Pre empting noisy neighbour and asking them to keep it down?

Cat501

FBaby wrote: »

Where does it stop though? Can I spend all day farting in my office and stinking the place, but consider it is ok because it makes ME feel better and it is my right to relief gas and pressure to my stomach? Can I expect everyone to take on the smell and complain they are selfish if they don't?

:rotfl::rotfl:Maybe not ALL day......:D

CRANKY40

The OP asked a favour of her neighbours. They were happy to help. It just so happens that it's noise related....me and my neighbours do things to help each other all the time because we actually like each other. It's what neighbours do. Could you be quiet tomorrow morning while 'im indoors has a bit of a sleep. Sorry but it's just this little bit of shift work he has to do.

Fast forward two weeks.....Mr Next Door has gone to work, child is ill and mum can't get to shops. Maybe OP's husband is home because of his shifts and because they're all friends he would nip to the shops to get some bread and milk for his neighbour. Give and take....

adouglasmhor

TBH OP I would sweeten the deal, if you do home baking I would take some over or something like that.

Fire_Fox

thatgirlsam wrote: »

Would you really be ok with keeping quiet every weekend till the afternoon though? I take it you don't have children!

I know it was a one off for the OP and fair enough, but what if you lived next door to someone who did permanent nights?

All the nurses where I work who do nights are the ones who are able to sleep well in the day, or can cope well without too much sleep

I am child free by choice, couldn't stand the racket and any more sleep deprivation than I already have with chronic insomnia. I have lived in a house where three of us worked different shift patterns and we were considerate because work is essential but making noise at a given time of day very rarely is. I don't recall anyone expecting silence every time they were on a night or late, that would be equally unreasonable.

Wouldn't you rather people politely asked their neighbours to keep the noise down once in a while, rather than ending up killing someone because they were exhausted? I don't just mean medics, anyone who drives a car is a risk. It's not so many decades ago that neighbours would take a screaming baby off an over tired mother's hands so she could get some rest, and had respect for grafters.

JoeyG

Fire_Fox wrote: »

It's not so many decades ago that neighbours would take a screaming baby off an over tired mother's hands so she could get some rest, and had respect for grafters.

Are you talking about the 'c' word?




community obviously!

Fire_Fox

NewKittenHelp wrote: »

Out of interests, just what would you do about natural noise keeping you awake at the silly hour of 10am on a Saturday morning? Shoot the birds? Blow up a distant motorway?

I suppose you have to ask yourself whether it's reasonable for you to expect silence from all others around you on a Saturday morning? It doesn't seem that reasonable to me.

Who said they expected silence? In an apartment block you expect consideration, not silence. If someone is moving house early on a weekend noise is unavoidable, I've gone out and offered a couple of door stop before - they got through the fire doors more easily and the banging was reduced. I also introduced myself and said to knock if they wanted anything.

Mr_Toad

Idiophreak wrote: »

...At the expense of the quiet enjoyment of my own home? No, I don't think they have the right to make that "bit of noise".

No, my view of selfish is someone who puts their own enjoyment ahead of the enjoyment of other people. Which I think is more or less the definition of "selfish".

Excellent, so by your own definition of selfish you have established that your putting your own enjoyment of peace and quiet ahead of someone elses enjoyment is selfish.

I agree, that would be game over then. :T

Mr_Toad

Fire_Fox wrote: »

Who said they expected silence? In an apartment block you expect consideration, not silence. If someone is moving house early on a weekend noise is unavoidable, I've gone out and offered a couple of door stop before - they got through the fire doors more easily and the banging was reduced. I also introduced myself and said to knock if they wanted anything.

I agree that in a house or apartment block consideration for others is essential.

This thread seems to have wandered off topic as it was noise from children enjoying their own garden that under discussion.

Fire_Fox

masonn wrote: »

I agree that in a house or apartment block consideration for others is essential.

This thread seems to have wandered off topic as it was noise from children enjoying their own garden that under discussion.

The OP says their garden is only five metres away, I expect consideration from neighbours more than that distance away in my block. What is the difference between a child enjoying their own garden and my neighbour enjoying their own apartment?

thatgirlsam

Fire_Fox wrote: »

I am child free by choice, couldn't stand the racket and any more sleep deprivation than I already have with chronic insomnia. I have lived in a house where three of us worked different shift patterns and we were considerate because work is essential but making noise at a given time of day very rarely is. I don't recall anyone expecting silence every time they were on a night or late, that would be equally unreasonable.

Wouldn't you rather people politely asked their neighbours to keep the noise down once in a while, rather than ending up killing someone because they were exhausted? I don't just mean medics, anyone who drives a car is a risk. It's not so many decades ago that neighbours would take a screaming baby off an over tired mother's hands so she could get some rest, and had respect for grafters.

Of course people who live in the same house should show consideration for someone who works nights - especially as it is often that the person who works nights does so in order to pay the bills and ensure the comfort of others who live there!

However, I think it would be unreasonable for my neighbours to know my shift pattern and short of presenting them with a list of my shifts every month then they wouldn't have a scooby when I would be sleeping or awake

As a one off I think it is acceptable, if a little cheeky, to ask neighbours to keep the noise down. I don't think this should be a permanent arrangement, do you?