Trying for a Baby Part 8

teaandcakeordeath

Hopelass wrote: »

Hi teaandcakeordeath!

I took it from CD1 - positive opk (I read somewhere that you shouldn't take it after ov) and quite quickly I got into a 28/29 day cycle with positive opk around CD14 or 15.

I took as directed about 20 drops in a little water first thing in the morning and last thing at night before bed; got a couple of bad headaches and it tastes horrible but I think it's worth it! I was on the pill for 15 years so my cycle was all over the place initially and wasn't sure I was oving - hope it works for you

Thanks for that Hopelass! I've ordered some from H&B but it's not here yet so will wait until next cycle to try it- could do with my cycles at least being regular! Fingers crossed it works for me like it did you!

amyloofoo

I've changed my font in the hope it makes this post look cheerier and I think the thread needs a little more PMA at the moment Today I've slept for most of the day and felt a little rough after my wine-drinking extravaganza last night - but I really needed to let my hair down a little after the last 5 crazy days. It's hard work when you're on long days, I get up at 6 to be in work at 7:15 and don't get home 'til after 8pm, so only really have time to wolf down some food and grab a shower before going to bed. A few days of that routine and I start to feel a bit deprived of social interation and fun... so last night was a bit of a naughty blow-out with wine, takeaway, snuggles from DH and silly films and now I feel MUCH better .

This is going to be one of my epic posts as I actually have time for once, and DH is watching a truly terrible film so I've decided to distract myself (I'm now updating and it's taken well over an hour and a half :eek:). I feel bad for not posting particularly regularly so do these massive posts to make up for it! The last couple of days have been a bit emotional on here, so I'll try to respond individually to as many people as I can. Also, I'm guessing 7 BFPs for February, and whilst I would be delighted to see anyone get their positive, I'd very much like to see some of the names who've been around for longer finally get to graduate

Mrs TM - I know it's hard but please don't beat yourself up about your DH's issues. It sounds as though the stress and pressure of work is getting to him, so maybe some relaxed NTNP would help to keep him destressed at home, and 'complete' the job more often. Also, he doesn't need to know if you're continuing to temp, use OPKs, etc I hope you're enjoying your chocolates and happy belated birthday to you for earlier this week :bdaycake: I hope this year brings you lots of special surprises and fulfills your dreams. (Love the story about the bunnies, btw - they sound like adorable little monsters ).

Squirrel - It's nice to see you back and I'm glad to hear that work is managing to distract you from the stresses of TTCing. I hope you have a positive resolution to your journey soon and that things are going well for you and your OH.

Angeltreats - I hope you manage to get an understanding doctor, it must be so frustrating to be told that things will change when you're pregnant - how insensitive, and such a silly thing to say! I know of a lady who has endometriosis who's recently been told that she'll improve if she gets pregnant - such a stupid thing to tell someone who's been trying without success for years. Some doctors really do need to take classes in empathy, grr.

Fannyanna - I know what you mean about the disappointment of seeing negative OPKs all the time. I've not yet had a true positive and struggle to know when to use them because of crazy cycles. I hope you don't need to use them for long and soon get a very special positive, IYSWIM.

I'm happy to see that your meeting with the FS was so positive and congratulations on your weight loss. It's lovely to see some PMA on here, and I hope your tests come back to be a pleasant surprise.

Hopelass - You are definitely not a stranger on this board and we would all be delighted to see you get a BFP! I understand that lots of people aren't able to post every day (I'm one of them), and that work, low PMA and simply having nothing new to report can all mean that we don't post as often as we may wish to. I love the sound of your chilli cake, that's something I would do! :rotfl:

Maire - I really hope this is your month too! It's lovely to see your PMA when you've been trying for longer than some on the thread, but we're all getting disillusioned already

Vic - Sorry for the confusing cycle. The image of you holding your wee all afternoon made me have a little chuckle, there's absolutely no way I would manage this! On the plus side, that bladder control is going to come in very useful during pregnancy!

An9i - How do you find the digital OPKs? I've been confused by the IC ones, but have been reluctant to get some digital ones as they're so expensive and my cycles are so irregular... I feel like I'd be spending a fortune to just get negatives all the time. Well said about the people posting BFPs... I know we're all emotional and people get upset (possibly rightly), but I think it's important that people feel they can talk on here and share their news, even if they do get their BFP quickly (queue jumpers!) I know what people are saying about those who come on only to share their BFP too though, it can be upsetting, although in their position I would be shouting from the rooftops!

Sweaty betty - The OPKs can be really confusing. I think that if you've had a pretty dark line but then they start getting lighter again, you've probably OVd in between, IYSWIM. I'm not going to pretend to be an expert on them though, I'm sure someone will be able to advise you better about them. I still haven't managed to actually get a truly positive OPK

TACOD - I don't tell my DH when I'm OVing for just that reason! Although it doesn't really make him any more willing generally, and I hardly ever know when I'm OVing anyway Struggles with reluctant OHs seem to be the bane of ladies on this thread... how do they think we're going to be upduffed without their assistance? :rotfl:

I really hope the AC works for you and helps your cycles to become more regular It would be lovely to see some of the PCOS ladies graduating. Sorry to hear about the upsetting u/s experience - it's horrible to be the struggling one amongst the happy expectant couples It will be your turn soon, and at least the news about your OH's results was positive.

Elsie - Good news about the test results, I'm really pleased for you and your OH. Hopefully you won't need to speak to them in 6 months

Kelly - Everyone knows that not all people can post every day. Please don't worry, we're going to be delighted for you when you get your BFP, and I hope it comes along very soon. Congratulations on your weight loss, and I hope the final 9 pounds go quickly for you.

Tia - I think the reaction to OPKs are mixed because ladies who have irregular cycles struggle to use them at the appropriate time. Some ladies find them useful, others less so, but at least if you're trying ICs then you're not losing much if they're not for you.

Becca - You are brilliant with the lists, thank you so much for continuing to do them, they take much longer than people think. I know what it's like when you don't have anything new to report, so don't want to post but it's always good to hear from you, even if there's nothing new to tell. I hope the low GI diet is going well and that it's helpful for your PCOS I saw you'd gone over to the other thread, but it's really nice to still hear from you on here.

I'm sorry to hear that you've been having a tough time and that your DH is also feeling the pressure. It must be so frustrating for him to not be co-operating with the SA (you don't have to tell me ), but maybe it's a sign that he's not coping particularly well either. I hate thinking of you crying at home and no-one being around, please take an evening to be kind to yourself, watch some silly TV and have an evening off the diet.

Tink - That cake looks absolutely nommy! You are a very talented lady With all your sewing and baking and vintagey craftness, you're the kind of Mummy I'd like to be. I know you've had a really tough time lately, but your PMA and general loveliness to people on here makes us all feel a lot better.

Lara - January's been a fabulous month for BFPs, but I think Feb and March are going to be a great time for the 'oldies'

Purcy - OMG! I never noticed that about the hug... I mean, we all knew it looked a bit dodgy, but now I'm questioning my repeated use of it :rotfl:I hope the AC works for you, and am pleased to hear about the B6 - I've started that this cycle too so will report back when / if I see any effects from it.

MV - It's still fabulous to hear from you on this thread, and I must confess that I've been following your posts on the other thread too I'm so happy to know that everything is progressing well, and wish you all the best for this pregnancy and with your LO. You really deserve to have a fabulously easy and uneventful pregnancy and I like to hear that things are going well.

Saz - Congratulations! Sorry you didn't get the response you were expecting, but please understand that emotions can sometimes run high on this thread. I know that this debate crops up every few months, but please understand that it's nothing personal. I wish you a happy and healthy pregnancy, and hope we'll all be joining you on the pregnancy threads very soon

Ruth - Thanks very much for the heads up about Conceive Plus, I'll take a look in my local Boots Hope it works for you!

January - Don't worry, TTC can be very confusing - I hope you don't get the chance to become an expert IYSWIM I hope you're not ill and the temp was just a one-off. There's a lot of it going around atm though, DH has been off with flu-like symptoms today... and hamming it up lots! :rotfl:

Firefly - I'm glad your doc is being helpful with the tests and meds, and it's lovely to see someone so positive about improving their health for the TTC journey. I understand about the irregular cycles, but think I may join the Valentine's list anyway... even if it's not BDing, the D-ing will be fun!

Trina - Loving the theme song! I also love the idea of the thread being abandoned because we've all graduated Hope to see us all on the <12 weeks thread very soon.

Claire - It's natural to feel cautious given everything that's happened You deserve to enjoy your pregnancy though, and no amount of different wording should change that... I have my fingers crossed for you, and hope you'll soon be regaling us with tales of your LO. I'm reluctant to use it after the threesome revelation, but please have a dodgy hug :grouphug: as I've not been at all able to articulate what I wanted to say.

Miffy - I know what you mean about having to tailor the number of children to circumstances In all honesty, I would love to have a massive family (I'm one of five), but there's just no way I'd be able to provide adequately for more than two or three, and atm I'd be delighted to have one I hope you get your BFP with #2 very soon, and that your DD will soon have a younger brother or sister to play with. Hope the work's going well and know what you mean about this thread going quickly atm! We're all being very chatty this week.

Chocoholic chick - Hope you manage to time the Valentine's BDing perfectly for a BFP announcement in late Feb / early March. The weekend away sounds lovely, and hopefully will help to de-stress you from the difficult times at work and with seeing LOs.

Birdie - I have my fingers crossed for you, and completely understand your frustrations. It's hard to remain positive all the time, especially when (well meaning) people say exactly the wrong thing at the wrong time! Oh, and boo for contrary OHs - mine's another who only seems to want to BD when it's not a good time. I hope the bad dreams stop, and you have a healthy and uneventful pregnancy very soon - the journey's been difficult but it can still have a happy end. You're not a bitter hag, just someone who's had a tough time and would like to see a little more considerate behaviour from others.

Skint - You've had a hideous time over the last few years, and anyone here would be delighted to see you get your BFP. I'm sending you all the best wishes for a very sticky bean, a healthy and happy pregnancy and easy birth experience. You're not a grump, you're a wonderful strong woman who manages to keep up your PMA despite some horrible circumstances. You're an inspiration to lots of us on this thread and we really appreciate all your input and advice. The POAS thing made me giggle though

It must be incredibly hard to have a very specific plan of what you wanted, and to realise that this may not happen. Having said that, you can still add to your family, and even if it doesn't happen you still have so much already. I don't want to sound trite, so very sorry if that doesn't come across well when typed I'm so sorry to hear you've been struggling, and hope you have some fabulous support in RL to help you cope.

Chocgirl - Tell him the 'fee' for your taxi services is a BD... I'm sure he'll leap at it!

BNTMS - We're all very pleased for you, and delighted to have been able to share your journey. I hope you're staying happy and healthy and feel that this thread and its posters have been able to support you. I hope we're all able to see you on the other thread very soon :T Btw, I'm a maternity support worker and work with ladies and newborns postnatally, with occasional trips to the delivery suite too.

TeamLowe - I understand your worries, but you should be able to relax and enjoy yourself without fears of 'jinxing' yourself, although this is much easier to say than do. I hope that you are 'tempting fate' with the appointments and that this final cycle before going back to the specialist is a very happy and successful one for you. I know it's probably not the right thing to say, but we do see lots of ladies who struggled for years, but then get pregnant again immediately after giving birth - the hormones are ideal for it so please don't give up on the idea of having a larger family. You've had an incredibly tough time on the TTC journey, but you still manage to be a very positive, helpful and friendly person... you deserve all the best in the world :grouphug: And you're not a bitter hag, not at all.

Optimistic Mummy - Don't worry, I think people understood what you meant :grouphug: I understand what you mean about struggling to see other people's announcements; but we don't know their journey and they may have been finding it difficult too. I know it would be nice if people could be more sensitive, however in the circumstances, I think it's the last thing on their mind. I like to think I'd be different, but I'd probably be horribly smug

Mincepie Monster - :eek: at your love of Hollyoaks!

COMP - You are always welcome on this thread! I love seeing your updates so please continuing posting and lurking to your heart's content. You may not post as regularly as some other people, but you are definitely a 'regular' and we would all be delighted to see you get a BFP. You may not post as often as some other people, but your contributions are always helpful and welcome, you've given a lot of support to ladies on here. It's your decision whether or not you stay on the lists, but I would be sad to see you go, and I know there are others who feel the same.

Mrs G - Welcome to the thread, hope your stay is a happy and short-lived experience Please don't worry, you're not the first person to have the coil removed and whilst it may take a while for your cycles to return to normal, it shouldn't impact your overall fertility. Lots of ladies get pregnant after having the coil removed and I think that if you dont have any additional issues with fertility, then you're worrying a little too soon.

Thriftylass - I have my fingers crossed for you hun.

CodeMonkey - Yey for BDing and I hope it was well timed for you. Don't feel horrible for being a little raw about the BFPs, it's completely understandable and you are a very supportive and helpful person on the thread. I think people will understand why it's difficult to see 'strangers' get a BFP when you've been trying for so long

Good vibes - I hope the appointment tempts fate and turns out not to be needed... Sorry to hear about your OHs SA results, but as you say, at least things are moving forwards. It's difficult to hear other's announcements, but I really hope you soon have some wonderful news of your own.

Lilymay - You've had a really difficult journey and I hope this coming month is the start of better times for you. We're here to listen if you need to vent :grouphug:

Abis - Sorry to hear that you've been having a tough time, and please accept a horribly dodgy hug :grouphug: I know what you mean about sometimes being in a 'public' place is the best thing you can do to control the crying. I love what you said about this feeling like a bad dream when you have your baby in your arms - I hope will be the case for us all

Lou lou - Bad dreams are horrible and can leave you feeling so shaken, but that's all it is. I have my fingers crossed for you and hope you soon have a very different kind of dream come true.

Skaps - Hope it's your turn soon hun.

Vesper - It sounds as though you've been having a seriously tough few months and whilst I don't know the ins and outs of your situation, I hope it resolves positively for you. Please be kind to yourself at this difficult time.

AFM - I'm constantly broody, whether in work or not so DH thinks I'm a nightmare :rotfl: A couple of the midwives at work are very broody too, but not yet in a position to start trying, so we have lots of conversations and lots of 'stealing' babies for cuddles when their mums are just too tired to get them settled. It can sometimes be hard to be around them all the time, but mostly I just love getting to cuddle them, give them their first bath, change their nappies, reassure their parents and make sure they're well. I feel very priviledged when I'm at work

To be honest, it's when I come home to an empty house, or hand back my nephew that I start to feel the disappointment of it all. I have to say (and I know I'll seem weird) that seeing pregnant women is harder for me than seeing new mums and their babies. Generally I'm very happy for the mums and find the baby adorable whilst knowing it's not mine and already has a loving home... seeing a pregnant woman however makes me horribly jealous and brings on a fit of the 'whynotmeitis' which a few of us suffer with

lemonmelon_2

Vesper I think 99p is worth it for your peace of mind, it can be quite normal to bleed a little bit at the beginning of pregnancy. Let us know?
Sending big big hugs to lots of you tonight, for anyone having a hard time whether pregnant or not (((((((((hugs))))))))) I think January has taken its toll on us!
I made marmalade tonight, just what I needed to have a couple of hours of sweet citrusy steam has made me feel much better.
Have definitely ov'ed because I'm covered in spots which always happens the week after (how attractive, maybe its natures way of telling the man he's no longer needed!?)
Can I guess 7 bfps for feb?

vesper

amyloofoo that is one hell of an epic post!

Ok next question, can some recommend where to get a bulk lot of ic's that I can get in. I've never been one for doing tests, so don't buy tests very often. Will grab some cheapies from somewhere tomorrow though

purcy81

Home health are great vesper they have their own site or you can buy through amazon. I get the opks and super sensitive pg tests and they both do the job.

Epic post amyloofoo!

time2deal

Hello all!

After Amyloofoo's epic post, I feel the need to post so I get a mention next time!

Re the people popping in and out, sadly I've been here long enough to see this conversation happen about 4 times. It crops up every few months, and I know how hard it is for those who have been here a long time. It is strange as some people will feel like they are 'part' of the chat, when they have only actually posted a few times, and so are excited when they get a BFP. If I'm honest, it's plain green eyed jealously that upsets me when I see so many excited ladies moving on.. when I feel like a never will.

But, I'm oddly ok with it these days. Somehow I feel like it will happen eventually, whereas in the past it seemed impossible. I am aware that is crazy logic at this stage!

Anyway, tell me I am going crazy. I am having very odd symptoms, including especially painful boobs, and other random/invented BFP symptoms. Now I KNOW it's impossible, and I KNOW the reason is I took a chemical version of HCG last week as part of IVF, and even if I got a positive, it is DEFINITELY a false positive... and yet a part of me wants to see those illusive words for once on a test, even though I know it's false. I'm insane aren't I....

Note that getting pregnant now would be a disaster, as the doctors wouldn't let me keep it, so I'm really not hoping, but in a strange way after a few years, just a single false positive test would be nice in a way. (I sound soooo insane writing this!)

optimistic-mummy

Can i predict 14 BFP's in feb please. x

we had 10 in jan so hopefully the double figure will continue ... of course im allowing a few extra as its 'love' month (valentines day in feb)..... got to be optimistic haven't we....

Good luck all testing in february ..... hope you all get a massive BFP !!!

hugs to all those that want need/one.

vesper

time2deal wrote: »

Hello all!

After Amyloofoo's epic post, I feel the need to post so I get a mention next time!

Re the people popping in and out, sadly I've been here long enough to see this conversation happen about 4 times. It crops up every few months, and I know how hard it is for those who have been here a long time. It is strange as some people will feel like they are 'part' of the chat, when they have only actually posted a few times, and so are excited when they get a BFP. If I'm honest, it's plain green eyed jealously that upsets me when I see so many excited ladies moving on.. when I feel like a never will.

But, I'm oddly ok with it these days. Somehow I feel like it will happen eventually, whereas in the past it seemed impossible. I am aware that is crazy logic at this stage!

Anyway, tell me I am going crazy. I am having very odd symptoms, including especially painful boobs, and other random/invented BFP symptoms. Now I KNOW it's impossible, and I KNOW the reason is I took a chemical version of HCG last week as part of IVF, and even if I got a positive, it is DEFINITELY a false positive... and yet a part of me wants to see those illusive words for once on a test, even though I know it's false. I'm insane aren't I....

Note that getting pregnant now would be a disaster, as the doctors wouldn't let me keep it, so I'm really not hoping, but in a strange way after a few years, just a single false positive test would be nice in a way. (I sound soooo insane writing this!)

You're not insane for writting that at all!!!

firefly369

Tinks - I hope you are prepared for the number of hormonal, diet dodging, craving, grumpy ttc ladies that would all love to come to your tea party:rotfl: Of course there would be a very long queue for the toilet so we could all compare pee sticks:eek:

Amy - Wow, what a post. You are such a lovely positive lady.:D

T2D - Nice to see you around. Been keeping up with your blog. Glad to hear how positive you are.

Vesper - Totally have been guilty of testing after af. I have also had sore bbs, cramps and queasiness after my af so have done tests 'just in case'

I really hope I ov soon so I can go on the Valentines testing list.....my lp is exactly 14 days:rotfl:but it could easily go the other way and I might still be waiting for Ov on Valentines day. Maybe I should go on both lists:D;)

teaandcakeordeath

Wow Amyloofoo. What a lovely post. Thank you.

I hope this is successful- I've tried to add a pic of my POAS OPK habit... I reckon day 16 AM is positive- if anyone is good at these bloody things input would be appreciated! If that's the case then I've Ov'd between CD17-19 is that right? I can't tell going off my FF chart...



Here's the link to my FF chart:

My Ovulation Chart

Thank you all!