Partner keeps letting us down.

londonsurrey

I've read through the replies, and I don't think anyone is trying to make you feel bad. Believe you me, there have been some on this board, where people just give up, and it's a case of "Oh for heaven's sake, you silly b*nt" type replies. But it's NOT the case here.

We care, and we care enough to reply and to point out other ways of responding to him and to view the situation, and to want good things for you.

Dunroamin

dottydee854 wrote: »

He is 24 years old and we have been together 3 years. Why? x

Well, for a start, as appalling as his behaviour was, it would be very much worse if he were 20 years older!

dottydee854

Oh no.i didn't want to imply you guys made me feel bad! Sorry if i gave thst impression your opinions and advice has been comforting and suppoetive. We have tslkwd and i asked for some space so we can try figure out whats best. I will look at the link when I have the laptop x

dottydee854

Yes ur knows how to make me feel bad. But I've had to.suck it up, as I need to figure out what to do. He has taken the laptop upstairs.now to sort moving out. Thanks for all your advice and understanding x

I mises a word it should say yes ur right. Stupid phone x

duchy

dottydee854 wrote: »

The development so far is he has apologised but only after i've mentioned he hadn't apologised. And i've told him we need to seperate to sort things out. I need to talk to CAB about what to do next. He has said his only option is going to Cardiff and leaving his job or sleeping rough and work. Neither is really] appropriate and i still care for him. I dont want him on the streets.

So he has eight mates who are happy to come to his home, drink and eat -but not one of them can offer him a spare bed or even a sofa ?

He's a grown up-he'll work out option 3 if you stand your ground.

EmmaHerts

GobbledyGook wrote: »

Everyone else may love him, but they don't live with him. The fact he has no-where else to go is not a reason to stay with him. What about all these fab friends who were comfortable enough in your home to smash your furniture - surely one of them will put him up for a bit?

Good point. If he is well-liked then he isn't going to end up on the streets, is he?

OP- I know it is easy for me to say, but I think you should leave him. You clearly don't feel safe in your own home. You call him your partner, but he isn't is he?