Trying for a Baby Part 8

lilymay1

I have decided that I am thoroughly fed up with this TTC malarky. I am going to invent a pregnancy pill. They have enough pills to end pregnancy...why don't they have one to start it?

Also, I am now on holiday until a week on Thursday! hurray!

Big hugs to everyone who needs one at the moment - there seems to be a fair few of us.

TeamLowe - Brilliant news that you feel in a good place and even better than your boss is lovely. I will be moving departments after I go back and my new boss is lovely. We're the same age, but she is very career focused and has no time for babies or husbands! I suppose that is why she's the boss and I'm the trainee

Clarets - Good news your GP has sent you for bloods. Hopefully they shed some light on the situation.

Matranil - Crapola is such a brilliant word.

Firefly - I agree with COMP. Not everyone posts all the time, and some post a lot more than others (QQ for example..we can't get rid of her ) but everyone is always welcome and, like anything, the more you post the easier it will become. I have only been here since March/April time and I often feel like a bit of an imposter. I also chat quite a lot of carp but no one seems to mind too much I have learned so much from the people here and consider myself quite lucky to be part of such a lovely community. It's a funny old world when you tell someone you don't want to see them again (because they have graduated) and it's meant in a good way!

Also, I am really enjoying not charting/temping/POAS this month. OH has his second SA on Thursday so is refusing to BD (kn0bhead) so we will just keep at it after that. I have had very conflicting advice from 2 receptionists at the hospital regarding my HSG - one told me to stop having sex as they wouldn't do it if there was a chance I could be pregnant....and the other told me to keep TTC as normal until I get an appointment. As if I am going to stop having sex for (atleast) 3 months!! Silly old hag!

QQ - Hope you are enjoying your holiday

Metranil_Vavin

Next week is our first 'official' week of ttc.

I'm kind of excited and dreading it at the same time. OH isn't good under pressure so to speak, but because we don't BD that regularly, I've had to tell him that next week is the week this month if we stand a hope.

Sigh..I'm with you lily..if only there was a pregnancy pill that could take all the pressure and uncertainty out of it all!

claire16c

TeamLowe wrote: »

sorry to see you go Tea Lover, i'll see you on the other side

personally i don't see a point in more new threads, it's not going to stop other people swooping in and going 'haha i tried for 7 months and got pregnant so clearly it can happen to anyone' or just coming to announce their pregnancy when surely the thread for that is the less than twelve weeks thread. annoys me every time but i digress...

I think to be honest that is the crux of the problem.

When someone on here has posted for a while, as much as anyones bfp can make you feel jealous/upset, I think we also feel genuinely happy for the person, I know I do. You start to know someones story, learn about their relationship, maybe youve seen their wedding pics, their hobbies, whatever. So its really exciting when they get it.

But if someone posts once, then disappears for 4 months and then pops back to say 'Oh i got pg after one month forgot to tell you Im so happy etc' well - I dont get it. I dont care if someone like that has got pg to be honest, and to be even more honest I dont want to know. It may as well be a random pg person off the street popping in and posting it. So its annoying and pointless to read. There is a pg thread so why not post your pregnancy announcement on there!

However if someone has been posting on here, whether thats once a week or every day, a bfp is great news!

Surely thats the point of the thread. And no one should feel unwelcome.

But if I was lurking on a thread to the point where I literally never posted anything, then I also wouldnt post my bfp because I hadnt been part of the thread because why would the people on there be interested? I wouldnt pop over to baby&bump and post it there just because it exists.

Rant over.

lemonmelon_2

Big hugs to all of you - it seems we've been having a really hard day today.

For me I love seeing new people and its so exciting when new people join us and get pregnant the first month or two, it keeps the thread hopeful and exciting and a nice place to post.

I also think we're about more than just getting pregnant and we support each other throughout the whole month, af and ov/not ov and pms and secret symptom spotting and its nice to be together though all of that.

I don't really understand when people just post their bfps if they've never posted before (although I can understand if you're a lurker and you see a regular poster getting a good reception with a bfp it can be confusing when you don't get the same) I do think the preg threads might be a better place for this.

I would say if you're a lurker or too scared to post regularly please please come and join us, we are lovely ladies (although maybe a little emotional at times) you'll get so so so much more out of the thread if you post as well as reading along - we can't be there for you if we don't know that you're there!

I'm getting excited about being 12 dpo can we SS since QQ is on her holibobs - I'm sure she won't read back and catch us?!

TeamLowe

Lilymay they won't do it if they could disturb a pregnancy but it'll say that when the appointment comes through, my letter said they wouldn't do it after cd14 if I remember correctly but you could have it done if you didn't have intercourse/used protection that cycle, hopefully they'll give you advance warning enough to know which cycle it will be. Are they doing that before clomid? That's why I had mine, in case I needed it
MV good luck on your first official week, I hope it's the only one you need x x

TeamLowe

Oh and I agree, everyone should post more! that way I won't look so crazy posting so much, cos there'll,be more posts in between and you won't be able to tell
And whilst newbies might feel like they're intruding on friends, really we make friends as we go along I feel like that anyway, that I know Lilymay as well as I know big zippy (for examples) even though she's newerish

I am intrigued as to who,it is who keeps logging in under the wrong ID...i have my suspicions...lol x x

Metranil_Vavin

I wish I had something interesting to post! :think:

lilymay1

Teamlowe - Yep, the HSG is to check whether or not clomid will make any difference. If it all comes back fine, clomid is next step.

Also, does someone keep posting under a new name?!? i hadn't even noticed.

And no Lemon...No SS!!!

time2deal

Hi,

I agree with MV that this issue tends to come up every few months. I just wish I hadn't been around long enough to know that!

I am thinking of moving across to 12+, but I quite like the chatter on this thread too.

To be perfectly honest I find every BFP just a bit painful, but that doesn't mean I am not happy for the person. Same way when friends announce pregnancies (over and over and over). I am happy for them, but it breaks my heart a little every time. The bad thing is I am starting to avoid people a little though. You get a feel for it... someone has been married recently, they have the new house/renovation... then suddenly it's time for a baby.

But, I do believe I will get there eventually. After a very moody/tearful few days feels like AF is due tomorrow. I had really thought something was different this month, but now I get to CD27, everything feel depressingly normal.

Lets see how tomorrow goes!

ktb

Hello ladies... I haven't posted in this thread before as I am not 'officially' TTC just yet.... (although it is fairly imminent & I am about to start charting to check that I am ovulating etc.).. but I hope you don't mind me asking a question?

I'm not seeking anyone's medical advice as I am seeing my Gynae next week...

If I am going to start TTC soon, I wondered if short cycles are a major worry? As I am due back to see the Gynae next week is there is anything I should be asking him to do, check or refer me for, it would be great to go in armed? As he didn't have much to offer me last time, I wondered if anyone's personal experience might set my mind at ease.

Thanks in advance