Trying for a Baby Part 8

mrsj28

MV - I know, when is somebody going to crack on and invent that pill??

My DH is the same - if I try and talk to him about it he says it puts more pressure on

Before we were ttc I think if somebody had said they were finding it difficult to have enough sex to get pregnant I would have thought they were just lazy or something....now I know it really can be an issue.

Ttc can have such a negative impact on your sex life - we haven't dtd since the day before ov now, it's like the pressure is off so I don't want it now. DH is the same!

I know it's not much consolation, but I do try and remind myself that when I got my BFP in August we hadn't timed it perfectly or managed three days in a row, or even every other day.

Big big hugs it is so frustrating - but I do understand how you feel and we are all here to support each other on this crazy roller coaster ride.

mrsj28

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

I so wish last months BFP could have been sticky

Me too. Hugs again xx

Metranil_Vavin

I appreciate that, thank you.

I just know that if I get my positive opk tomorrow am, I'm going to be fretting all day about not missing the opportunity to BD, and I know that when it comes down to it, it's likely to end up the same way as OH will be feeling under pressure and I'll be worrying about it. Auugh..think I need to go to bed.

time2deal

MV - sorry to see you so down tonight.

The whole BD thing is ridiculously hard. I had a big meltdown with DH a few months back when he accused me of only ever wanting to BD for 3 days a month. Really upset me as it isn't true all the time, but I can't deny I will make sure things happen when I ov.

Now he has no problem when I ask him, but I have to admit the passion is gone a little! Every now and then I make a point of asking when I and he knows its the wrong time... but then I think - am we only doing this now, so the ov times don't seem so odd!!

Anyway, crazy over-analysis. MV - remember, tomorrow will be better. hugs.

amyloofoo

So many hugs needed on here today, special giant super-dodgy hugs to MV and Tink :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I'll be thinking of you especially during your scan Tink and sending positivity and best wishes your way. MV, I really hope things look better in the morning. I think struggling to DTD and keep it not feeling routine is something that a lot of us experience while TTC. I wish last month's BFP had been sticky for you too, but your forever baby is coming soon. :grouphug:

Squirell - Congrats on the interview, so pleased that everything went well for you and fingers crossed for some good news.Hope the non-alcoholic wine tasted good, although you've got me fancying a casserole! I tend to only drink low alcohol wine these days as it's better for my headaches and waistline :rotfl: and there are some really good ones out there (although admittedly some are hideous).

TeamLowe: Your story about little niece's burps made me :rotfl: So cute!

tinkwings

[FONT=Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif]grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference. [/FONT]

abis21

BFN again this morning. Looks like I am out this month, so I will be the same as you next month with the DTD at ov time MV. I wish I could relax about it all, but I can't. At least I know that we did all we could this month, so its not 'our' fault. Just one of them things >sigh<

Feeling sad. Might have a wallow today. DH says its not over til AF arrives, but no point prolonging hope at this stage I don't think.

tea_lover

Aargh - meeting with scary boss at 9am :eek:... think calming thoughts!!

Got the second SA result yesterday and it was worse than the first one. Really low sperm count and v bad motility. There wasn't enough there for them to even test morphology.

Temp went right down again this morning so doesn't look like I did ov. on sat when I initially thought I had. OH away from thursday, although tbh I'm now thinking it won't make much difference anyway. I seem to be incapable of ov'ing with clomid (although annoyingly I could manage it without) and the SA results were so bad it really would be a miracle if we managed it.

We had a BD failure on sun for the first time ever. Now I'm too nervous to initiate sex in case the pressure is too much, or in case he thinks I'm only after him for his sperm, or in case he thinks it's pity sex to take his mind off basically having no sperm.

mrsj28

Tealover - good luck for today's meeting! Have said a little prayer for you

So sorry to hear about the SA results Do you have an FS appointment coming up to discuss what the options might be? ((Hugs))

Abis - ((hugs)) for the bfn I hope your DH is right and you aren't out yet, but I do know what you mean about prolonging the hope.

Tinks - great words, thinking of you sooo much for today's scan.

Squirrel - well done on your interview! How was the non-alcoholic wine?!

I think we all need a massive dodgy hug today :grouphug:

It's honestly no surprise that teenagers get pregnant so much. I don't think it's anything to do with them being 'more fertile', they just have sex all the time and don't feel the pressure like us oldies do :rotfl: (Obviously I do know about declining fertility, and teenagers not bothering with contraception etc etc, but still...)

PommeVerte

All of my friends say that they only fell pregnant the month that they had sort of 'forgotten' that they were TTC, argh i just feel like punching them in the face as they sit there and tell me that with their beautiful baby sat on the lap (just joking, i'm not violent honestly, i love my friends and their babies !!). But even when i try and relax and have loads of other stuff going on in my life, i still can't help but notice the ov signs !!

Aww ladies.... stay positive !!