I am not looking to be matched up with anybody who doesn't know me and in any case I live miles from him.

I guess that's my chance of a date with you out the window then......?

:rotfl: or is it :mad:


Everybody chill! :A

Rochdale_Guy

Hey, everbody is different, let's respect that. We all handle things differently.

It's a good job not everyone is the same... imagine a world full of billions of me? LOL, now that would be a sad state of affairs.....

Rochdale_Guy

heartbreak_star wrote: »

I don't think anyone should delete their posts, and RG as ever you're a fab peacemaker *hug*

HBS x

Awww, thank you! :beer: :j

.......now everybody, b-r-e-a-t-h-e and SMILE

zaksmum

Babymad, you said you were desperate to start a family but unfortunately, single.

This indicated you were unhappy with the single status and of course want a family.

Optimus said he's looking for a girlfriend - you're of a similar age, both have good jobs.

Kind people on here thought you might like each other. Nothing wrong with that you know.

And just so you know...everyone loses their parents.

heartbreak_star

RG:

and thinking of Insanity another haha! See I'm nice really, I don't always kick your bum :P

I can't neb on Optimus' profile here but will do so when I get home. I'm nosy!!

HBS x

Rochdale_Guy

Phew, what a relief. I go away for 33 minutes and come back and am happy to see no idiot has boosted this sinking thread, don't you just hate people that keep adding their two penneth to things.......


:rotfl:

heartbreak_star wrote: »

RG:

and thinking of Insanity another haha! See I'm nice really, I don't always kick your bum :P

I can't neb on Optimus' profile here but will do so when I get home. I'm nosy!!

HBS x

FAO heartbreak_star Maybe if you kicked my bum, I'd work out harder
I'm sure you are nice really :T

SmallL

Im only 20, but find my small/lack of much family quite upsetting at times. Im an only child, both my parents are around and one aunt and one uncle, thats it for this country (mum is from Thailand so her family is there and many of my dads side is in canada-20p flights from ages ago :P)

I did have a second uncle and nan who my sole aunt looked after, but they died within a year of each other a year ago.

It does get me down that i dont have the support network otehrs do, which is very obvious in times of grief, a friend recently lost her nan and has many family members visiting whilst when my nan and uncle passed it felt very cold and 'fast'.
Its also a worry that at my wedding/family events, there wont be much of my family about!
I just hope my remaining family are around for many years to come.