Trying for a Baby Part 8

good_vibes

Hi all
Squirrel you look beautiful
Tea lover I totally understand, you will be missed. This is a place we can chat and vent in a way we can't in RL.

I don't tell my OH about using OPK sticks

Jox

Just wanted to apologise for upsetting people a few pages back with my announcement...I had a miscarriage on Sat night, I'm very upset obviously....I was so excited to be 7 weeks pregnant...husband is away til end of the week, haven't told him yet.

I'll keep trying and keep trying to stay optimistic...

Thanks all xx

codemonkey

sorry to hear that Jox. You're welcome to join us here when you're ready to try again.

Sorry to see you go tea lover, although I know how you feel x

Am thinking that I might give up on this whole endeavour. Its not happening and I hate what its doing to me.

clearing_out_my_pockets

becca0417 wrote: »

Ladies I was thinking this the other day, is it worth having another thread, almost 'beginning to TTC'? It might be a stupid idea but I've seen how hard it is over the last few weeks.

The problem with this is, which months would that thread cover? Months 1-3? 1-6? At what point would somene 'belong' on this thread instead of the newbies thread?

Also, sorry to be a pain but the link to my chart has been lost from the list...

amyloofoo

I think it's inevitable that people are going to feel hurt (and others are going to be slightly insensitive) when you're on a thread which covers such an emotional topic. I'm not sure that having a newbies thread is the solution as it's always going to hurt when someone announces their pregnancy but you're still trying. Equally it's always going to be hard to not come across as insensitive when you're announcing something wonderful to people who desperately wish it was them

I hope all of the ladies decide to stay or come back when they're ready. It can't be easy for those who've been here longer than others, but we all benefit from your knowledge and good wishes I'm not expressing myself well at all, sorry, but I'd really miss you if you decided to go. I know you have to consider your own wellbeing, and if being here is more painful than supportive at this stage then everyone will understand your decision, but I wish it wasn't that way.

Sorry for how inarticulate that was, I hope you got my meaning anyway.

amus

amyloofoo wrote: »

I think it's inevitable that people are going to feel hurt (and others are going to be slightly insensitive) when you're on a thread which covers such an emotional topic. I'm not sure that having a newbies thread is the solution as it's always going to hurt when someone announces their pregnancy but you're still trying. Equally it's always going to be hard to not come across as insensitive when you're announcing something wonderful to people who desperately wish it was them

I hope all of the ladies decide to stay or come back when they're ready. It can't be easy for those who've been here longer than others, but we all benefit from your knowledge and good wishes I'm not expressing myself well at all, sorry, but I'd really miss you if you decided to go. I know you have to consider your own wellbeing, and if being here is more painful than supportive at this stage then everyone will understand your decision, but I wish it wasn't that way.

Sorry for how inarticulate that was, I hope you got my meaning anyway.

I think you're right its a bit difficult to have a TTC thread without some people eventually conceiving!

It must be heartbreaking for the ladies who have been trying a long while to keep seeing people come and go and I can completely understand why they wouldnt want to be on this thread.

Personally, because there is also a 12m+ thread I think a lot of people who are just starting out come on here and post their advice thinking most people here have been trying less than 12m, and where it may be helpful to those who are relatively new, of course those who have been trying longer than that have probably heared it millions of times before so get annoyed.

Perhaps this can remain a general TTC thread for anybody who wants to come here no matter what stage they are at and then maybe there should be a TTC for less than 12m thread for those just starting out, that way, people announcing there BFPs on that thread wont be hurtful to those who have been trying longer?

coops228

Morning Ladies,
Squ1rrel5, you look sensational and you're blokes not too bad either!!! Huge big congratulations and good luck on plan honeymoon baby.
Tea, I am so sorry that you are leaving. You have stuck out as a wonderful character on here for the short time I have been lurking and posting but I can totally understand your reasons for wanting a break from here. I cannot imagine how hard it is and won't try to say I do.
Jox, sorry for your loss and hope to see you in here soon. Good luck telling your OH, I'm sure it won't be easy...
Birdie, good luck!
Amyloo, that is a horrible thing to watch . At least you have a caring OH.
Scooby, here's hoping the witch stays away!

I only read back a few pages so apologies to anyone I have missed, it's not intentional!!! Honest!!!

My DH knows all about my temping and now my CBFM usage and is more than happy to be told "jump me now big boy". :rotfl:
He's as keen as me to have another one. In fact he's even said he will exercise and eat better if it helps which is great! :T
Personally I think that too many threads just means you lose out on a lot of info, help and support as you don't know the folk there as well.
My first foray into this lark was helped along so very much by the wonderful women who were on the ttc and the pregnancy thread and I couldn't have done it without them. Some are still here or here abouts and it's like seeing old friends about.
Some friendships might not be in RL but are frienships nethertheless.

tinkwings

Jox so sorry for your loss. Hugs

Tea - Hugs & please pop back & see us xxx

Having my day 21 bloods done on Friday.

Have reported my lack of peak being found to my CB trial lady........waiting for a reply ..................

Jox

Thanks Tinkwings, didn't want to cause upset or controversy, good intentions are sometimes misread on internet forums.

Good luck with bloods.

I've learnt so much from this thread, I'm a lurker in so many threads (reading and learning from others), just contribute when I feel I have something "big" to say, that's prob why I'm misunderstood - massive apologies for the offence, I won't comment again to prevent further upset.

TeamLowe

sorry to see you go Tea Lover, i'll see you on the other side

personally i don't see a point in more new threads, it's not going to stop other people swooping in and going 'haha i tried for 7 months and got pregnant so clearly it can happen to anyone' or just coming to announce their pregnancy when surely the thread for that is the less than twelve weeks thread. annoys me every time but i digress...

i don't want this to sound harsh, but i think us ladies who are past the twelve month mark/know it isn't going to be easy for us have to accept that it's going to be upsetting to see people have an an easier ride here or move on to the next thread. i think tea lover has made the right choice for her and i so so wish she was graduating instead of leaving. and my choice is to carry on following this thread knowing it won't be easy but tbh whilst i have posted over there i don't feel like i belong just yet until i know if i need clomid as even though i'm on metformin i don't feel like i'm medicating to get pg like a lot of the ladies over there x x