Anybody similar to me and have no family to speak of?

shegirl

Rochdale_Guy wrote: »

Who is carol? Thought we were all coming to yours?

:A

HAHA!

I would make a joke about coming to have Carol around the piano but,knowing my luck,there'd be someone called Carol on here who'd take offence LOL

Rochdale_Guy

shegirl wrote: »

HAHA!

I would make a joke about coming to have Carol around the piano but,knowing my luck,there'd be someone called Carol on here who'd take offence LOL

LMAO!
I misread that, I thought you said something about Carol coming around the piano..... I know you girls are flexible but what I picture I have in my head now!

shegirl

Rochdale_Guy wrote: »

LMAO!
I misread that, I thought you said something about Carol coming around the piano..... I know you girls are flexible but what I picture I have in my head now!

Someone will be having sweet dreams tonight....

OptimusNemesis

shegirl wrote: »

I'm sorry you're so upset but I'm even more sorry that OptimusNemesis was interested in talking to you and now probably feels like crap that offence taken has been posted on his thread

No need to feel sorry - I appreciated what you did and thought that it was very nice that somebody would do that.

Sometimes these things just don't work out the way we intended so please don't feel bad! :-)

- G

GFN123

I have no family, apart from my mum.

I am the only child of older parents. My grandparents died long before I was born. My dad was also an only child, and my mum is from Japan, so although I do have aunts, uncles and cousins, I have only met them twice and they have never been to the UK. I wouldn't even know how to contact them if/when my mum dies. My dad died 4 years ago. Sadly, I was much closer to him than my mother, though she and I get on quite well now and I see her about 4 times a year.

I don't miss having siblings. I grew up on the same street as another family who had two daughters, one my age and the other younger. We played together every day and they are my 'second family'. The elder daughter and I are still friends. The 2 sisters fought like cat and dog though, and I've never wished for a sibling! I was sometimes jealous of friends who were spoilt by their grandparents though!

The friends I have made in adult life are my family. We are all very close, and maybe unusually, none of us want children.

My OH has a large and quite close family, who have really welcomed me into their lives. I think it is lovely and I had my first big Christmas at theirs last year which I really enjoyed. But I do find the 'obligation' aspect of large families a bit suffocating. Luckily OH is quite independent, but if his mum had his way we'd spend at least every other weekend with them or visiting other relatives!

I like my own space and my own company a lot, and always need time to 'refresh', after large family events that I have attended. It must just be what I am used to. But I love my life, I consider that I had a lovely upbringing, have never really felt I missed out and have created the life I want for myself.

This Christmas will be in our new home, with around 6-10 friends joining us. It will be raucous and fun No fights, no sulking about presents, just lots of love and laughter. Not all big families enjoy that, so I consider myself very lucky.

lostinrates

ON i like all of those better than your profil pic. Which of them do YOU like best? I Prefer the first and third of them.

Fwiw i have been wracking my brains for women we know who like geeks and who you might like and I just cannot think of anyone who is single and in the UK. If i think of anyone i will dredge up this post find your profil and email it to them.

What I really, really like about what we know of you is how kind you have been, your replies to shegirl and babymad show that, and how you are willing to get out there, not just wait for life (or wife) to come to you while you worry about it.

LameWolf

I just thought I'd have another look at this thread, having posted on it a few days back.:o

OptimusNemesis I had a quick nose at your profile on the dating site (oh gods, I'd better delete my browsing history!!:rotfl:) and you're very much like a younger version of my DH! Panic not, I'm old enough to be your mother, and I'm thoroughly spoken for.;)

Red Devil sorry, I don't do Christmas.....:o

Mojisola

GFN123 wrote: »

My dad was also an only child, and my mum is from Japan, so although I do have aunts, uncles and cousins, I have only met them twice and they have never been to the UK. I wouldn't even know how to contact them if/when my mum dies. My dad died 4 years ago. Sadly, I was much closer to him than my mother, though she and I get on quite well now and I see her about 4 times a year.

To make things easier for yourself, remedy this as soon as you can.

Dealing with everything after a death is difficult enough. If you don't know anything about your mother's affairs, including relatives' addresses, it will be so hard on you.

I think AgeUK do a booklet that you can fill in with details of where the will is, bank accounts, insurance policies, important people who will need to be contacted, etc, so if she didn't want to share the information with you now at least it will be there to be found after her death.

GFN123

Thanks Mojisola Mum and I have been working on this, including sorting power of attorney forms, collating all her bank and important details into one place, I am now a joint account holder in case something happens (as I wouldn't magically have the cash to sort things).

I do need lists of all her friends and family, especially as I would need someone who can speak Japanese that can talk to her family for me. Being her, she will have it written down somewhere, so I will check where.

I'd say this is the only downside to being from a small/no family, that when she goes it all rests on me to sort out. Most of my friends are older than me, so I do worry that it really will be just me without my 'extended family' to help. But I guess I will cross that bridge when it comes to it, hopefully we are quite some way from that happening!

Mojisola

GFN123 wrote: »

Thanks Mojisola Mum and I have been working on this, including sorting power of attorney forms, collating all her bank and important details into one place, I am now a joint account holder in case something happens (as I wouldn't magically have the cash to sort things).

If you do have joint accounts with her - as opposed to just being a signatory on her accounts - do you realise that the DWP will count 50% of the money in the accounts as being yours should you ever need to claim means-tested benefits?