Trying for a Baby Part 8

scoobydoo02

mogwai wrote: »

Scoobs - just delurking to say that sometimes BFPs don't show up til later for some women, so hang in there. Are you getting spotting cos the few times Ive been later Ive had spotting for 2-3 days as a precursor to AF

No news for me at mo, waiting for AF, its 2 days late but I think my cycle is changing in the last few months anyway, did a HPT at 10dpo and BFN so in all likelihood AF will be here in the next couple of days!

Good luck to everyone else!

Mogwai - no spotting, nothing, zilch, not even a hint, last time I was pregnant I was 3+ on a digi at 3 days late, I'm not even getting a hint of a line . I'm 2 days late now and it's unheard of so i'm not sure what to think.

It's just a case of wait and see what happens but at 20dpo and CD30 i doubt it will be a BFP now unfortunately.

Fingers crossed for you though as you're 2 days late too!:j

Scoobs

Metranil_Vavin

Congrats to lily and mog on predicting the Sept BFP's :T

I think I'll guess at 7 again for October please Q.

Spoke to OH at lunchtime and he sounded in good spirits. Bless him he also said he was feeling 'more up for it' today..don't know if I believe him, but fingers crossed!

lily - glad you are feeling so positive after handing in your notice at work. I felt like that when I did it last year, utterly terrified but once I'd done it, like a weight had lifted

Good luck to everyone testing in the next few days. I have a good feeling that there are going to be a few BFP's coming.

Metranil_Vavin

I was going to say thanks fopr all the good BD'ing vibes for tonight, and I'll think of you all cheering me on, but then thought that might be a bit weird :rotfl:

tea_lover

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

I was going to say thanks fopr all the good BD'ing vibes for tonight, and I'll think of you all cheering me on, but then thought that might be a bit weird :rotfl:

A bit :grouphug: maybe?? :rotfl:.

abis21

Have picked myself up a little now after a big sobbing session on DH. I have spotting now as well as a big bright shiny white space where in my head there should be a pink little line

Its so hard. You think to yourself I will think positive, I will be hopeful, this will be my month etc - and then its not - and picking yourself up after then is well, hard.

I don't want to go through this every month, but I know I have to. I hate TTC sex. I hate over thinking things. I hate it not being quantified and being so much down to luck. If I knew I would get pregnant in Feb 2013, that would be fine because I could plan things in the meantime to take my mind off it - drink alcochol - take migraine tablets when I am suffering like mad - etc etc.

I hate not being able to relax and go with the flow. I read up today on how to relax while trying to get pregnant and theres not really an easy answer. I have relaxation techniques - but the crux of it is that I sooooo want a baby. Meditation, visulisation etc are all well and good, but when it comes down to it - the only thing that gets you pregnant is having sperm in the right place at the right time to meet with the egg. And visualising things is hurtful when it doesn't work out. I should be 7 months pregnant now - I do not need to visualise that any more than I am doing right now.

If I don't check ov signs next month and just DTD when we feel like it and then get another BFN next month I'm going to be frustrated all over again - probably more so because I wouldn't have done everything I could have done.

I thought I would be more philosphical this month as we did do all that we could - but even that is a frustration in itself, because what do I do differently next month? What should I change to get the result I want?

I feel like I am getting desperate now. I agree with codemonkey - I know I have pinned all my hopes up on getting pregnant this cycle etc, but I will be the same next cycle. I don't know how to break the cycle. I can't 'want' it any less. I am frightened. I am so scared I will go through all this waiting and then have something go wrong again.

Oh gosh - maybe I haven't picked myself up quite so much yet I just don't know what to do with my lil selfies

Hugs for scoobs too. BFN's suck

Lilymay - yayyyyy - well done. What did your boss say?

Tealover - hope it all went well this morning xx

QQ - I'll guess 9 please for October.

Tea&cupcakes - was thinking about you this morning, and wondering when they psycic said you would be pregnant? Could do with someone with a crystal ball to come and sort my life out right now

Metranil_Vavin

*BigBird* wrote: »

Hi All

Hugs for anyone feeling down. There seem to be quite a few at the moment. Here's to lots of October BFPs to cheer us all up.

Fingers crossed for your scan Tinks. Please keep posting here (it makes stalking you easier)

Lots of positive BD vibes coming your way MV. I think it's time we evolved to have some sort of ovulation button that we could discreetly press to release an egg when our OHs are available and in the mood, then we could cut out the pressure to perform on demand. Actually, in my head I kind of visualised being about to shout "RELEASE THE EGG" at the right moment but, having thought about it a bit, a button would probably be less of a passion killer :rotfl:

Well done on handing in your notice Lilymay. Hope your future is much happier and less stressful

How did your meeting go tea lover? Fingers crossed all is well.

As for me, I think I'm 12dpo. Maybe. Signs suggest I may have ov'd the day after the scan that confirmed my mc. I'm not SSing. Oh no. Not me :whistle: I'm aiming to test on Friday, but there is a reasonable chance of me giving into temptation before then. Like tomorrow morning, for example

I love this idea..hilarious! :rotfl::T

tea_lover

Have googled (I know!) the SA results a bit further and it's really not looking good. According to a few different websites, and the Fit for Fertility book, we've got about less than a 0.1% chance of pg occurring naturally. And that's just to get a BFP, the odds of actually getting a baby at the end of it are even lower.

Am really impatient for the appt in nov (28th) now as I want to know what the results of the other tests are. If there's some sort of genetic problem explaining the poor results, we won't even be able to try ICSI.

Metranil_Vavin

Oh abis, massive hugs hon xx

I SO know how you feel, and I am sorry that you are in a sad place too. I pin all my hopes on a BFP too, whether or not I tell myself that I really shouldn't.

I also SS, test too early and drive myself mad. Then look what happened..I got a BFP, but within less thana week it was all over. So back to the drawing board and the crappy DTD which ends up causing OH to feel a failiure and me to have a knot of anxiety in my stomach.

Don't give up hope though until you get AF. Spotting can mean any number of things. xx

Metranil_Vavin

Tea I'm really sorry to hear about your husbands SA results.

x

mrsj28

tea_lover wrote: »

Have googled (I know!) the SA results a bit further and it's really not looking good. According to a few different websites, and the Fit for Fertility book, we've got about less than a 0.1% chance of pg occurring naturally. And that's just to get a BFP, the odds of actually getting a baby at the end of it are even lower.

Am really impatient for the appt in nov (28th) now as I want to know what the results of the other tests are. If there's some sort of genetic problem explaining the poor results, we won't even be able to try ICSI.

Tealover - big ((hugs)). That stupid book.... I should never have recommended it.... I really really hope you get some positive options at the appointment in November. How did the meeting with your boss go today??

Abis - big ((hugs)) to you too. I think I could be writing almost the exact same post in about a week. I want this so much and I have this stupid idea in my head that if I get pregnant on this cycle then I won't be so upset about the miscarriage, but if I don't get pregnant on this cycle then I'll be even more devastated about it

WHEN ARE WE ALL GOING TO GET PREGNANT??? AARGH!!!

I'm starting to think about a big career change at the moment, but I just can't bring myself to do it because it will involve lots of training and being pregnant at the same time would never work. And if I start it and then get pregnant, we'll have no money... etc... AAARGH again!