Trying for a Baby Part 8

squ1rrel5

I was thinking I should move to the 12m + thread but to be honest I like it here far too much to go!!

I dont post here all that much - due to my working patterns (and my emotions) I have spurts where I post a lot and then nothing for a while although I do try and pop on and thank people's posts just to let them know I'm still around. I did feel quite strange as a newbie as it felt like everyone knew each other but sometimes you do have to come back to reality and remember that noone actually knows anyone IRL, just their usernames - although you've all seen a pic of me now so we're all best buddies!!!!! :rotfl:

I think because of the last few months of wedding planning it doesnt really feel that we've been TTC for a whole year although I looked at the first page and reminded myself - oops! But I try not to look at it as a bad thing because in that year, I've learned so much about my body, found out about my pcos and now feel that I can get a handle on the issues - after trying for only a few months and with nothing happening I was probably annoying everyone on here, wondering what was wrong with me.
After a year and hearing about other people's journeys I have a new found respect for how difficult TTC can be for some people (myself included) but personally have become slightly more relaxed about it than I was at the very beginning - although I do still get emotional each time AF arrives.
I havent written anything off yet as I know I could still have a long wait but until then I will just try my hardest and keep posting here as there is so much support available - not just for TTC but for lots of other things too. You're all a great bunch of ladies - as much as I want everyone to graduate at some point, its nice to have you all around at the moment!!! :A

claire16c

lilymay1 wrote: »

Teamlowe - Yep, the HSG is to check whether or not clomid will make any difference. If it all comes back fine, clomid is next step.

Also, does someone keep posting under a new name?!? i hadn't even noticed.

And no Lemon...No SS!!!

I noticed the other day someone edited their post and put something like 'whoops wrong alter ego.'

But i couldnt see what they had posted anyway.

Weird. I never get these things :rotfl:

codemonkey

Oh my word, what did I do? Didn't mean for this to happen! I understand why people coming on here to tell their BFP story is helpful. Sometimes it is. Its just sometimes I've had a bad day and I feel like someone telling me that they've been trying for a months and finally got their BFP just rubs salt into the wound. For the most part, bad days/weeks/ months aside I feel a sense of community with you ladies and I like the BFPs. I admit that when someone comes in to share a BFP having made one post or none, its very hard to be gracious. I also don't feel like I belong on the 12+ thread because they are mostly going through scary medical procedures ( I lurk there and hope they all get their BFP and forever baby, because what they've been through is above and beyond.

Yes, its cliquey in here and sometimes I feel totally ignored. I've made a couple of posts that have been totally passed over when I could have used a friendly word of encouragement, especially the one relating to my ex, but that's the way of all message boards. I hope the lurkers haven't been scared off posting by my outburst. I'm lovely really as are the other ladies and we know lots of random and disgusting stuff (cervical mucus discussion anyone?)

claire16c

codemonkey wrote: »

Oh my word, what did I do? Didn't mean for this to happen! I understand why people coming on here to tell their BFP story is helpful. Sometimes it is. Its just sometimes I've had a bad day and I feel like someone telling me that they've been trying for a months and finally got their BFP just rubs salt into the wound. For the most part, bad days/weeks/ months aside I feel a sense of community with you ladies and I like the BFPs. I admit that when someone comes in to share a BFP having made one post or none, its very hard to be gracious. I also don't feel like I belong on the 12+ thread because they are mostly going through scary medical procedures ( I lurk there and hope they all get their BFP and forever baby, because what they've been through is above and beyond.

Yes, its cliquey in here and sometimes I feel totally ignored. I've made a couple of posts that have been totally passed over when I could have used a friendly word of encouragement, especially the one relating to my ex, but that's the way of all message boards. I hope the lurkers haven't been scared off posting by my outburst. I'm lovely really as are the other ladies and we know lots of random and disgusting stuff (cervical mucus discussion anyone?)

I dont think your post was passed over as such - I thanked you on that post, because I could sympathise with what you said and felt angry/annoyed for you - I just didnt have anything to add to help unfortunately

apple*pie

Edited as I was having a major rant and actually burst into tears reading it back.... Night all. Big hugs xx

firefly369

Thanks for your words of encouragement ladies. I will try to post more often and give some support as well as recieving it through reading your posts.

Don't worry Codemonkey you haven't scared this lurker away. I don't normally reply to personal posts where ladies are talking about their personal lives just for the reason that we don't know each other (yet;)) and I am sure most people do not want a total stranger commenting on something so personal so I usually err on the side of caution and keep quiet incase I say something insensitive. But I do totally appreciate the ladies knowledge of everything random and disgusting.:rotfl:

AFM: my poor other half and I are going to be exhausted trying to keep up this pace of bding because my ovulation is impossible to pin down BEFORE the event. My cycles seem to be very random. I really thought my cyles would have sorted themselves out by now, I have ovulated on cds 17, 18, 23, 31, 32 and last month possibly not at all as fertility friend kept moving the crosshairs. Now it is telling me that I am fertile on cd 7 -10. OPK's don't seem to work for me. I have never successfully caught a surge and I am a little worried this is going to be another really long cycle.

time2deal

claire16c wrote: »

I noticed the other day someone edited their post and put something like 'whoops wrong alter ego.'

But i couldnt see what they had posted anyway.

Weird. I never get these things :rotfl:

Well... I can only guess;) .. but some people have a username that is their normal nickname... and as MSE is very well indexed on google, would rather detailed conversations about CM, and quite personal TTC conversations were not found by a casual searcher!

bigzippy

Code, I understand your angst (for want of a better word). Tbh, it's one of the reasons I mainly lurk these days, and only really pop out the woodwork to answer direct questions, or to answer something that one of you ladies hasn't already answered.:cool: I do get happy to see bfps though, it keeps the hope alive (cheese ), although I agree that if there's no "relationship" built there, through posts etc, it can be as painful as a randomer in the street with a huge bump.:o

How long (roughly?) have you been trying? I think you said over a year, on a previous post, and I also get the impression you're getting well and truly fed up of being unsuccessful so far (understandably!), but I don't remember you mentioning whether you had/planned to consult a doctor, or had any tests etc? :huh:


AFM: less than a week now, til I find out what options they're (initially) suggesting, and when (presumably) surgery might take place.:cool: I'm assuming there'll be a waiting list taking it closer to christmas, tbh - now I've got my head round that possibility I feel like it's almost a positive, as I could potentially lose the rest of the weight I need to (to be eligible for ivf) by then... (I've now lost a total of 60lbs ) Having said that, Sod's Law dictates I'll be completely thrown by them wanting to do it in the next week, or something!

amyloofoo

Welcome Ktb, I'm sorry I don't have any personal knowledge about your question - so I won't reply, but just wanted to say hello and welcome to the thread! :j

Big hugs to any of the ladies who need them, I know no-one on here has wanted to make anyone else feel hurt or uncomfortable; I think it's just an inevitable side effect of talking about something so emotive. I hope people are feeling more positive today and hope every poster will soon be in a position to announce amazing news :grouphug:

claire16c

firefly369 wrote: »

Thanks for your words of encouragement ladies. I will try to post more often and give some support as well as recieving it through reading your posts.

Don't worry Codemonkey you haven't scared this lurker away. I don't normally reply to personal posts where ladies are talking about their personal lives just for the reason that we don't know each other (yet;)) and I am sure most people do not want a total stranger commenting on something so personal so I usually err on the side of caution and keep quiet incase I say something insensitive. But I do totally appreciate the ladies knowledge of everything random and disgusting.:rotfl:

AFM: my poor other half and I are going to be exhausted trying to keep up this pace of bding because my ovulation is impossible to pin down BEFORE the event. My cycles seem to be very random. I really thought my cyles would have sorted themselves out by now, I have ovulated on cds 17, 18, 23, 31, 32 and last month possibly not at all as fertility friend kept moving the crosshairs. Now it is telling me that I am fertile on cd 7 -10. OPK's don't seem to work for me. I have never successfully caught a surge and I am a little worried this is going to be another really long cycle.

My cycles are the same, no idea whats going on with my cycle this time so I know how you feel. And sometimes after a while I loose the enthusiasism of bding because I dont know whats going on and like you say you feel exhausted! It seems a bit weird its saying days 7-10 though? i think its supposed towork out the average. You should definitely post more too!

bigzippy wrote: »

AFM: less than a week now, til I find out what options they're (initially) suggesting, and when (presumably) surgery might take place.:cool: I'm assuming there'll be a waiting list taking it closer to christmas, tbh - now I've got my head round that possibility I feel like it's almost a positive, as I could potentially lose the rest of the weight I need to (to be eligible for ivf) by then... (I've now lost a total of 60lbs ) Having said that, Sod's Law dictates I'll be completely thrown by them wanting to do it in the next week, or something!

60lbs! Thats great!

hope you get the news you want.:)