marriage & benefits helppppp

DuckEggGingham

If you marry your partner who is in the forces and decide not to set up in a married quarter with him at his posting then you will be classed as 'Married unaccompanied' You will NOT be able to claim everything that you are now as his wages will be taken into account. You will not be a single parent in the eyes of the government. Lots of forces families live Married Unaccompanied for different reasons maybe they have their own house, schooling, family etc... These families can't declare themselves as single parents and go on to benefits.

Hope this helps.

Pollycat

MiddyMum wrote: »

Blimey....:rotfl::rotfl:

I guess somewhere along the last few days you've lost your sympathy for people who work the benefit system.

midnight_express

bundly wrote: »

Midnight you are exhibiting the most offensive misogyny and child hatred.

If you think that people are wrong to have children then say so, and keep off threads that involve children because clearly you are prejudiced against anyone who has them.

I am female and a lifelong feminist so I don't know where you get the misogyny from.
I have nothing against children. I object to irresponsible people having children and then expecting others to foot the bill. On average I would think that lifestyle benefit claimants are unlikely to make the best parents. Remember the Shannon Mathews and Baby P cases ? In both cases the mothers were both women who had never worked and had large numbers of children by large numbers of fathers. Women who have children as a source if income are unlikely to make good parents. Baby P's Mum didn't want her kis taken into care because it would take away her massive income.

On the other hand I have known many educated hard working couples who have waited until they are well in their 30's to have children. These people have provided for their children and made great parents.

Also given how over populated this country is it would make more sense to pay people like the op not to have children.

margaretclare

kingfisherblue wrote: »

Feel free to continue in text speak, but some posters will give up reading - I find it very difficult to understand and really struggled with the above post.

Maybe it's my generation, but I can't understand it at all! I have a pretty good grasp of English language and grammar, but this, I can't understand.

In my first marriage when he was in the Forces, a lot of the time we didn't live together either. First I was a student nurse and living at the hospital, he was away with the RAF. Then he went overseas and I stayed behind to qualify. We did get together when I had the opportunity to join him in Cyprus, but when we came back, because of the branch he was in which moved him around every few weeks, I didn't follow him around then, we bought our first home and he came home at weekends. I used to get an 'allotment' from his pay. In the Forces it's pretty common to spend a lot of time apart - think Navy wives, people in Afghanistan etc.

If I understood what the OP was asking maybe I'd be able to give some kind of coherent answer.

mildred1978

bundly wrote: »

Nonsense!

Simply considering marriage does not stop her from being single!

Do we really need to apply further tests to this relationship?

The kids think of him as their dad.

Is she free to go out and pull other blokes? Probably not.

I daresay that they spend time together as a family and eat/shop/sleep together. They are contemplating marriage.

Is she single? Absolutely not.


Or to put it another way, when my husband is working away, and our son and I are at home, am I single?

midnight_express

trastor wrote: »

I would also ask why the government allows it when guys in the late teens/early 20's see nothing wrong in jumping into bed with any willing female? Does it mean that they are too 'in a relationship' and shouldn't be drawing benefits.

I don't see anything wrong in that - it's just normal. BH, I did it and I have no idea how many girls I could have made pregnant.

Sounds like you are the misogynist Andy. I should have spotted the troll.

debrag

Mummybobo wrote: »

no i am not saying that at all i am wanting to know how i stand for child ben workin tax n council tax as iv heard that u get a reduction on tax if one party is in the services and trying also to figure out which would be better in the long run.... to wait to get married til my son can go to school and myelf to work and also which would be better as for living arrangements if i kept my house i no i wouldnt be entitled to i.s but didnt no if the tax reduction would apply.... i have two toddlers and a house to keep so yh i will speak txt as most ppl understand it neway and its nitpicky if thats all ppl are guna pick up on.... also im blatently not a scrounger else i wouldnt be asking about what to do for the best ?!?:rotfl:

you will be classed as a couple and wont get HB or CTB I would have thought.

No most dont understand txt speak and I have to read your posts twice or very slowly to pick it up

debrag

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

Am I the only one who finds it more effort to type in text speak..it goes against all those English lessons to deliberately miss out letters

they are brought up to speak/talk/text in chav/txt aren't they? English goes out the window to them and is so much harder to understand.

Metranil_Vavin

..and which one's have magically risen from the dead

Pollycat

trastor wrote: »

I've never been anybody else other than grummps and trastor. What makes you say that?

The fact that a number of people (under your usernames Trastor and Grummps) seem to think you're a previous user called andy or andynflo.

These are just a few comments addressed to you (as Traster) on this thread:

Dunroamin wrote: »

Don't forget, andy has been here many, many times before!

mynameistallulah wrote: »

Getting a bit touchy are we Andy?

midnight_express wrote: »

Sounds like you are the misogynist Andy. I should have spotted the troll.

I have no axe to grind with you.
I can't recollect reading any posts from Andynflo (or whoever it was).
I remembered your post about your daughter and her kids as Grummps and it clicked that you were the same person.