He's been paying for webcam sex

Lotus-eater

Padstow wrote: »

It becomes a child protection issue if the children are allowed to see it, or it's left on the screen for them to see when the adult vacates the computer.

Which is nothing to do with this thread and everything to do with !!!!!! in general. Or sex toys, or anything adult and left out for kids to find.

But nothing to do with this thread.

moneysaymoneydo

Sorry but men have needs and what is so wrong with him watching this sort of thing not being funny but after 10 years a bit of newness always helps, ok him saying he wouldnt do it again he should have either stuck to his word or refused at the time, some men dont like their women when pregnant so seek affection (if you can call it that) elsewhere. Dont be thinking this is a first i would imagine he has a collection of po*n etc elsewhere and you should count yourself lucky he has only "virtually" j arthured as opposed to for real. Sorry i appreciate you are 30 weeks preg but you obviously know what he is like if you are suggesting you are open to things later on??? hmm with kids a bit late i think.

thegirlintheattic

Whilst I don't think it is cheating, I do agree it's a breach of your trust as you've asked him not to (though personally I'd consider that a unreasonable request).

However, don't listen to the 'dump him' lot on here. Every relationship post is dump him! Your 30 weeks pregnant and you've told us nothing to suggest he isn't otherwise a good father and husband.

janninew

moneysaymoneydo wrote: »

Sorry but men have needs and what is so wrong with him watching this sort of thing not being funny but after 10 years a bit of newness always helps, ok him saying he wouldnt do it again he should have either stuck to his word or refused at the time, some men dont like their women when pregnant so seek affection (if you can call it that) elsewhere. Dont be thinking this is a first i would imagine he has a collection of po*n etc elsewhere and you should count yourself lucky he has only "virtually" j arthured as opposed to for real. Sorry i appreciate you are 30 weeks preg but you obviously know what he is like if you are suggesting you are open to things later on??? hmm with kids a bit late i think.

Are you for real? She should think herself lucky that her husband has stayed faithful? You make it sound that men can't control these 'needs' that they have and if they need to go elsewhere for 'affection' (though i imagine it aint affection that he wants ftom these web-cam women!) whilst their partner is pregnant with his child i don't think he should be thinking twice about getting his partner pregnant!

Dunroamin

moneysaymoneydo wrote: »

Sorry but men have needs and what is so wrong with him watching this sort of thing not being funny but after 10 years a bit of newness always helps, ok him saying he wouldnt do it again he should have either stuck to his word or refused at the time, some men dont like their women when pregnant so seek affection (if you can call it that) elsewhere. Dont be thinking this is a first i would imagine he has a collection of po*n etc elsewhere and you should count yourself lucky he has only "virtually" j arthured as opposed to for real. Sorry i appreciate you are 30 weeks preg but you obviously know what he is like if you are suggesting you are open to things later on??? hmm with kids a bit late i think.

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Errata

Dunroamin wrote: »

Congratulations - you have won the prize for "Nastiest Post of the Year"!

I thought it was the most idiotic one, and that's a crowded field on MSE.
Possibly, when someone starts a thread such as this one, having apparently never posted anything anywhere on MSE previously during their entire membership, all manner of curiosities pop up and trolls clatter around.

*Louise*

thegirlintheattic wrote: »

Whilst I don't think it is cheating, I do agree it's a breach of your trust as you've asked him not to (though personally I'd consider that a unreasonable request).

?

'Sweetheart, please don't pay that woman online to chat, flirt and do 'X' for you while I'm heavily pregnant and not comfortable with it'

*Husband willingly agrees then does it behind wife's back*

That's unreasonable?? :undecided

cabriolean

moneysaymoneydo wrote: »

Sorry but men have needs and what is so wrong with him watching this sort of thing not being funny but after 10 years a bit of newness always helps, ok him saying he wouldnt do it again he should have either stuck to his word or refused at the time, some men dont like their women when pregnant so seek affection (if you can call it that) elsewhere. Dont be thinking this is a first i would imagine he has a collection of po*n etc elsewhere and you should count yourself lucky he has only "virtually" j arthured as opposed to for real. Sorry i appreciate you are 30 weeks preg but you obviously know what he is like if you are suggesting you are open to things later on??? hmm with kids a bit late i think.

Men have wants, he wants webcam sex, she is pregnant and needs to know that she can trust him. She told him she didn't want him to do it, he agreed not to then went ahead and did it anyway. If getting off is really a need, then he has a hand. Maybe they should discuss exactly what they each would consider cheating, for example non-interactive !!!!!!, magazines/pictures, but not videos etc. But he broke his word and if he's willing to lie about something she made clear was important to her, what else would he lie about?

thegirlintheattic

*Louise* wrote: »

?

'Sweetheart, please don't pay that woman online to chat, flirt and do 'X' for you while I'm heavily pregnant and not comfortable with it'

*Husband willingly agrees then does it behind wife's back*

That's unreasonable?? :undecided

I consider it unreasonable request to start with. I view what he has done as the same as watching !!!!!!, not as a form of cheating. Therefore I'd consider it unreasonable for either partner to request that they don't do it. Same as if the OP's OH had said "Oh, I don't like you using that rabbit, don't do it", I'd consider it unreasonable. I don't think it's reasonable for him to go behind her back to do it.

At the end of the day it's up to the individuals involved and the relationship they have.

Tom_Saunders

thegirlintheattic wrote: »

Whilst I don't think it is cheating, I do agree it's a breach of your trust as you've asked him not to (though personally I'd consider that a unreasonable request).

However, don't listen to the 'dump him' lot on here. Every relationship post is dump him! Your 30 weeks pregnant and you've told us nothing to suggest he isn't otherwise a good father and husband.

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I agree 100%